When you visit friends and there homes are untidy,

I've done the same as you but must say I have one friend who's house is always a mess. I mean it's so bad that you can't sit on the sofa or any chairs because of junk piled on them. I've spent several days at different times cleaning her house. I've gotten so tired of doing it only to have it back the same way within a day or two that when I go over I clear a spot for ME to sit down and just leave the rest.

I have had that happen on several occasions and of course have been guilty of it myself. I do apologize for the clutter or if the floors aren't 100% I apologize for it, but I don't go around cleaning up, I think that is just overkill. I did know a person that her house was so filthy and she has three kids, it was so gross, her dishes would be piled up sky high in the sink down the counters and even on the stove and on the table. They would not do the dishes for the longest time until they totally ran out of room and be forced to do them. Her house stank so bad with the animals she has and I really hated going over there, but I went to see her not her house. Unfortunately her home was not conducive to visitation after a while because during the summer the odor is much more obvious. So, I just don't visit anymore. So sometimes in cases like that it is important to have a clean house.

haha yeah i have a few friends who acted like that. they'll be like apologizing because of the mess and start to try to clean it up. i'll be like "it's ok, my house is a mess too"..which is true lol. that's why i prefer people to tell me in advanced before they're coming so that i can tidy up a bit haha...

Most times when I was growing up, we'd visit friends homes and they were always messy. Noone acted like there was anything wrong with the mess. However, I suppose that the mom may have said something behind my back. She wouldn't have said anything to me anyway. Nowadays, I don't do lots of visiting. But, if friends are coming to my home, I always make sure things are neat and tidy before they arrive. Otherwise, I would be horribly embarrassed. Even if that person told me it was alright to have a messy house. Maybe it's just part of being a woman.

Ah, I think relations between good friends should not mind, if they are embarrassed, I will tell her with my house, the have a very clean

lol.. it does.. except i'm at the receiving end, in the sense that my house is untidy mostly.. and yeah, it is quite embarrassing!

There have been times when I visited a friend whose home is untidy. That's why I make an effort to call ahead of time before visiting and giving them at least an hour in advane to make it tidy.I think if you clean a house everyday it shouldn't take more than an hour to make it tidy. I like it when people call me ahead of time that way I have time to clean the mirrors again,burn candles, make sure I have an appetizer to offer the guest, and make sure that my children remember to move any toys that are not suppose to be in the sitting area. When they appologize for the untidiness I will say that's alright don't worry.

Its not the home that I visit but the person inside the home. But when I have visitors at home I try to be clean as much as possible of course I want them to be comfortable inside my house and at home in my home as well.

i always tell my friends don't clean up for me. i mean,it's just me,no big deal. some do so anyway though i insist they shouldn't feel they have to.