Manners in Children

@sharon_ (1171)
United States
June 28, 2007 1:42pm CST
How old do you think children should be to start teaching them proper manners?
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• United States
28 Jun 07
I would say right around 2. They understand no, please and thank you by then
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
A good age to start.
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
28 Jun 07
as soon as they could understand the word 'no' i stared teaching my daughters simple things like please and thank you...it doesnt have to be everything at once, just the basics at first when they are very young and when as they grow, you teach them more...
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Lots of patience too..
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@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I started teaching my kids manners right away. By the time they could talk, they were always using manners saying please, thank you, sorry, bless you ect. As my boys got older, they didn't give a second thought about opening the door for someone or stopping by the neighbors to help him while working in the yard. It is never too early to teach children manners.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I bet your neighbors were very thankful for your boys help.
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Yes, my boys were very helpful to an elderly gentleman who lived next door to us at our old house. They still go over to his house and trim his hedges for him. He knows if he needs anything he can call and they will go help him.
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@Titanum (98)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
children should be taught from the word go, the second they are mature enough to understand right from wrong they should be taught. I see a lot of children acting up, and yes boys will be boys and girls will be girls, but there has to be a line drawn as to how they act especially when there are other people to be considerate of. Shopping malls are the worse. I hate going shopping through the day, children run around and scream and bump things over and touch things they shouldn't. run infront of my legs, and let me tell you, it is hard to slow down when you stand at 6'1 and walk pretty fast. I suppose its all a part of growing up and i know i would of been one of those, but they need something to help keep them amused. Children learn what their role models teach, so it shouldn't be hard to teach them at an early age, as long as you stick to the manners rules when you're around them. If i ever have children, i will be ensuring that they are as well mannered as they can be, but without restricting them from making their own choices in that regard.
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Everything you have said here is so true. There are times when there is actually some type of medical or even an emotional problem. Say like ADHD. For the most part it is just parents that don't discipline their children from the very beginning.
@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
For me, as long as they are old enough to understand...say as early as 2 or 3 years old. This is now the time of socialization years, where children will start to interact with others--neighbors, friends. For me, the child should be taught early rather than wait for grade school years. Manners in the table, in dealing with playmates, in dealing with neighbors and relatives, washing up before sleeping, about not making noise when someone is asleep, knocking at someone else's door before entering, these are a few little things that we can teach our children. Try it...the sooner you do, the better.... best of luck...
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I agree. I used the same approach during the time I was raising my own children and they turned out to be great adults.
• United States
29 Jun 07
I started teaching mine when he turned 1. He couldn't talk then but I taught him sign language. I taught him to sign "please" and "thank you". He's 2 now and can say the words and still does the sign every time he wants something or is done with something. The next thing I want to teach him is to say "excuse me". All I can say is lots of patience and consistency.
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
30 Jun 07
You taught him a little bit of sign language? That is so awesome!
28 Jun 07
I think that we keep learning all our lives and children learn from the moment they are born.so the first thing is to be well behaved yourself so the child does not learn the wrong manners.second,I think that as soon as they start speaking and understanding some basic commands,discipline and manners should be taught.This is importnat because from 2 yrs old,they get into the exploring mood and don't really understand why they should not do a certain thing/behave a certain way unless they do smething and get reprimanded for it.so the younger the better and gentler methods get one good results.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I really like your approach concerning this subject...
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I've always started teaching them this right from the beginning. Even when they are too little to really understand they are at least being exposed to it. Then it is just normal for them to use manners when the are old enough.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Communicating to children at an early age is very important.
@horsesrule (1959)
• United States
28 Jun 07
The kids seem to learn manners easier when we say please and thank you to them when they do things for us. And right now, my two year old grandson [whom I live with] says "thank you" in such a cute way when he wants you to do something for him. He's almost using it the right way! And its just so cute when he says it! He's learned that from both me and his mother because we say it to him when he hands us things. So, manners can be taught pretty young by example first.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
This is also a good approach. It is a way to not be "too demanding". Children have very little patience.
@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I started teaching my daughter manners as soon as she could understand language. Right now the big thing I'm trying to teach her is please and thank you. She's 20 months and has been doing really good with it. I think it's important to teach good manners from a young age so we don't have demanding little children running around.
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@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I have to agree with you on that one.