Dont pity me..I just had a bay today
By seksiconnie
@seksiconnie (1173)
Philippines
June 28, 2007 8:30am CST
sorry but i can't help it..maybe i can share this to you guys, i have mentioned before that my relationship is on the rocks..i t did happen today.. i broke up with my boyfriend coz i can't take it anymore.. there was once a message i read, the question runs this way: "would you love someone who Completes you? or a person who loves you Completely?", i chose the one who completes me and i am very disappointed of the outcome..and it really breaks my heart.. i just wish that one day i'll meet a person or the right guy who will love me completely..have a great day to all.
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13 responses
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
28 Jun 07
If you are looking for someone to complete you you may have a long search. Perhaps you need to know yourself better and understand yourself and that will help you figure out the kind of person you could be happy with. I would think that if you love yourself you would not need anyone to complete you. It is far better to give up a person you are not happy with because that opens the door for someone new to enter your life.
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
it is, i really thank you for sending me this message, i just hate it that i have to cry over it...and honestly it didn't feel good, im obviously hurt and i want to curse him for that, i think i know myself more and i would want to get married to the man i love and loves me in return, i was inspired coz other couples stays long than they expect it, but my situation is the opposite, i dont know i try to understand as much as i could but his too ignorant.. and its killing me.i thank you so much for your time and i really appreciate it, i can't smile right now coz im very depressed and im sorry,i know your a good person and thank you so much again.
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Thanks for the compliments. I would like to add that if you are comparing yourself to others, you will be able to finds lots of reasons to be disappointed. But you can choose to compare yourself to yourself as you were earlier. With this relationship moving into the past, you can ask yourself if you have learned anything or if you have grown some compared to how you were before the realationship. You can always use any setback to help you discover new things about yourself. In time, you will be fine, and that person you seek will enter your life.
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
god, you make me cry, i'd 4 bf's and he was my last..and they're all had different personality, i always make adjustments to make them comftable, i do evrything they want,maybe they get spoiled or something, but this guy is way too much for me, he said he had developments for his feelings to me, but i didn't see it, all i hear is an excuse and i always consider it since i dont want to argue with him?..and i end up, understanding it and instead of correcting it, he keeps doing and doing it again and i feel very much insulted,and im really hurt everytime he do it..
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@asmurthy (2461)
• India
28 Jun 07
I'd rather go for someone that loves me completely. Why? Because if he loves me completely then he knows me inside out... That person knows my weaknesses, my strong points and the things that I love and hate mosts. It is like complimenting each other.
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
i know very much that its pretty unfair in my part coz i was the one who loved him that much..its a mistake and i'd hope i will forget this soon and stick to the fair and two way. thank you.
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@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
28 Jun 07
You will meet that person, don't worry...you're so young. And about pitying you, no worries...we all have the right to have a bad day and vent a little bit. And our job as mylot friends is to listen to you and let you do that venting...hope you feel better soon hon.
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
thanks,i know that one of you will care.. maybe i just need someone to talk to..and im sorry,thank you for your time.
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
29 Jun 07
it's fine hon, that's what us mylot friends are for :). You write what makes you sad and we offer a shoulder, that is how it should be. Next day you might be the one helping another person out, one never knows...
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@molusk (857)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
seksiconnie, my friend. So sorry to hear about that.
I really would like to see that day, and I hope soon,
that you will meet a guy who will love you completely
for what you are. As a friend, it pains me to hear your heart breaks from a love affair which sad to say was of your own choice. If only I could help...
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
your message is enough of help..thank you and i appreciate it.
@pilotjune1972 (199)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Hi seksiconnie, i heard that phrase somewhere..and sometimes unexpected things happen. And most of the the time it happens for a reason, one door closes and another door opens, that's just life..I just wish that someday the right guy will come walk at your doorsteps and you'll open it when he knocks ("wink") :)
@abiesm (373)
• Vietnam
29 Jun 07
hmm.. Just my opinion .
a person who love u completely will try to make you happy, because seeing you happy is his happiness .
but a person who want to complete you will try to make you perfect in his life. He don't mind if you're happy or not.
So if I'm in this situation, I'll choose the person who love me completely.
I want to be happy , not to be a PERFECT person ^^
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
true,that my mistake of pursuing a relationship that will hurt me deep in the end.thank you.
@tombiz (2036)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
It's good that you finally let go of this person. Now to your question. I think both are important elements in a lasting relationship. As much as possible, we should choose a person who completes us and who could alson love us completely. However, if I have to choose only one I will choose somebody who loves me completely.
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
true..and i should've realize it at first.. but i said to myself that i'll take whatever consequences it may cause..and now its just too much to bear.thank you and i appreciate it.
@sumofalltears (3988)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Sorry to hear that, but it is better to move on while you still can. To be honest, the word complete and love are not always capable of coexisting even in different meanings. Look for a best friend first because that is how a good relationship starts and ends.
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
i really appreciate you guys are helping, i have nobody to talk to thats why im so eager to post it here..my friends and family are in different city and im glad that you help respond and make me feel better somehow..i wish i can find soon..and the thing about the message is you cant force a guy to be head-over-heels in love with you..so i guess it takes time and i want to get rid of what im feeling right now,its not comforting me,it hurts alot,it hurts to the bone.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
28 Jun 07
There is no reason to stay with a boy friend if you are not happy. I believe you need to find someone to make you happy. I have been married for 30 years. So days it is good and other days it is horrible. He is not bad to me, for years I supported us while he farmed, then he sold real estate, like that brought in any money. Then he went to work for where he is working now. I am now disabled so he is supporting us. But he just does stuff to bug me, I do not know if it is him or just me. He is selfish and some days I just can't stand it other days I it does not bother me. I guess it is me.
Good luck you desever someone who will make you happy
@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
thank you,it is normal to have arguments, but this time we're not even arguing..it's like it's to be done that's why i feel bad about it and as if he's waiting for it to happen.
@Deathknight_31 (500)
• Pakistan
28 Jun 07
well we find someone who loves us completely then he can make us complete , cause he will know you more than any1 else better so he can easily complete you :) ... well i dont know much about this thing ... sorry :(
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
its ok, your message lessens the burden i have right now..thank you so much and i really appreciate it.
@Lord_Romer (31)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Oh girl...
believe me I can feel you're pain...
it's been almost 2 decades and it still hurts, as if my heart is full of small needles...
anyway, Someday you'd get over it...
if you invested too much on this relationship as I did, i'm sure it will hurt you deep as hell...
meaning, years have passed and you still feel your ex...
I would'nt be surprised if you give him another chance when he crawls back to you...
If you're going to ask me the same questin, I'd pick the same as yours,
To love someone means you are willing to take everything that goes with it, all the good and all the bad...
Loving someone is much like gambling...you win some you lose more..I know it sucks but that's just the way it goes...
I can only hope that someone will pick you up, cheer you up and won't break your heart as your ex did..
-The King of Reason and The Leader of None-
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@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
thank you,i always lose in the end, i feel like winning at first but i totally lose it.. i wish he can find me soon.
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
29 Jun 07
You will meet the right person and you will know it instantly! Love is a funny thing it sneaks up on you when ou aren't even looking. So chin up and remember we meet many people in our lives and we learn from each one.
@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
thank you, i will and i'll make sure that he finds me..take care.
@joahnna18 (368)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
loves you completely of course.. don't feel very sad because all of us also experienced being heart broken.. maybe he is not the right guy for you for now. you don't have to wait for the right guy for you.. it will come when you didn't expect it.. i hope your ok now..
@seksiconnie (1173)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
i would want to be ok and i hope the right guy will find me soon,thank you and i appreciate it.
