I am depressed today. . .

@Aurone (4757)
United States
June 28, 2007 10:54am CST
Usually the prozac keeps it at bay, but today I woke up crying. I don't mean to complain and thanks in advance for bearing with me, but I just feel so lonely sometimes. My husband works a lot (he is a grad student) and I never see him and he never spends time with me. Right now I am not teaching since its summer and I just feel lonely. Thank the Goddess for my cats. Anybody else get lonely like this? What do you do to combat the depression?
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11 responses
• United States
28 Jun 07
I know exactly how you feel and I even have 4 kids at home with me, but I still get the sense of feeling lonely during the day when my hubby is at work. Maybe you should take up a part-time job during the summer to keep you busy. I know some teachers tend to do that to bring a little extra money in and to help pass the time until school again. Or take up a hobby, like crocheting, sewing, something to keep you occupied. Ask your hubby to take a day off and spend some time with you! You deserve it!
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Thanks. I should pick up my cross stitching. I haven't done it in a while.
• United States
28 Jun 07
I don't get lonely but I used to get depressed. I have found walking with small weights has helped me. I go for a long walk around where I live and that helps me. I so sorry for how you feel, but I completely understand. It can get really tough at times. I also understand about husband working long hours. Take care and may God Bless.
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Thank you for the suggestion. I am at my in-laws house and their mailbox is quite a distance from the house and it is nice out. Perhaps I will walk some mail down there. That might help.
• United States
28 Jun 07
Hi Aurone, I know about loneliness and depression. I have found that when I am bored, my loneliness creeps up and adds to my existing depression. I look for things to do like reading, painting, drawing, messing around on the computer, etc. But even those activities can become boring. Perhaps you can find some activities that you enjoy and have prticipated in in the past. Maybe try something new, take a summer personal improvement class or something like that. It couldn't hurt to try. I also have three dogs that help. I'm glad you have your cats. But even pets, at times, are not enough. Try volunteering. Perhaps there is something you can do with your husband when he has time off. Make a special romantic dinner, plan an evenng on the town or something like that. Just a few suggestions to chew on. Good luck and let us know how you are doing.
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Thanks for your suggestions. Its being bored that sometimes gets me too. Its great that their is such good people on mylot. Being part of this community certainly helps.
• Kottayam, India
28 Jun 07
Dearest Aurone, I could have given company but distance too much to come near you. any way tell your Hus we are very much angry with him for not giving company to you.
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Believe me, you aren't alone. I also teach, although I just finished with my job this spring. I have always been off for the summer and I have found that I need to make an adjustment to accommodate my freedom. I started a blog and that keeps me busy and I also get some books to read that I didn't have time for when I was working. I also post here and that helps. I also exercise every day and that really makes a big difference in my mood. Also, I volunteer for various things from time to time. I've worked in a hospital and I've volunteered for community projects. If you love animals, you might think about volunteering at an animal shelter. Giving of yourself to others is a great way to boost you spirits. Mostly though, just know that you are not alone.
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Its hard to adjust. I go from being super busy because I am an adjunct and teach at three different community colleges to having lots of free time. You'd think that would be a good thing. I can relax and stuff, but since I am an extreme extroverted personality the time alone is not good on my psyche. I glad someone else knows what I am talking about. Have a good summer.
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@nolipo (407)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I get like that sometimes. I did especially when my ex was in Iraq for 2 years. But like you I had kitties to keep me company. One thing I learned through many a depressive state is to try not to isolate yourself. Do you have friends you can hang out with or call just to chat. (try not to talk about how you feel so much as to drive them away, but talk about things to take your mind off the depression) Try to get out and be around people if you can. I know that sure helped me.
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I get depressed a lot, although I rarely feel lonely. I usually have a house full with the kids here and sometimes appreciate any time that I can be alone. Sometimes you don't even need to be alone to be lonely though. As for the depression, sometimes walking helps, and sometimes it can help to listen to some upbeat music. Sometimes I call a friend. Sometimes I can't find anything that helps me either.
• United States
30 Jun 07
I think any of us who have depression have our bad days. I know there are many days I wake up feeling quite sad and alone. I stay at home with my children, and I too, get lonely. I love my children, and we do have fun, but playing with the babies is not the same as spending quality time with your spouse, or a close adult friend. I find that if I make excuses to get out of the house - I'm also agoraphobic, so this is difficult for me, I do not feel so isolated. My mood seems to pick up, so that I don't feel so sad. I try to take my dog for a walk every night. She has a tendency to put on weight, so even though I don't like to leave the house, I try to place a lot of importance on maintaining her health. Another thing that has seemed to help me more than I could ever explain, is that I keep the window shade up at least a foot, so in the morning the sun shines directly in the room. It's great to wake up with such beautiful, warm light every day. In fact, I have been able to get out of bed every day, in the morning, for a little over a month doing this. Before there would be about 3 to 4 days a week I would lay in bed alllll day long.
@Aurone (4757)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Sunlight does seem to help. I have been really isolated because I am at my In-Laws and everyone has been going out to work including my husband as he is helping his father build a house and thus leaving me all alone in the house all day. Usually I would go out with my friends once or twice during the week and wouldn't feel so isolated. We are going home on Monday, so maybe familiar surroundings and seeing my buddies will help lift my mood.
29 Jun 07
Sorry to hear you are feeling lonely. Everyone gets like that at times. I usually take the dogs out for a long walk if I am feeling down. If the weather is bad, then I will either meditate or do a Reiki self treatment. If you ever need a friend, send me a pm and I'll chat with you.
@AhsetBoy (93)
• Indonesia
29 Jun 07
keep your happy..don't be dpressed..ok you have a beautiful mind
• United States
28 Jun 07
i wish i had the awsner but i dont. i have the depression to along with anxiety, ocd and panic disorder. i really wish i knew. im not on any meds right now either cause i dont have the money for them. the computer hlps some to keep my mind on something. i try to hang out with my friends and go out it seems to help a lil.