My son still wets the bed

HELP Night Wetting - My son still wets the bed HELP
@vicki2876 (5636)
Canada
June 30, 2007 9:51am CST
I have tried all the little tricks and home remedies you can think of but my 8 year old still wets the bed. I have two other childer 11 and 6 who stopped wetting the bed by age two but he still can't stop. He also has had some other special needs, speech, vision, asthma, heart murmur, twist bowels, behaviorial, social challenges etc.(I had chickenpox while I was pregnant with him). It seems like most methods work for a while but once he gets used to it he is back to wetting again. Any tips you can give me to try would be great
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@dfollin (24216)
• United States
30 Jun 07
My sister had that problem till she was about ten and one of my son's had that problem till he was twelve.My daughter still has the problem and she is ten.When my son had the problem,the doctor gave him a medicine tha was in an inhailer and it was expensive,but did not work with him.I didn't let him and don't let my daughter drink after 8:00 pm and go to the bathroom before going to bed and they eventually grow out of it.
@dfollin (24216)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Iam just waiting for my daughter to stop.At least now they have Goodnight's and the store brands that are cheaper of Sleep Pants.It save's on laundry,changing sheets and kids clothes.They did not have them when my son was younger and my sister.I found the medicine to be a waste of money and it was $125 a month and that was in the late 1980's.It is kind of a pain,while your actually going thru it,but you said your son had other conditions that sound worse to have to deal with.I guess the only way to look at it is there are people worse off then us. God bless,take care and good luck.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
Thanks for that. I have been afraid of giving him medicine for it. There are allergies at our house including some medicines so I try as much as possible to stay away for fear of a serious reaction. I do the can't drink after 8 thing too. It is reassuring that others do experience this and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
@dfollin (24216)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Thanks for the best response vote.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
30 Jun 07
if he is wetting the bed at 8 it may well be worth letting a dr have a look at him. Often continued bed wetting at this age can be a sign of dyslexia or another developmental condition. Hope its all ok blessed be
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
Thanks, we have checked for dyslexia. My sister has it. We know that he has damage to the right side of his brain that is the cause of his challenges. My other childern don't have anything like it. Thanks for your kind words!
@dfollin (24216)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Well,my son that bed wet has partial dyslexia.His father has dyslexia.Is fourty four and can't read a word.He did not bed wet.My sister bed wet and was not dyslexic.
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• Australia
1 Jul 07
I agree with you ESKARENA1 ! It is also very important to get a professional to have a talk to your son, sometimes these sorts of issue can be psychological...... Imagine if your son has to go to school camp one day, he would be so embarassed if he wets his bed, his classmates may laugh at him and his ego may go way down. I hope you child recovers from this problem, it has to be looked at seriously. My cousin is at an age of 3 and she doesnt even need nappies at night when she sleeps, she just goes to the toilet before she sleep, thats all... hope it all turns out fine for you and your child and that he/she does not have any serious problems......
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• United States
1 Jul 07
Have you tried a bed wetting alarm? Some insurances do cover this devise. Check with your insurance to see if they will cover it. If they don't the devise isn't very expensive. It sounds an alarm when moisture hits the sensor pad.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
1 Jul 07
I have heard of them but haven't tried it yet. Thanks I will look into it.
@dfollin (24216)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Vicki,I was thinking about your son this afternoon.And I think maybe his bed wetting might be cased from stress from all his other problems.Or maybe his system is so busy fighting the other problems it can't wake up when he has to go to the bathroom I have notced something that my son and daughter have alike and they both get really involved with what they are doing.For example as a child my son would be watching a movie or something and the whole house could blow up and as long as that tv was still on he wouldn't even notice.My daughter is the same way.The doctor said that they were sleeping and they didn't even notice that they had to go to the bathroom.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
1 Jul 07
I think my son is very similar to this. He is very active throughout the day and sleep very heavy. I bomb could go off and he would still sleep. He has felt stress over the other problems and there is a strong feeling on his part to be better than his younger brother. I try to let him know that everyone has their own talents and gives and he is not alone. He is very smart and is great in science which I am terrible at. Makes him feel good and it is true! LOL
• United States
24 Sep 07
Vicki how late does he drink stuff compared to his bed time? My cousin was doing the same thing. She was doing this and finally quit when she was about 8 1/2. Her parents found a way to remedy this problem. They wouldnt let her have anything to drink an hour to 2 hours before her bedtime. It seemed to take care of the problem. Good luck and i hope you find something that works.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
24 Sep 07
Yeah I tried that too but it didn't make any difference. He seems to be improving the last couple months with only a couple of accidents.
• United States
14 Sep 07
im in the same boat as you. my daughter is 8 and wets the bed every single night. ive tried cutting off the liquids early in the evening, positive rewards, you name it ive tried it. she also is special needs.Its very frustrating, but more so for the kids. I just took her to the pediatricain , and they ruled out any kind of infection with a urinalysis and urine culture along with some blood tests. The pediatrician referred me to a a urologist .I have my appointment the end of this month. Im hoping there will be an answer for this , so i can help her. There should be a support group for "us" moms lol.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
14 Sep 07
Good luck with your appointment and I hope you find a solution. It is so frustrating for them. I see that Clay wants to be successful so much but sometimes he fails and I feel so bad for him. But lately Clay is getting better for some reason he has kinda grown a lot in a few months just out of the blue. So I am very excited about it. He still has the odd night of wetting but has stayed dry most nights now for about 6 weeks. Knock on wood! HEHE I do find it hard to get involved in support groups because I don't feel I fit in with most moms there. Many are severally disabled and have many more challenges than my son or have accepted that their childern will always need help. Though I have been told that he will always have challenges I don't feel that way and don't raise him that way. I don't want him to feel that there are limits to what he can achieve in life because he can do it. He doesn't give up and neither will I. Good Luck and I wish you and you daughter much success! Vicki
@Ravrockin (281)
• India
30 Jun 07
well if he really a social challenges you should go and check for any child specialist .I dont think so any tips will be useful for him its ages passed away from that
@drummell (66)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I would speak with your doctor if you haven't already. Have you tried waking him up periodically through the night to take him to the bathroom. When potty training my daughter we tried that for awhile. Also something to try is a clinical trial for bed wetting. It might have some good advice and ideas that may help.
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
Yes I do wake him up through the night. He is a heavy sleeper and sometimes he can't go. He is also very heavy now which makes it hard to get him in there. It works for a while but then he reverts back to younger behavior. That is also what happens with other challenges he has. Like his speak. I am interested about clinical trials so thanks!
• Australia
1 Jul 07
hhmmmm..... it seems like the reason he has these problems might be due to you having chickenpox while you were pregnant, but it was not your fault do not worry :) I have a cousin who continues to wet his bed at the age of 5 or so~. You can always try to make him go to the toilet before bedtime so he does not feel the need to do it in the bed. Does he go to the toilet a lot during the day? Also, you can try giving him water during the day, enough for his daily needs, then at night time, try not have him drink any water so he does not need to go to the toilet
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
1 Jul 07
Yup we do that thanks
@dusty6 (36)
• Canada
1 Jul 07
Thats a big problem! Have you tried not giving him anything to drink after 6pm? Have you had him checked to see if his prostate gland is working the right way? My little brother had that problem and after treatment he was fine. In the meantime you could put diapers on him at bedtime that would solve the wet blanket problem,and save you some laundry. With all the problems you mentioned he has,maby one day he will outgrow bed wetting. Or maby you could try waking him up through the night to go to the bathroom. Hope this helps some!
@kitty1234 (1476)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Some children are heavy sleepers and don't realise they are wetting, if all is well with his health it is just a matter of outgrowing and retraining the wetting. Keep your chin up, Goodnites are an excellent protection ! Good Luck!
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