Unwanted House Guest

no guests and fish are the same after three days they both begin to stink if they do not take your "subtle" hints after the third day..then pack their bags and put them on the door step..and call a taxi.. my wife had a friend come for a visit..but she wanted us to join some pyramid scheme to sell stuff that her boyfriend promoted..i told them no..but they persisted..i had to get rude and tell them no way JOSE..and tell them I would never join such a multi level marketing scheme..they don't work for me or anyone else i know..so they finally left..but I know I never would do this to them or anyone else..and I never stay where I am not wanted..why are people so thick? Just tell them NO and it is not a debate..

I had this problem before with my cousin.He asked could he spend the night.SO i was like yes.Four days later he was still at my house.SO i just told him straight up he had to go because i had no room.If he had asked me maybe i would have thought about letting him stay but he thought he was home or something.NOt working,eating up everything and all.He had to go cause he was in the way.

My cousin asked could he spend the night.SO i was like yes.Four days later he was still at my house.SO i just told him straight up he had to go because i had no room.If he had asked me maybe i would have thought about letting him stay but he thought he was home or something.NOt working,eating up everything and all.He had to go cause he was in the way.

It happened to me many times, but that was then. Because I already told and teach them a lesson, that we also want to have a privacy of our own as "family", and that maybe it's time for them to already live their own lives. This relatives of ours don't just stay for a day or week, but almost a month. With us doing all the budgeting and worrying of what and how to feed them DAMNED visitors!;) Helping is not bad, but there are limitations also. Especially when we already feel that they are not looking for means of their own living, they someitmes should feel a little humility beyond themselves..

Ok so it has never happened to me, and wont happen cause all the guests who come to stay for atleast 1 day they first inform so we can prepare etc. and those who come just without informing they just stay for 30 mins or so which is no burden, and if an unwanted house guest comes without informing i would just say what i feel like , like tell them to leave in a polite manner like , "i want to go with my family to somewhere can you plz go back to ur home" or something which feels much politer :D

Just point them directly on their intention why they came into your house. And if they dont have very important matters to say then dont be shy to say thank you for visiting. thats it! :)

Luckily, all my family lives at least 1200 miles away from me. :o) There are no surprise visits. We do let people stay with us if they want, though. No one has stayed for more than a week. Another good thing is that a lot of our family members don't have enough money to get here either. That makes it much harder for them to disturb out peace!!

My daughters were famous for bringing home kids that seemed to be homeless. what they did is couch surf...stayed from home to home until their welcome was worn out. I have a big heart...especially for kids in such situations. I finally put my foot down after they pulled some things here putting me in a bad spot. when it comes to adults...I am very firm...especially if they have no home to return to...that is a big red flag! With family, it would be really hard to say no if they were in a bind. I do think I would have to grin and bear it. My family has helped me out in a time of need. I would have to do the same and hope that they would not take advantage. I'm not sure how i would handle it if they did.