Should I say sorry?

@Guna1980 (872)
India
July 1, 2007 7:31am CST
I have 2 ex-best friends (we stopped being friends about 1 yr. ago) i'm not sure if I should say sorry or not. Hers the story: I and my friends would always take walks together around where we live. One day we were taking a walk and they said something and I said HEY! Then they said something about my family! So I started on my way home. They called me a baby and stuff for going home. So the next day they come over and say "We will give u one more chance" I couldn't believe my ears! What did I do wrong? So we still saw each other at school and said stuff behind each others backs but never talked! So should I say sorry? (I miss them a lot, when we were friends we were best friends!)
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9 responses
• United States
2 Jul 07
You were being a baby. They were also wrong. All of you should grow up and realize that friends will have arguments and disagreements. A year is too long for friends to hold a gruge. I you miss them, forgive them and understand that they are only human, and humans make mistakes. But, be sure to let them know why you were upset.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
2 Jul 07
If they have snubbed her for a year why should she be the one to go and aploogise to them, when there the ones who turned there backs on her.
• United States
2 Jul 07
I never said she should apologize. I said she should "forgive them and understand that they are only human[.]" What purpose does it serve for her to continue this relatively petty behavior? She missed them. Why should her heart continue to hurt?
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Saying sorry is admitting wrong, if you didnt do anything wrong than no I would not appologise.If they were true friendsthey would not be treating you that way. Why are they giving you one more chance when you didnt do anything. A year is a long time so I doubt they are worth the time. move ahead and make new friends and forget the past.
• United States
2 Jul 07
Saying you're sorry is not admitting you were wrong. "I'm sorry were had a misunderstanding/argument/fallingout" is simply stating the truth, and in no way admits wrongdoing.
• United States
2 Jul 07
You say you ar sorry only if you are trully sorry about what you said, not because you want to fit in.It is hard when you loose touch with a best friend, but you shouldn't lie to get back with friends.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
1 Jul 07
Sure why not say,"sorry"..... you know you didn't do anything wrong, but if you want your friends back go ahead and do it. You were not wrong. If they do it again then you will have to find new friends. perhaps they will better friends this time.
1 Jul 07
it's there fault if they were the ones that started it...i mean...maybe you said all say sorry to each other.. sit down and talk about the situation and think things through.. maybe...thats what i think you should do anyways..
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
its not easy to say sorry especially to that kind of person..but always remember in the ten commandments that love your enemies..you should accept them as what they are no matter what they do to you...what you should is to stand right or do things that is good. Stand in the good side... no matter what they do you will always win in the heart of GOD. GODbless :)
• India
1 Jul 07
you should nt be sorry for that its completely their fault..
@student7 (1002)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I had a friend who judged me for where I lived. I haven't heard from her in many years. I am very sad that I lost her and would love to have the relationship back. You should do what your heart tells you to do. If it were me, I would forgive and try to talk to them and see how they react. If they are true friends, they will have you back with open arms, if not, then they weren't true friends to begin with. Just take it slow and see how things develop.
@Titanum (98)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
the amazing thing about people is that they can't accept the fact that they are in the wrong. This may be their problem, but it may also be yours. You need to remember that friends are able to joke around and say things that complete strangers are not. I think your actions are justified in the fact that you, like most of the worlds population hold your family closest to you and that you believe they should never be the target of disrespect. However in instances like my friends and i, we have a saying "Your Mother" after an insult. Now we all know that when we say this we know that we are only joking, sometimes it can be taken a little too far as to the content in which it was used. But we let one another know if we have gone too far. Your response has provoked something in your friends that says that you may be a push over, over emotional and most of all easy to upset, Human nature can be cruel, it's just like being teased in high school (yes i have been teased every so often when i went) By your outburst and actions you have given them power because they like to see your response. You need to sit down with your friends and let them know that you did not like what they had to say about your family member. They do not know her the way that you do and you need to iterate this to them. Also, When someone makes a joke or remark that you do not like, you need to gain the upper hand by saying in a deep or slow tone that you do not appreciate that kind of verbal abuse against whatever it is they have said. and if they want to continue with the parade, you need to let it go, silence is the killer of all conversations, good or bad, finish the day with them, then give them the silent treatment if they cant provoke a respose from you, then they have no benchmark to set. I hope this helps you a little in your predicament.