Do you get along with your inlaws?Or you significant others parents?

United States
June 30, 2007 2:58pm CST
My inlaw is always outting me down saying I need a real job.I work at homw babysitting for $80 a day,working online and I also recieve rent from my son.Some time I bring in over $600 a week.I don't want to say to much as he is a mylotter himself.But this really gets to me.Considering she hasn't worked since she was married and depends on her husband and 3 children still living at home.Maybe she is just mad because he is with me and he is not giving then money towards there household.Maybe she is worried that her other children will do the same.
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@Jennifer21 (2476)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I get along with my inlaws very well. Actually, I get along with them much better then my own parents. They have been the parents that I should have had, but didn't. Although we have had out boutes, they have always been there for me, and unlike my own parents, they actually care about me.
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I get along with his mother but not so good with his father, which really doesn't bother me at all. Such is life and if we can't agree on things then so be it. Good on you for doing what you need to do and really it isn't any of her business what you do for a living. It is nice for her to be concerned though. Maybe she is envy of you because she is dependent on others to help her in her life!
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• United States
30 Jun 07
You know I never thought that she would envy me.But come to think of it she was kinda jealous when her son met me.I own a house by myself for 3 years before I net him.She has never done antthing like this.They still rent.I am sure that she is concerned for him that is fine.But why put me down?I supported him for 4 months when he was out of a job!
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Wow then I don't know why she would do that to you if you have done all that for her son. She should be lucky to have you as her daughter in law who takes care of her son :)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
I haven't met my fiance's parents yet, but I do get along quite well with one of his ex-wives!! He and M have one son together, so we were both determined to get along with the boy's mother. As for the other ex-wife, we tried but it didn't work. I get along well with his kids from the marriage before the ex-wife I like.
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• United States
30 Jun 07
Well,if you get along with the ex-wife I am sure you will get along with the parents.I am glad for you.When children are involved this is most important.It is a shame that the other ex-wife does not understand this.Congrats that all the children like you.This is most important.
@Kythe42 (1412)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I would have to say that I don't get along with my S/O's parents at all even though I've never met either of them. I did speak to his mother on the phone once and she was really nasty to me, telling me to stay away from her son and stuff. I've never spoken to his father, but from what my S/O tells me about his father, I know I wouldn't like him at all. I honestly hope I never have to meet his family because I'm pretty sure things would not go well at all. At least he seems to like my family. He's met several members of my family including my mother, my two sisters, my uncle, and several of my cousins. He's always saying that he likes my family better than his because everyone was so nice to him.
• United States
30 Jun 07
WOW! I thought I had it bad.But his Mom telling you to stay away from him? That is really bad.Hopefully you will get things worked out.
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@Kythe42 (1412)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Thanks for the good wishes. I doubt it will ever get worked out though since all she cares about is herself and doesn't want me to take her son away from her.
• Australia
1 Jul 07
wow, like cipher said, your inlaws are very nasty!, telling you to "stay away from their son" is just not acceptable, i mean, you are already married right? so why are they doing that to you, love is between two person so they have no right to say that to you! I am glad to hear that he likes your family , at least there is SOME form of family warmth between you two =D
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1 Jul 07
Im lucky to have lovely inlaws i couldnt wish for better ones.
• Australia
1 Jul 07
That is really good to hear! my dad likes his inlaws, that is, my mum's side parents and family as they are very nice to basically everyone! my mother's side grandma although is not very interactive with people, but is kind to my dad and makes him a lot of expensive and tasty food...... I guess every family has different situations, but most of the time, from stories i have heard, people generally do not like their in-laws and sometimes hold a grudge against them for particular reasons......
• United States
2 Jul 07
I am very happy for you Bugle.You are very lucky indeed.
@mansha (6301)
• India
30 Jun 07
I used to feel lot of love towards my inlaws and even thought that they loved me too but then after fourteen years of my marriage my myth was broken and I have just this year faced the truth that no matter what I do I will be the step child always someone who took their son away from them. I am shocked at their behavior this time when I visited them and now I have caleld enogh is enough and have jsut stopped any communications with them. I am just too hurt and too angry right now.
• United States
30 Jun 07
I used to feel also that they excepted me also.But I found out wrong.The father-in-law loves me.Ther is a big age differance between us also.This might be why I have problems.He is 29 and I am 44.He went to visit them today.I declined and did not tell him why.I don't want him to know what is going on.I too feel that I took him away.After all hid did hand them ovcer his paycheck when he was living with them.
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@mansha (6301)
• India
26 Jul 07
I just spoke o my father in law after two months and it sounded strange even to my ears. I was stiff inside whle speaking to him and he was awkward as I was answering in mono syllables and I think he gfot the message that I am unhappy. I still do not feel talking to them why can't they leave me alone for once.
@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
30 Jun 07
It really is none of her business where you work or how you work. It bothers me that people think that only working outside the home is real work. Can't you tell her in a nice way that it is none of her busines?
• United States
30 Jun 07
I really wish I could tell her it was none of her business.But seems this is her first child that has moved out she worried about him.Telling her it is none of here business will open a new can of worms.I am trying to get along with her with her for my hubby.So if I start something it will cause conflict amongst us.
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
11 Aug 07
Sorry for the delay and thank you for best reply. Have a great weekend.
@nowment (1758)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I keep hearing and seeing horror stories about in-laws, I even had a friend whom I couldn't find for six months she and her husband had gone into hiding and had to move because they were being harrassed by her mom in law who tells anyone who listens that her son is going to hell for marrying her. I on the other hand have been told by my significant other's parents more than once that they were glad I was involved with their son they were glad that he meet me. They thanked me. So I got lucky my in laws and I get a long great.
• United States
27 Jul 07
Wow too have to runaway and hide from inlaws.I feel bad for them.But I am glad that you get along great with your significant others parents.You really id get lucky.
• Australia
1 Jul 07
hmmm...... most probably so, she might be JEALOUS that you could earn so much online and by just staying back home! the babysitting industry nowadays have really good pay since there is a very high demand and not enough supply of them in the market, you could even open up a business for babysitting instead of just a household thing, that way people could gain more confidence in your "so called firm" and you could get more business and hire teenage kids to do the work for you if they want to earn lets say $10 an hour where as per child you can earn up to $40 per hour in Australia for babysitting! how good is that? Anyhow, tell her at least you are EARNING an income and supporting yourself and your family unlike her just sitting around in the house and everyone has a different way of life, different ways to earn good money which you can spend the same way, no matter HOW you earn it. $600 a week is not bad, not bad AT ALL! its really great actually $600 X 52weeks = $31,200 31 thousand dollars by just sitting at home earning money is really something you should be proud of! Don't mind what she says, you know you are doing great, thats all that matters......
• United States
2 Jul 07
Wow!Thank you so much for your support.$40 an hour for childcare in Australia?I knew I loved that country.I always wanted to visit.It is my dream.Anyway I was thinking of starting of a business.Guidelines are very strict when they inspect your house.I have a pool that would need to be fenced in,I would have to get rid of my pitbull/dalmation (only because of the type)and worse of all,go back to school.Yuk!Insurance is also very high.Also by doing it on the side there are tons of less taxes to pay.Thanks again for your support.
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Good for you, you have a inlaws i dont have. My husband told me if his mother is alive she will like me because myself is like her. We have lots of similarities in hobbies and behavior. I heard inlaws like that but i think just be nice to her and just give something a little.
• United States
2 Jul 07
I am glad I have in-laws also.Especially since both my parents are deceased.But she treats me as if I am doing things wrong with here child.if I tell her I made a certain kind of food for him she says"Oh.he don't like that".So I tell her he eats it all the time and she says "Oh,he is just trying to be nice"I try to be nice and my hubby don't know we don't get along.I don't want him to get in the middle.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Alot of ppl do not realize how much work goes into babysitting. I did it for years for the state (for ppl family services was putting to work) and it is alot of work. My oldest brother thought it was so easy until he got laid off and had to watch his own kids lol. I wouldn't worry about her...just go on with your life. :) LIVE IN PEACE
@marty3888 (2358)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Some people just don't understand making money online. My girlfriend dosn't believe it yet. She says the only way you can make money is to get up and go to work. These days, sometimes having a "real job" isn't enough. So don't try to not let that bother you. Sounds like what you said, she's mad because you're with him. Either that or she's one of those people who isn't happy unless she's complaining about something. My mom was like that. I'm lucky, I do get along with my girlfriend's mother. But she lives in Las Vegas And I live in Mich. So I don't see her very much.
1 Jul 07
A lot of inlaws are like that if you don't have a REAL job. They don't look at the income you are getting now but look at the security of what they call your PLAY job. Its all about SECURITY for their child. For more information on what i mean try this link: http://hubpages.com/hub/Security-Vs-Success
@drummell (66)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I think you should do you best to set aside what your inlaw is saying. You work. Babysitting is a real job, full-time at that, whether you work 40 hrs or not. Taking care of kids is hard work. You make more money on-line plus rental income? What more do you need to do? Just because your not away from your house, driving 1-30 mins to work everyday, doesn't mean you not puting your self into it. I wouldn't let him get to you. Unless of course its coming between you and your spouse, then I would sit down and talk about it.