Do YOu know someone Thats Parenting skills arent up to your thinking???

United States
June 30, 2007 4:15pm CST
Hiya everyone..I was wondering if anyone else has issues with friends..naighbors..anyone..thats parenting skills..are well..kinda crappy at times?? Or maybe they do a few thigns that bug the heck out of you?? I sure do!! I have a friend that had some real hardships..and her and her children live with there parents..But..they stay in there room all day long..lettig the parents to care for there children..and they may help out when its convenient for them!! ughh! that makes me so mad!! and then i have this other friend,,,he doesnt like going outside much..and they have 3 children..they live in a very kid friendly neighborhood..anywho..they are hardly ever allowed outside..he takes naps all the time..his wife is always with her friends or working..and never home much during the day..and they have to be stuck in theer house allll the time..even beautiful days..its insane!! kids are kids only once..let them play for crying out loud..and if they are bad..take away toys..soemthing,,maybe give them an hour a day..he just angers me to no end!! There are other issues i have but ill stick with that for now..what about you?
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12 responses
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I think we all have one of these... Everyone parents in different ways and the only time I might step up and say something is if I see abuse or neglect. In my eyes, if a parent keeps their kids kept inside all day long all the time, that may not be neglect, but it sure isn't right in my book. A kid needs fresh air at least 30 minutes every other day. If not every day. You are right though, kids are only kids once. Let them have fun! It doesn't take much to take a child to a park or just sit outside with them and watch them run around, or even throw a ball around. I also don't like when parents just grab their kids by the wrist or arms and yank them around or when they yell and scream when the child does something wrong. Come on, there is better ways to talk with your child if they get into trouble, instead of all the yelling and grabbing.
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• United States
30 Jun 07
I hear ya..and its just wrong..and i tell ya what..when i see those mothers that do that..i glare or if i have serious PMS i will speak all of my mind lol lol..grabbing thoise poor arms like that and yelling ..just wrong..and if talking isnt the answer..well there are other means...but its summertime..we were cooped up all winter..i say find some other ways to punish the children..thank so much for posting and have a wonderful day!
@wrdsofwisdm (1070)
• United States
7 Jul 07
My uncle married his mistress of many years after she got pregnant. They have a beautiful 6 year old daughter. His now wife was married once before and has a son that is 25 and she screwed him up big time. She was on her own when he was little until she met my uncle. She has enabled him to the max and he is now struggling to become a responsible working adult. When she was pregnant with her daughter, she constantly said she wasn't going to make the same mistakes she made with her son. Now she has gone to the opposite extreme. She is in denial of her meopause which makes her a witch. If my little cousin falls and hurts herself, she cries and this woman tells her not to be a baby! She won't even pay any attention to her daughter because she wants her to and I quote...suck it up. She quit her job a year ago to spend more time with her daughter and she doesn't even make her a good breakfast, lunch or dinner. She leaves the kid in her pajamas all day unless, she has a play date. She plops the kid in her bed with her to watch plastic surgery shows and scary movies. When the little one was younger, she smacked her in the face when she defied her. That stopped when the baby would run to my uncle and snitch on her. He put a stop to that. This so called woman also hired my mom to be her daughter's full time caretaker since birth while she was working and now she gets jealous of their close relationship. Can you tell that this has hit a nerve...lol.
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@KatieS (504)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I know someone who buys booze for her teenage son and his friends. I also know someone who smoked pot religiously during the first seven months of her pregnancy. I try not to judge, but I do believe that our children are not really our children, they are God's, and it just breaks my heart when I see them treated this way. No manners, no respect, no clue of reality when they get older. The parents whose kids are running out in the middle of the street and get hit by a car will blame the driver. I've seen that happen too. Yes, kids need to be outside on a regular basis, but until a certain age, they need supervision, I thought that was just common sense.
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
I have a sister in law who lets her kids do everything, her idea of discipline is saying NO, but after 4 years of it having no affect, it sure as hell has no affect now! Whenever the father disciplines, she goes nuts at him for being too rough but the 2 of them are terrible really - 1 is too soft & 1 is over the top so there's no happy medium even though there needs to be! We had them up here the other weekend & all they did was throw my daughter's toys, hit her with things, push her over & steal the toys she was using, naturally the mother did not much coz she i don't think she can bring herself to be nasty & say no. I can understand letting kids be kids but this is over the top. Trust me, they've just had their 4th kid so she's gonna have to start sometime coz no-one will take the kids & no-one wants them around. The other thing that gets me about the oldest of the 4 is that she does to Kindergarten & has picked up a REAL attitude, smart mouthed remarks & skanky dancing like on TV but no-one does anything about either of theose problems coz her mother thinks it's cute!
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Jun 07
I've had a couple of friends whose parenting methods have really bothered me over the years. One of the big ones that gets me is the one who homeschools but doesn't seem to put enough time or work into it, and her poor children seem really behind where they should be. I can understand why she took her kids out of school, but I think she needs to stay focussed or her kids are going to wind up paying for it later. The other really big one that gets me is just knowing way too many parents who are quick to talk about it when their kids are bad but don't seem to recognize all the good things they do. I know one child who is just awesome with his younger siblings, helps out around the house a lot, and overall is just a great kid... but his parents instead seem to prefer to only talk about how he doesn't take good enough care of his possessions sometimes and things like that! I mean, give the kid a break! Of course, I'm sure there are people who have problems with my parenting styles as well!
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@HighReed1 (1126)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I definitely have issues with some of the people I know! One mom and her boyfriend holler at the kids and swear at them alot. They don't feed them or have the food so the kids can feed themselves until they get home. There were some nights the kids hadn't eaten and it was 9pm!
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• United States
30 Jun 07
We have neighbors who have seven kids. Mom is never around and dad stays inside all the time. Their eldest is 10 down to a new born baby. It drives all the neighbors nuts these kids are out all day without supervision and run out in front of cars. They also have the habbit of throwing stuff at cars. We all feel sorry for the kids and have reported the parents but nothing has been done. I think this type of stuff happens everywhere. We have one extreme you have the other. It's very sad though.
@ctrymuziklvr (11059)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Babies - Bring them up right!
My daughter has 2 kids and no parenting skills at all. I often ask here where she was when I was bringing her up because she seems to have learned nothing at all from me.
@cowgirl2701 (2081)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I think we all know some parents that need to go to a parenting class. Parents who let thier kids play video games or watch television all the time upset me. Get they kids outside for fresh air and excercise. Give them a book and things to draw with. Let them use thier imagination!!!!
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• United States
30 Jun 07
I know alot of people who dont parent in the same manner as me. I dont hold that against them though. I will however restrict my children from being at their homes without me if i feel they would not respect the rules that I follow at my home. I would do the same for them if their children came to my home.
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
7 Jul 07
They're actually friends of good friends of ours. Last time we were over our friends' house, they were there also, with their 4 years old daughter and their 15 months old son. They let their daughter play in the mud and when she threw mud at my friend's sons, they laughed. My friend was furious. They let their son walk too close to the basement stairs, and if we tell them to watch out, they say, if he falls, he'll learn! I mean come on! If he falls, he could die! this is a baby we're talking about! Their daughter runs around, screams all the time, calls me and my friend, big butts, and the parents don't do a thing. My friend can't take it anymore,and sometimes she pretends not to be home, so they won't come over.
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• Egypt
1 Jul 07
my skil is too slow
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