how rude could you get?

Philippines
July 2, 2007 1:27pm CST
have you been stuck in lousy situations like lousy customer service? or have been stuck in traffic because of a really lousy driver? or been lining up at the grocery store and then someone just cuts in line ahead of you? how do you react to these situations? if you were in a bad mood, would you think it's okay to be rude in such instances? sometimes when i have a really really bad day, i find it hard to hold my temper, and sometimes i'm just rude. but now that i'm with customer service i realized how important courtesy is and how small words of rudeness could actually ruin a person's day. in a day i take a lot of calls mostly from irate customers and it's really frustrating. so i realized being rude is being mean to people who, sometimes, don't deserve it. or maybe they would not deserve it but still bottom line is that the world may be a nasty place and being mean will only make it nastier. what do you think?
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3 responses
2 Jul 07
Hard question to answer really. It all depends on the mood I'm in to the response they'd get from me. Mainly tho i'd just ignore them or ignore the nastiness. Think on the old proverb 'two wrongs dont make a right'. A lot of times if its some1 you know and you start back on them, you are the one usually who has to apologise. One good thing to remember tho - its the person who being nasty to you that is making themselves look stupid, not you. On the inside you should b laughing at how stupid they making themselves look. One other thing you could do if you find some1 being nasty to you is to try look at the situation from outside and imagine you are a spectator and watching this person being nasty to some1 else. Your first thought would b how stupid the nasty person is and how downright ignorant they making themselves look. Just follow the main rule - don't speak without thinking and you'll get through this situations a lot easier. On the other hand tho if it was a motorist that cut me up or something like that I'd curse at them all i could. They can't hear you and its a good way of letting off the daily steam.
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• Philippines
2 Jul 07
that is so true. yeah, come to think of it, the rude person does pull up a bad spectacle of himself/herself when he/she throws a fit. it's just hard to hold it in but you're right. i've been in a lot of situations when i lost control and the people got disappointed or hurt. and yes, it's important to really think matters through before acting on impulse. thanks for the response!
2 Jul 07
Another thing I have just thought of - Some ppl 'get off' on arguing, they think it is fun. If you let them sucker you into the argument you will be feulling their fun while you get more and more frustrated and wound up by the minute.
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• Philippines
19 Aug 07
i totally agree with you on this. so apart from really embarrassing yourself by stooping down that level, you're also allowing the other person to have more fun while pissing you off.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
For the someone who cuts in line - I really go to that person and tell him/her that there's a line. Usually the others would support me doing so. *LOL* For the other things. It's usually ignoring if I'm too tired to complain about it. If I'm angry I try to calm down. I was really rude once and until now to a person that really gets on my nerves. He was once an online friend who now is completely going nuts. He wants to court me and I honestly told him that I wasn't interested. He persisted and doing his stuff, but I really tried my best not to offend the person because after all, all of us, at one point or another, felt something that we needed to tell another. But he's way overboard. He tells me that he'd never stop until he sees me pregnant! and even threatened to jump over a cliff. Now, I tell him he deserves to be ignored. I really tell him to back-off and ignore whenever he tries to talk to me. And the rudest thing I did was to tell him that the thought of him makes my nerve twitch and there's nothing that would make me happier than not ever seeing nor talking to him anymore. Whew! But guess what. he's still at it. So now, it's ignoring forever. People like this don't deserve kindness, they deserve rudeness.
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
i had told someone who wanted to cut in line that there was a line once and yeah, the people behind me were grateful that i did. i mean why would people fall in line if people are just allowed to cut in anytime right? but i did it in a nice way so i won't offend the lady. i just hope she doesn't do it again. some people are ruder than others.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
Yeah, it's nice to remind someone once in a while that there are rules governing the society and they couldn't just go about their business not minding the rights of other people. Yeah, it's a good thing she inserted right into you, since you can afford to be nice. While others simply can't specially if they're not having a great day. Thanks for the comment. It's good to once in a while remind without offense. =)
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• United States
3 Jul 07
the world is more or less what we make it..if we let the "fools" get to us..then it can be a nasty place.. i try to rise above the petty people and show them that I have more class then to lower myself to their level..it does not always work.. my father was a real "gentleman" and i know i am not like him..but i try to be..everyone loved my fathers ways..and you don't realize this until it is too late
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• Philippines
21 Aug 07
Makes perfect sense.
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
it's true, i think that we just have to rise above these kinds of people because when you really think about it, battling off with these rude people just makes you seem like you're putting yourself afoot with them, which means that you're basically just stooping down to a lower level, right?
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