Did your mom do this too?

My grandma did. She was very insistant on that with anyone that addressed her formally. She wouldn't even open mail if it did not have her with my grandpa's name on it. If someone from the family did it she would call them up and yell at them*L*

My mom had so many husbands I don't even remember all their names, so she didn't do it. =p However, many of the older people I knew did it, and it drove me nuts! I just don't understand that mentality there. Don't you still have a name? Aren't you still a human being in your own right once you are married? It just seems like a custom for people who are completely absorbed by their relationship, and it never struck me as being healthy or positive at all. Maybe I'm just not good with the old-fashioned stuff. I often recieve letters addressed to Mr. and Mrs. (my husband's name), even from older people I know sometimes. It's really funny for me since I didn't even take his last name.

I never saw someone who did that. Maybe it's not in the culture of my country. Or maybe somewhere else in canada they do that, but not here. Or if someone did, I don't remember :P

My mom did that also. She would write a note to the school and sign it Mrs. Carl Basile. I just sign the notes with my first and last name. It is funny how things have changed.

I can't rememebr ever hearing my mother refer to herself that way but I do remember getting in trouble in grade primary from a mean teacher while trying to explain to her that my mother's name was not Brian. At the age of 5 I found it very offensive for someone to call my mother by a boys name.

I always though it was odd, because some of my friends mom's did it, but neither my mom, nor my grandmothers, nor my great-grandmothers (the two ones I actually got to meet in my lifetime) did this. It actually shaped some of my opinions as far as the treatment of women as equals. I remember talking with my great-grandmother about how she would argue with one of her husbands (she had buried a few, well, she lived to be 96 so you'd kinda think so) about wearing slacks--- how unlady like it was, but she was going to do it anyways. My grandmother would minister at the local four-square church, and really showed strength and leadership there, so I had some examples of strong women in my life. It made me, as a man, look more for a partner in my life, and for my wife. I consider myself a bit strong willed as well, so I didn't want someone to walk in and take over. But what I did want was someone who would tell me to my face when I am wrong, and stand up to me. To be my equal. Found her too. = )