disciplining our children

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Philippines
June 30, 2007 4:17am CST
I am a newly wed wife, not yet a mother but hoping to be one in few months from now. I just wonder why there are some parents who could not afford to scold their kids when they need to... Please share your experience regarding disciplining/scolding your kids. If you did, do you regret doing so? If not, do you wish you did? I want to know your opinions regarding this matter.I want to learn from your experiences. Thanks!
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@student7 (1002)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Whenever my children started acting up in public, either my husband or I would drop everything we were doing and took them to the car. They learned once that if they acted up in public, they were going to the car and put in time out and they would be embarassed about it and they never acted up in public again. The other thing is put them in time out. Have them drop everything, turn off any televisions and pick a spot in your home for them to sit and be in time out for a period of time, for young children, make it five minutes. After they are out, ask them if they knew what they did and discuss why they are in time out and why you did not like what they did.
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• Philippines
30 Jun 07
I think this is an effective technique. I will surely adopt this in the future. Thanks, student for sharing your experiences. God bless!
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• United Arab Emirates
30 Jun 07
I scold my 2+ yr old son when he does something wrong like beating other kids etc. I will explain to him that what he did was wrong and that he should not beat other kids. We should always teach our children good habits and manners. For that scolding becomes essential sometimes. It is for their good. If we ignore such small things now and do not scold our children and tell them what is right and what is wrong, then we are not doing right. Take care of children and help them grow as good human beings.
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yea. Indeed, parents are responsible of what their children will be in the future. Thanks for your opinion.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
I'm a mother of 2 aged 10 boy and 8 girl. I used to talk to them everytime they make mistakes but sometimes can't help to scold them if they repeatedly do it. There were times that i regret doing it if tears were rolling down on their faces. My heart breaks when i hear them crying. By the time you have your child, everything will change, your priorities will be focused to them.
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• Philippines
30 Jun 07
hi juliefaye!thanks for your response. I guess communication is very essential in disciplining children.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Jun 07
I am not a mother.But I am an aunty to some kids from my uncles..!! And I handle their kids very well...!! By loving them by correcting them my scolding them and also sometimes by slapping them too..!! belive it or not some kids do needs some slapping..!! Its necessary in some cases..!! But I don't know if I would be able to do that same with my "own" kids or not..!! Things changes when it comes to your own kid..!! But I'll try not pamper my child ever..!! :)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
same her, stella!I am an aunt of many nieces and nephews. I guess, disciplining our children in a proper way won't let them die.. Thanks for your insights!
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• United States
1 Jul 07
This is a hard topic to respond to because different situations call for different disciplinary methods. I try not to spank my kids if I can help it. In fact, it's been so long since I've spanked one of them that I don't even remember when the last time was. I prefer to use time-outs and grounding when my kids do something wrong. The time-outs work great for the younger kids, but the grounding is starting to lose its effect on my nine year old. After using any form of discipline on my kids I feel a little guilty but I don't let that overcloud my judgment or my decisions on how to discipline. After have a good talk with my kids after their punishment, those feelings usually disappear because talking with them helps to remedy the situation.
• India
30 Jun 07
its no bad scolding our kids. it'll make them respect us in future. if we dont scold them whn they r kids they'll never respect us whn they grow
@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 07
hey there! Welcome to marriagehood! I am a mother of one and expecting another one due in October. My firstborn is 3 years old and I do believe that giving a scolding is necessary and believe it or not, i do spank him when he is on his utmost intolerable behavior. He is spoiled most of the time, but his aunts, uncles and grandma would not tolerate any rudeness of any sort. So if he starts screaming, biting and slapping people (for no apparent reason, other than not getting his way) then he will definitely receive a spanking. Growing up with 4 other brothers and sisters, my parents did spank us, and give us a scolding all the time. Sometimes my parents will take out their belt for spanking time and we would know we'll really get it that time. But in no way did we ever feel abused or wronged by our parents. In fact, we knew that we wouldn't get spanked if only we had behaved. but nowadays, parents are more afraid of their children in terms of hitting them because of the law and also the way their children might retaliate and rebel. Well, you've got a while to think about it.. i hope you get there soon! All the best to you on your marriage and hope you reach motherhood soon!