How much do you trust

How much trust is there? - How much do you trust your colleagues?
@whyaskq (7529)
Singapore
June 27, 2007 1:32pm CST
your colleagues or working partners? I believe many of us have worked before, either it is employed or self-employed, in offices, workplaces or at homes. Whichever it is, we are bound to have working colleagues or working partners in the course of our work or when we are the employer. My question is : Do you trust your colleagues or working partners? How much do you trust them? Or do you not trust them at all? I trust my colleagues and working partners fully. I believe we need the trust to maintain a good cordial working relationship. However, I have observed from my workplace and at clients' office, not many people trust their working colleagues or even the bosses. Am I seeing things differently? Or is this the same everywhere? Do you trust your colleagues or working partners? How much do you trust them? Or do you not trust them at all?
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@sarfire03 (132)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I only trust them to an extent. There is a lot of back talking about people so I know I have to be careful because just about everyone hears about everything. However, if there is something I really want to talk about, I can. I know who I can trust and can't usually. There are too many high school kids around work that makes it hard to know who to talk to then.
@maddysmommy (16232)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I have worked in several different jobs and have found majority of the coworkers trustworthy. I must say though there have been a few whom I did not fully trust because of what they would say about me behind my back. Talking about others and downgrading them was often done in my last job (not by me) and it wasn't a nice place to work in either. Even when I applied and got the position within a bank, I was treated like an outcast because it was the first time that they hired a senior person from outside instead of promoting someone within. To cut a long story short, 10 other senior staff members put in a protest or shall i say wrote a letter (which they all signed) to the General Manager disputing my appointment i.e. qualifications, rate of pay etc and because Management backed the interview panel and their decision, I was still hired and their submission was rejected. What it really came down to is they did not like the idea of change i.e. hiring externally - they did not look at the fact that the interview panel hired the "best person for the job" and not someone who they thought deserved it because he/she worked for the bank for 10-15 years. They did not know who I was, where I came from and what I had to offer. It took several months to prove myself and slowly they saw that they actually hired the right person. Friendships were made but I was always weary about not getting too close to staff members. I would respect them, do what I had to do in my job and thats it. So in some respect I trusted them but not fully if you know what I mean.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
28 Jun 07
well in a sense you did not trust them you trust there ability to do there work and your ability to work with them to get the job done you showed a level of professionalism and so did they at my work we talked to our junior manager and supervisor at times laughed with each other and communicated with each other as far as work is concerned but to date me and my co-workers still don't like her and will never trust her
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
3 Jul 07
wow, maddysmommy, I am impressed by your perseverence. And I am sure those people would have see you in a different light. I would not have survived so many months.
@maddysmommy (16232)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Yup I sure did, and I did make two good friends out of it. I was happy to hear that the Bank was not happy when I left - they have yet to find someone good enough to replace me :):) makes me feel good to hear that!
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@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Apr 08
I am retired now but yes I did trust my fellow coworkers all except the branch manager who was bi polar and up and down and you never knew when she could turn on you in one of her down days so I just did not trust her at all.
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
4 Apr 08
What a comical way to describe your branch manager :)
@Sherifm (27)
• Egypt
28 Jun 07
Peronally, i do not fully trust anyone, in a group for example i would ACT as if i would trust my friends or group members but i always follow everything they do, and i always do something extra on the side behind their backs incase someone doesn't fulfil their task. I think this is the result of my personal experience of team mates not doing their job to the end.
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
That makes you a good worker :P I was like that too. I find it very tiring... On the other hand, any possibility your team mates takes for granted you will get the job done if they do not do it? I have seen this happening with my team mates.
@boknoy (39)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
not just my partners nor my colegues but most especially my friends... i usually give my full trust to them but eventually they broke the trust that i gave them.. like recently, i found out that most of them are using me. i know what they want... MONEY... as the saying goes.. money makes the world go round... i find it hard why they tend to ignore me whan in fact i alway give them what they want... but in a way i learned something from them... i learned not to give my full trust to them... they are good on you when your with them but when your not with them they say stuff against with you... and thats what really hurt me... i didnt do nothing to them but they give back to... they are a pice of crap... but thanks to them i learn not to give my full trust... know your friends first before giving them your trust....
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
Indeed it is a sorry experience having someone who betrays your trust. I guess the experience makes you wiser. lol. Thanks for sharing.
@nandans (1161)
• India
28 Jun 07
My problem is that I trust people very easily.. In this modern world, it is not acceptable..
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
That makes you a nice person. Perhaps you like to share Why it is not acceptable in today's world?
• India
28 Jun 07
I don't rust anone within a few days, it usually takes time before that happens, but when i do trust someone i hope i dont have to regret it
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
true, trust has to be earned. I agree with you. I normally do not regret trusting someone :P
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I am the type of a person who trusts easily. I mean I also have some tendencies to doubt people especially at first encounter. But I don't want to stress myself from the thought of mistrusting or trusting a person especially if he/she's my co-worker. I could be everbody's friend and I trust all my friends except if he/she does something that will ruin that trust. Two years ago, a new project team leader was hired in the department where I was assigned as researcher. The incoming personnel has a not-so-good reputation. Everybody in the office gossiped about that and to be honest, I was affected too thinking that she's really what the people labeled her. I didn't trust her at first but I found it myself that she's a good person - infact better than those who talked behind her back.
@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
ya, gossips tend to affect's one reputation. I feel you did right by not judging her. Many a times, I take the informal news at face value and assess for myself how true the words are. I have the habit of giving people chances to prove themselves.
28 Jun 07
Hi, Trust worthy should be in life for every human being.We can trust our colleagues & working partners, bosses etc. But the trustworthy should be capable to our limit.By trusting you cannot lend some huge money to your colleague or working partner, you need to get a signed stamped paper for getting back that money. So, if you trust somebody you should know much more about the capable of the others.
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
Trust vs capability. Great point to ponder. Personally, I tend to trust a more capable person, but depending on where the capability is inclined to. lol.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
28 Jun 07
Hello,whyaskq,i have just replied to your discussion about locking your drawer in workplace. I can tell you i trust my colleagues 100 %,i do not lock my drawer as i believe they will not steal anything from my drawers. My colleagues are trustworthy,i can believe in what they say most of the time as they do not create unnecessary rumors.
@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
19 Jul 07
Personally, I feel it is good to trust colleagues. I do not lock my office drawers too.
@squaretile (3831)
• Singapore
28 Jun 07
i fully trust my colleagues, and we are a tight bunch. i agree that in some places the office is like a lion's den. or a minefield - must be very careful where you step. step on someone's toes and it's like detonating a grenade!! but my office is like an 'inner circle'. the 13 of us might belong to different levels of hierachy but we lurvvvveee each other haha! the best team I've worked in so far. totally trustworthy to cover your back in dicey work situations, much less to mention with regards to personal belongings. even the cleaning aunty has become a real friend to us. she comes by every day to empty our bins and nothing is locked, unless it's confi files etc.
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
3 Jul 07
Hey, you seem to be enjoying your working environment a lot. Which industry are you in? Any vacanies for me? :p
• United States
19 Jul 07
I prefer to be open-minded and not judge people untrustworthy without cause. But I also agree with other people that it is good not to trust blindly. So I do have limits on what I trust people with. With something that is very important or personal to me, I am more cautious because it is my responsibility to be careful which is why people have to earn/show me they are trustworthy in those cases.
@estherlou (5017)
• United States
3 Jul 07
As you work with someone, and as time passes, you learn which ones will repeat what you say indiscriminately and which ones you can trust to keep your council. That is important to know. But people at work are just acquaintances...I only share personal stuff with some of them.
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@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
While working in the office before, I had set a boundary between myself and my colleagues. The office was a male dominated work and only two females were present including me. I can only trust them to some extent like dealing with the nature of our work. My boss trusted me to handle all his financial matter and this was one thing I can't divulged to my colleagues.
@matrixx (254)
28 Jun 07
hi there:) I trust my colleagues and working partner. I don't understand a reason of not trusting them. I trust every body unless he/she proves that I was wrong in trusting. otherwise, I trust people no matter what is being said about them or whatever their activities are if they are not against my trust:)
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28 Jun 07
With out trusting colleagues or working partners, it is very hard to complete the work, bcoz, if we are going to trust others only they will start trusting us. It is very important to have a good relation with our working partners to make our work easier. Since one person is always in deed of other persons(at work).
• India
27 Jun 07
I too trust my colleagues.But it is better not to trust anyone blindly.You can trust a person only when you know him well or there are some instances where you can trust a person at first sight itself.If you don't trust a person after you know him for a long time,then you are on the wrong lane and their wont be a cordial relation between you and your colleagues
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• Singapore
27 Jun 07
I pretend to trust lol. I don't even trust myself so what do you think? Certain people do exude a personality that encourages trust. So maybe I will have more faith that they can deliver. Maybe I will look at their track records too.:)
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@checapricorn (16049)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I trust easily people especially after knowing him or her better for a long time! but I ALWAYS set a limit to that trust!Its hard to trust FULLY!
@tezovhemo (360)
5 Apr 08
DONT TRUST NO 1 (((( well said ;)