should i say something about this

United States
July 1, 2007 12:22am CST
i have a delima i need help figuring out how to handle. The problem is my mother Wensday my mother was in town at my aunts retirment party and to get there she had to go straight past my house and said she would stop by i couldn't go because car problems anyway she never showed up never even called it wouldn't have been so bad but she told my nine year old she was coming if she wouldn't have done that it wouldn't have bothered me so bad because she's done things like this to me all my life. I got over it years ago. But for my nine year old to ask me why her nanna never wants to come see her and her siblings. See my mom didn't raise me. When i was 13 she started driving big trucks with my day. I saw them maybe onces a month though i lived with my aunt my sisters raised me . They've always been there for me when i needed them even though they lived ain a different state. I never really got along with her and now i tolerate her when we talk on the fone which isn't much the bad thing is i have four children now and they haven't seen her since december and it up sets me that she told my child that she would come and see her and not show up so.... my question is she i say something to her or just make excuses for her like i've done pretty much all my life.
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6 responses
@austren (44)
• China
1 Jul 07
you are a lucky dog I think.Your mum loves you.but she may not know how to do it. take it easy!
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@wendy805 (261)
• China
1 Jul 07
i think you should tell something about this.it is not wise to hide the fact and make excuses.let them know what the truth is .they will know it sooner or later,not bad if they know sooner.
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@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
1 Jul 07
If I were you I would have plenty to say, first off if she was going right past your house wht could dhe not have stopped and picked you up, second to tell your children she is coming and than not show up is plain wrong, did she give you a reason why she didnt come? You see people think just because there children have kids that they are entitled to the title of grandma i dont believe this to be so,and i would not make excuses to my children as to why she isnt there. Its very sad your children have to go thru this but I would not continue to allow her to hurt my children in any fashion i would have a talk with her about it and let her know how you feel.
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@Trace86 (5033)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Maybe explain to her that you are familiar with her habit of breaking her promises to you in the past, but would prefer if she didn't make promises to your children that she can't or has no intention of keeping. That you grew up being disappointed in her and want to protect your children from the same experience. You have held your piece too long, let it out.
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@lvhughes (545)
• United States
6 Jul 07
sis i have already taught my children to not put much belief in what mom says. this time it was more your older sister. mom was with her and she was late picking her up and then she had to run home to be there when bob came in. but as you know i never make excuses for her she should have called. she has done the same to my kids several times. they now sauy well see when she says shes coming.
• Canada
2 Jul 07
I would definitely tell her how badly the children feel when they get their hopes up, and she doesn't show up. I would also ask her why she tells them she will come and she doesn't. She needs to start considering other people besides herself!!