Who gets to be the boss?

We don't have a "boss" in our relationship, either. We really don't see the need for one of us to be a boss over the other. To my wife and me, relationships should be about working together and helping each other out, not who is in charge and who isn't and should be following the lead. It's not a role that should really be defined; I think that in a true, working relationship the responsibility of everyday decisions and maintaining the relationship should rest on both individuals, because when it doesn't work then there can be a consensus or an agreement that all the positive efforts were made for the relationship.

I think there are no predefined roles. Those roles are established with time. But it's not so much about one being the boss...it's just that some people, men or women, have a more dependant personality, whereas others are like more bossy etc. But that doesn't mean that one is over the other, or that the person who is a bit more submissive is silly or such. With your man, you don't have to give him the lead, the relationship will tell you two that there are some things in which he decides, and others in which you decide...and that's how it must be.

Why dose there have to be a boss, we have a 50/50 relationship no one needs to be a boss of anyone, I would never allow anyone to be the boss of me in a relationship, if his freinds didnt see that he cared about your thouts as well than the ralationship is not good.

In our culture an in our country ... the relationship kind of things are strictly not allowed ... We have dignity of living for one ...even though we try to make some relationship ... it was not allowed by the society ...one cant live withou society ..where each and everone were tightly bonded .. we have to depend others and othere were depends ours ..its nor depends its mutual understandings ... even if relatioship is not here .. how can there be boss ... !!!