Who gets to be the boss?

@gotcho0O (1258)
United States
June 27, 2007 10:25am CST
When you're in a relationship, who gets to be the boss? They say that girls would always be the ones who run the relationship. But I'm giving it to my partner because I love him and I don't want his friends saying that he's under. And probably, his ego will get hurt if I'll turn over. Somehow, we're the boss also in a subtle way.
4 responses
• United States
27 Jun 07
We don't have a "boss" in our relationship, either. We really don't see the need for one of us to be a boss over the other. To my wife and me, relationships should be about working together and helping each other out, not who is in charge and who isn't and should be following the lead. It's not a role that should really be defined; I think that in a true, working relationship the responsibility of everyday decisions and maintaining the relationship should rest on both individuals, because when it doesn't work then there can be a consensus or an agreement that all the positive efforts were made for the relationship.
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@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Kudos for you. Thanks.
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
27 Jun 07
I think there are no predefined roles. Those roles are established with time. But it's not so much about one being the boss...it's just that some people, men or women, have a more dependant personality, whereas others are like more bossy etc. But that doesn't mean that one is over the other, or that the person who is a bit more submissive is silly or such. With your man, you don't have to give him the lead, the relationship will tell you two that there are some things in which he decides, and others in which you decide...and that's how it must be.
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@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
27 Jun 07
And that's how it works. Thanks.
• India
27 Jun 07
In our culture an in our country ... the relationship kind of things are strictly not allowed ... We have dignity of living for one ...even though we try to make some relationship ... it was not allowed by the society ...one cant live withou society ..where each and everone were tightly bonded .. we have to depend others and othere were depends ours ..its nor depends its mutual understandings ... even if relatioship is not here .. how can there be boss ... !!!
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I can see you've got different culture there. What place is that anyway? Thanks.
• India
28 Jun 07
India ..........................................
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Thanks.
@mrsbrian (1950)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Why dose there have to be a boss, we have a 50/50 relationship no one needs to be a boss of anyone, I would never allow anyone to be the boss of me in a relationship, if his freinds didnt see that he cared about your thouts as well than the ralationship is not good.
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Right! Thank you.