Smoking behind your partners back

Australia
June 29, 2007 3:33pm CST
Last night we went to a friends house to visit and my partner and my friends partner went to the shops quickly to get something and my friend as soon as they left went outside and lit a smoke, she told me that she had told her partner that she had given up so she couldnt have one while he was at home and was busting for one..... what do you think about this, is that really fair? Is she only lying to herself?
4 responses
• Pakistan
30 Jun 07
well i use to smoke some tiime in the office but my parents dont know about this. this is very embarrasing for me and i feel very bad i am not a obdient child. can any one of u help me out leaving this thing. i am not a habitual of smoking but its just ma kind of passion. help me...!!
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I have a friend who has been with her now husband for about 14 or 15 years. (They dated for 13 before getting married) She smokes, he hasn't a clue. Thing is... she figures he knows and he probably does know but she pretends he doesn't and he never says anything. It's just become standard. They'll be at home together and she'll go out on the patio and smoke and he's upstairs in the living not even knowing that's where she is. Sometimes that's part of a weirdness in a relationship.
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@Amstardam (1348)
• United States
29 Jun 07
It's totally unfair. My husband did that to me once, but I caught him. Lying to your significant other can ruin a relationship. We talked it out and things are okay, but what's the point in lying? If you're struggling with something, your partner is there to help you through that.
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• United States
29 Jun 07
That's not fair at all. My husband was smoking behind my back after we quit together, and I was more mad about the fact that he was lying than the smoking. Tell your friend that they should be honest with their partner. It will suck worse for her if they find out on their own.