respect vs fear

@miamilady (4910)
United States
July 1, 2007 9:10am CST
Is there a difference between the two, in your opinion? If so, where do you draw the line between the two. If not, why not? I have always felt that there is a difference. I feared my dad growing up. I don't think I had a lot of respect for him. I treated him with respect, because I feared him. Now, as an adult, I do respect him and I appreciate him. How many people do you think confuse fear with respect? I think a lot of people do. I respect people who treat others with respect, I respect people who work hard. I respect people who have overcome adversity. Especially if they were able to remain kind and positive and help others. These are some of the qualities that I respect. If you would like, you can include some of the qualities that you respect, also.
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21 responses
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
There's a great difference between fear and respect. fear is negative while respect is positive. When you respect somebody you admire him, you look up to him. You cannot say that when you have fear from a person, you admire him. Fear is associated with threat. While respect is associated with satisfaction and contentment. For me, it is better to be respected than to be feared.
• United States
1 Jul 07
It is like my Trekkie friend said back in high school, "Fear should be respected". 'Nuff said!
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• United States
2 Jul 07
It is a line from Star Trek. I cannot remember it's original meaning, but I believe it was used to describe how people feel about evil, ruthless dictators.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
1 Jul 07
hmmm Well, I don't respect when people try to be fearful, most of the time. I DO respect peoples fears. I respect that people have fears and I try to be sympathetic to those fears. If someone is scared of dogs and comes to my house I will put my dog away. I'm not sure what that quote is trying to say, but those are the things that came to my mind when I read it.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Okay. Thanks.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I think you coverd it all . But fear is something different If you fear something you dont want to have anything to do with it. Respect has to be earned,sometimes it take awhile to respect some one looks like you learned to trust your dad to respect him now. You have to treat people with respect sometimes even when you may not want to for that is the right thing to do. Just smile and know you are a good person and get on with your life!
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I learned to respect my dad, because I learned to appreciate the complexities of human nature. He was the way he was for a variety of reasons. Learned behavior, frustration, thinking he was doing the right thing at times. We're all human. We all make mistakes. He had his flaws but he had and has his positive traits as well. He worked hard to put food on the table and he did the best he could. I respect him because he tried. He overcame some of his flaws and...cuz he's my dad and I love him. :-)
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I am glad you do love your dad they are the greatest.I miss mine very much. adn you are welcome
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Oh, and thanks for your response, by the way! :-)
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@pillusch (1147)
• Mexico
2 Jul 07
The one doesn't have anything to do with the other. Fear is, if anything, the opposite of love, not of respect. For me respect is the most fundamental value, without which it would be, for example, impossible to love a person. Can I respect a person I fear? Probably not, unless I have done consciously something to show disrespect to that person and that person is in position of power.
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@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
2 Jul 07
Yes there is a big difference between fear and respect. I believe the person who feels the fear like you with your dad and me in a past relationship no the difference but the person on the other end does not they think they are getting respect but what they think is respect is just the fear the other has for them. Like you with your day you most likely obeyed and listened because of your fear of him but he thought u respected him because u listened and obey u see what i mean. I respect those who have earned my respect now and i dont do things out of fear. I feel better for it too.
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I think there is a huge difference between fear and respect. Respect is something that you have FOR someone and Fear is something that you have BECAUSE of someone. I respect people for being respectful of me, themselves and others. I can't think of anyone off the top of my head where I've feared anyone though. I don't think that you can respect someone that you fear, because if you fear them they don't respect you and aren't treating you with respect otherwise you wouldn't fear them. Did that make any sense? ha ha.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Yes, it makes perfect sense. Thanks for your response.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
1 Jul 07
I don't think respect and fear are related to one another. I don't respect people I fear, I am pretty much disgusted by them. I will appease them in order to get around them and have fewer convertations with them, but I don't see them as a person to be honored that is for sure. Respect is earned, not forced. One simply can't bully it into another.
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
Yes, there is a difference between the two. Just like you, I feared my dad as I was growing up. He scolded us for mistakes we made. Each time I did something wrong I knew I was in trouble. I was a kid then, and I didn't understand. Now, as an adult, I realized that he only meant well for me when I was young. My dad has been gone for about 12 years now, and until this very moment in my life, his words still echo in my mind every now and then. I respect him so much, and I speak of him with deep respect. Like you I respect people who treat others with respect too. I make it a point to put myself in the shoes of the other, before making a decision or making a reaction. If I know that a person does something to me without thinking how it would affect me, I believe this person just disrespects me. My father used to tell me that respect cannot be given, it is earned. If one cannot respect others, then he or she cannot earn the respect from other people.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
1 Jul 07
In my opinion, there is a difference. Respect is what I give if the person deserves it. One need not necessary be frightened into giving respect. Respect need to be earned. Fear is something that comes from the internal emotions. It is becoming scared of the other party. When you are scared of someone, it is not respecting someone. It is being fearful of one. I may respect a person and not fear him. Alternatively, I may fear the person and I do not respect him.
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@derek_a (10874)
1 Jul 07
I respect somebody because I admire them or what they have achieved. Fear is something different to me. If I have negative fear of a person, I have little respect for them. Why should they behave in such a way that would cause me fear. They are not showing respect for me, so why should I show respect for them. Positive fear is when somebody creates a sort of fear because they worry about what may happen to you. I still don't think it is necessary, but this sort of fear is not because they are sadistic and want to hurt. :-)
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@win45t (2)
• China
1 Jul 07
respect make u happy and do something after the respected jentleman fear make u unhappy and maybe do something to escape
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@mejluvya (213)
• United States
1 Jul 07
it's a good question. All I know is I would rather be respected than feared.
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1 Jul 07
fear is something that haunts you and can drown something you want do.. respect is something you get if you do something good..without fearing it.. so i guess in a way you could say that they are the opposite ;?
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• Turkey
1 Jul 07
respect come with sympathy but fear come with hate.
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
4 Jul 07
There is a difference but I think a lot of people confuse the two. Some people only treat others with respect if they do fear them. Its sad really but I often see bullies treated better than quiet, timid,respectful people that don't bother anyone.
• United States
4 Jul 07
People can treat people they fear with respect but fear and respect are different.Respect is to honor another person. Fear is being apprehensive.If I fear someone, I may not respect them like I should. I avoid them.
@rdougl (469)
• United States
2 Jul 07
There is a difference. But sometimes you need the fear in order to have respect. I respect spiders, snakes, and dogs because of what they are capable of. That respect in this case is prompted by my fear. I also gain a respect from my dad based on fear. But at that time I didn't know how to appreciate hard work, dedication to family, and integrity
@singod (25)
• China
2 Jul 07
They are different word and have different meaning.But relations exist between the two.When you respect someone,maybe you would fear him or her.Crossly,maybe not.If you respect him or her,you maybe like them.But if you fear someone,in most of the cases,you would hate them. The qualities I respect is the diligence and having the capability of dealing with all issues.I hope I can get the characters that I respect.
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
Respect is an assumption of Good Faith and competence to other person or in the whole of oneself while Fear is a distressing emotion caused by impending danger, evil, pain and etc. :)
@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I respect my mom, I have never feared her. Fear is mostly to me what I'm afraid of like spiders and things like that, I have never feared my mother, she has always been my role model.