When you don't have children, how do people react ?

most of us think women must have children, it likes a traditon and normal thing. that's the reason why too many people can't understand you but i think if you want to have a baby that's the key of your life, if you think that is not very important to you, don't warry about all the points of other people.

when a baby comes to this world. He comes with his or her cries. He crys and asks his or her parents that why did you drag me to this hell which is called living world. There are many miserable people or communities. They do not know that what, they could not know that what was the crime in reward of which I am being punished here. Many are poor. Many are disable. Many are mentally not fit. If you have no child. You have only worry of having no child. The parents with child or childern have so many worries about their childerns. Dont worry if you have no child. You are better than those, who have ton of worries about their childern. wish you best of luck. . .sheen

People are this way with me as well. I am only 22 years of age and people want me to be a mom already. Do I look like a breeder? No, I do not want to be a mom. I have a cat, and I mother her, but that is it. I do not want to be a mother. I have DNA that I do not think that anyone should have. I get annoyed as well when people look at me and see me with no children or when I say that I have no children and they give me the "I pity you" look. Do not pity me. No offense, but there are 7.2 billion people on this planet, I do not think that I need to make anymore.

Oh my God, this is something so unbelievably close to my heart that it's eerie hun! I am 39 and hubby is 40, we've decided not to have children and guaranteed at least once a week someone asks why we're not having kids. I feel like I've gone blue in the face explaining the same cr*p over and over to certain people who just don't understand why we won't have kids. I love children and get on very well with them but that's mostly because I can hand them back to their parents when I get bored of their cuteness (!!!) but people persist in forcing their opinions down my husband and my throat as to why we should not remain childless GRRR! Even my mum and dad won't accept it and just recently my mum gave me a phone number she got off the TV for an adoption hotline! I don't know when people will finally accept that we don't want and won't have children! Oh and I get the sympathy face from people too when they ask how many kids I have and I say "None and I won't be having any either!"

I have four kids and get asked why I have so many? Even by strangers!! I guess some poeple just can't put themselves in other peoples shoes. Why should all couples have the accepted 1.5 children? Why is it anybody elses business how many children I have or the fact that you have non? I think that those of us who have children should raise them to be more accepting of others and not so judgemental. dreamjapan

I think that you are being very smart. Some people simply choose not to have children. That does not mean that they do not like children. It simply means that they have chosen a different lifestyle. In fact some of the most influential people in my life were those that did not have children themselves. I had an aunt that chose not to have children. She was like a big sister to me. She loved children and taught elementary school for many years. Children adored this woman and grew up remembering her as their favorite teacher. When I was younger, I always wondered why someone who loved children so would choose not to have their own. As I grew older and understood her more, I came to realize that it really was the right choice for her. She would have been unhappy being tied to the responsibility of raising a child. She had so many other interests in her life...actressing , modelling, teaching dance, etc etc. I have other friends that just do not have the time or patience or desire to deal with children. They have no desire to work with children or have them a part of their lives in any way. They too are right in their choice to not have children. Me? When I was a kid...I knew that someday I wanted to be a mom. I wanted alot of kids. I began babysitting at age 11. By the time I was 18 , I thought I knew all there was to know about raising kids. I have 4 of my own and I will admit now that I knew nothing. I have no regrets at all but I will say that it was much tougher than I would have predicted. I get the opposite from you. People wonder why I had so many children that I raised on my own. I did make poor choices when it came to men but I have given my all to my girls regardless. I was not on welfare and not asking their help. My girls were fed and dressed decent and above all were good people. Yes, we were very poor but it wasn't as if I was asking for handouts. I was not having boyfriends in and out of their lives to help raise them. I did not whine to them. I just worked and did my best by them. People judge too quickly. I mostly just ignore them or pacify them. I really don't let them get to me. I owe them no explanations. You don't either. Just a quick glance at who is questioning you and you will no doubt see an individual that should be paying more attention to their own life.

its entirely your choice if you dont want to have kids. if you feel that you are not up to it, then it is the best thing you could do not to have them. i would hate for you to have a child but not be able to care for it the way you should because you never really wanted it in the first place.

I'm in the same boat. I'm 31 and have been with my BF for 5 years. I think the only reason we don't get asked more often "when will you have kids?" is only because people are still asking us "when are you getting married?" Neither of us has any interest in having kids, so we don't see much advantage in getting married at this point, either. I guess the whole "propigating the species" thing has been so ingrained that some people just cant get out from under it. I try not to get too annoyed by it,but willput my foot down if someone is really persistant in questioning my descision.

Well its a Perfectly Natural Reaction! Please consider this! Every one of your Parents, Grandparents, Great Grandparents, and Great Great Grandparents all the way back to the first man and woman who ever raised a child, had children,( there could not be even one exception here) and you are breaking a cycle of hundreds of thousands of years, perhaps much longer, who knows? But this is ok! You have a perfect right to make your choice..... I'm just explaining to you why you are getting this reaction from your friends.....so don't be annoyed, just be understanding!

I agree with you, I had plans to have kids when I felt I was ready for them not before that time. Growing up I saw how hard it was for my mother being my only full time parent and dad part time (divorse)was to make ends meet and take care of me. So I planned on kids in my 30's, hasn't happened and may not ever due to the fact I am GAY. I do want kids just not till I feel I can care for them the way I want them to be cared for. So I don't feel soory for you but I am proud of you for not wanting to bring them into a world you may not see fit for them, or what ever your thing is for not having them.

Theres nothing wrong to have children. What you must do is be patient to people, dont be annoyed by them. Instead prove to them that there wrong. I dont have kids either but i am happy with my life. Acceptance is hard to do but showing them that there wrong is one of the best way for acceptance. :)

well generally people feel its a duty of the couple to hav kids after their marriage.its followed globally.there r people who dont want to hav babies thats fine....if u hav a problem n u cant hav babies people vil feel sorry for u coz its one life u live and its a gift of god to hav babies n grow ur family. u just try to ignore people who feel sorry 4 u or keep advicin u. its ur life n u live it ur way...all the best