Should partners have a say on what we do to our bodies?
By lena2000
@lena2000 (2392)
Belgium
June 30, 2007 1:15am CST
On one hand I think, no, it's my body and I can do with it what I like but on the other hand, I wouldn't want my husband to get a p*nis implant or something like that. I'm going to sit on the fence with this one but I am interested what other people have to say.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
It clearly depends. Maybe they could just suggest or critic. But not impose.
I mean, who's the best person to tell you the truth about how you look if it's not your partner. What if you look like a clown, isn't it their responsibility to stop you from humiliating yourself?
Not everything I guess is being imposed on. Plus you are his partner. He'd only want what's best. Unless he's a selfish pig.
For me, I don't mind that he suggests what is good for me. In the first place, he's the one who keeps on looking at me.*LOL*. But if ever I don't agree with what he's suggesting, He's ok with it. He knows where his limits are.
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@lena2000 (2392)
• Belgium
30 Jun 07
Even if the decision is yours, I think that your SO should have some input before you make that decision. Both of you may be affected by the decision. So both of you should weigh the pros and cons, assess the health risks, and discuss the alternatives.
But, like the captain of a ship, you are the master of your own body. So the ultimate decision is still yours.
At the same time, though, your SO doesn't have to like your decision or live with it. He/she is free to make his/her own life choices depending on what your decision is. Similar to your choices, your SO is master of his/her own choices. So ultimately his/her decision about his/her future with you is still his/hers.
@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
I would hope my partner would mention most things to me, but if things have been mentioned in the past then there's no point in asking again before it's done.
If for example my boyfriend were to go get his, err, area pierced, I would hope he'd consult me first because I'm not sure I'd feel quite as comfortable with that as he might think I am, but if he went and got another tattoo I'd be fine, since we both know we both want a few more.
My boyfriend's pretty good at consulting me about everything, though.. even a haircut or shaving his facial hair -- although I never asked him to.
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@lena2000 (2392)
• Belgium
1 Jul 07
So, what's the issue here? Whether what your partner says should sway your decision about what you do with your body?
Sure. Let them give their opinion. Nothing wrong with that. Then make your own decision.
I couldn't imagine being with someone who thought that they would be the "last word" in what I do with my own body.
@tuhpaul (475)
• India
30 Jun 07
True its your body u can do what u want but then u should allow him to do what he feels he wants to do with his body and you should not then make a noise aboutit-that is if you both agree mutually to what u feel right then its okay other wise not because you both are for each other-dont u think so ,my friend?
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
30 Jun 07
I think that it all depends on the situation. If it is something that will affect the both of you, I think that it is a matter that should be put on the table for decussion.
You weigh the pros and cons and be honest with each other about how you feel about the issue and do your best to come to a compromise. i don't believe that just because a man is head of the household, he should be able to just snap his finger and the woman automatically agree with him.
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@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
1 Jul 07
I think that whether its a small or big adjustment you should always run it through your husband. If its a tattoo, I think you should be allowed to make the decision youself, but atleast tell your husband before going out and doing it. But say its a cosmetic surgery, your husband most deffinately deserves input, its not like your just gonna go out without telling him and get a nose job. I think he atleast deserves some warning, since hes the one thats going to see it every single day.
