Weaknesses

Nice topic but will receive very few response as most of us do not want to express openly our weaknesses. I am telling you frankly. My weakness is trust on each and everybody. Sometime people deceive me but I cannot leave this habit. My observation is that whenever I have trusted someone, he has left me alone after fulfilling his/her desire. Even after that I put mercy for him/her. I believe that this is his/her nature why should I leave mine. From the experience now I am trying to cutting down. Only after priliminary analysis I do believe someone. In your case it seems you have a feeling of insecurity. This has come because of your parents' separation. This separation has caused you disbelief. You cannot believe anybody without through investigation. This is must also upto some extent as you are girl and someone may misuse/misguide you. My request is to you to beleive on at least few person in your life and make friends them.

I'm sorry to hear about your parent's separation. I have the same weakness as you - I am a very untrusting person, but I don't have as good a reason as you for this. I think my reasoning just comes from everything we see around us these days - there is so much deceit going on in todays world, that it's hard to know who is trustworthy and who is not. My biggest weakness, however, is my unbelievable capacity to bottle up every emotion I am feeling. I cannot let others get close to me, and I do not express what I feel freely at all. If I am upset about something, I will keep it to myself, and if I am angry, I will keep that to myself as well. The only emotion I allow others to see is my happiness - and sometimes this happiness is a facade. I think maybe by convincing others that I am happy, I am trying to convince myself that I am happy - if I allow others to see my true emotions, I will have to find ways of dealing with them, where if I keep them to myself, i can ignore them. I realized this when I found a great quote from an Alanis Morrissette song "if I am aloof, no-one will know when they strike a nerve' - if I keep everything to myself, people will not see any weakness within me, and I will appear stronger. Of course, it doesn't really work that way, because by bottling things up, the emotions will have to come out one day, and I'm prone to emotional breakdowns at any unpredictable point in time... so I guess my weakness is not letting others know how I feel, because it weakens my state of mind in the long run.