Would you lie to protect your sister?

Philippines
July 3, 2007 1:09am CST
What you would tell if your sister ask you to lie. My sister had a misunderstanding with her husband, and she decided to stay in a pension house with her kids. And told me if ever her husband will ask about her tell him that we're staying with you so he won't get too mad at all. It's really okey with0 me but what if her kids will tell their father that they stayed in a pension house...I am sure her husband will get mad me too...so what do you think?
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15 responses
@Booffy (364)
• Australia
3 Jul 07
yes .... to answer your question ....... yes . i think family is very important and if that means we lie for them then so be it
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
thank you so much for understanding...
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
it really depends on the situation and the kind of urgency for me to tell a lie just to protect the interest of my sister...for i would first think of it first if telling a lie, would help solve the problem at hand or in the situation she has been into..i would not say no or yes...it depends on the need to tell a lie!
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
yeah...I think she can manage, all I want is to say that they stay with us...
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
3 Jul 07
To lie is not a way to solve the problem between your sister and her husband. It is better to face it and have it solved between them in a peaceful and positive way. Better not to deal with things negatively. Besides, like what you said in the message, what if he later finds that you were lying to him when the kids let out the truth? Kids are kids. They never keep their mouth tight. Think about it before you promise your sister.
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
Sometimes I find it so hard...but my sister understand my part too...
• China
3 Jul 07
It depends on the situation, if it is a white lie, I think it is OK.
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
yeah I can do it too...
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
i will not make any comment when her husband will ask me. i'l just ask him to check for himself and he comes to my to my house he will find out for himself.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
4 Jul 07
That puts you in a really tough situation. If he is being abusive towards her, I'd definately lie to keep him from finding her. But, you have to also think of your own safety. I think I would need to know more about the situation before I can give my opinion on it.
@vanities (11401)
• Davao, Philippines
4 Jul 07
well that was difficult i guess to lie..your in between 2 rocks...i am in no position to tell you what to do since i havent experience that kind of situation you are in...you have to weigh things first before acting on it i guess ..good luck..
4 Jul 07
Hi butterfly, could you tell me what a pension house is please? and yes I would lie to protect my sister, there must be something wrong for her to stay away from him, and my sister and her children would get my full support, she is related to you anyway, her husband is not.
@rhaizem (114)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
yes i would.. specially if it is for her own good.. cause i know they will do the same.. and i really love them..
@kris_awn (32)
• Indonesia
3 Jul 07
it's difficult to answer it.Maybe I will explain to my sister that lying is not good for her kids, and notice him to solve her problem as soon as possible.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
3 Jul 07
To protect someone yes I would lie. I dont' like lying but I think your sister's safety is more important in this situation. Discuss your worries if your sister though if you aren't comfortable.
@nandhinir (154)
• India
3 Jul 07
I too opt this as right choice if your sister didnt do anything wrong. It is her life, so you are in condition to be aware of it and what if her husband comes to know???just tell him boldly the thing..Why you are scared of him as if you had committed some mistake...:-)
• United States
3 Jul 07
It depends on what she wanted me to lie about, and if I would do it or not.
• United States
3 Jul 07
it would certainly depend on the circumstances. if she is fleeing an abusive relationship, whatever needs to be done to protect her and the children is necessary. but since you speak as if she just went on "vacation" and is going back soon, or at least the children will be seeing him, then i have to assume there is no abuse. so it would boil down to my own personal beliefs on relationships, commitments, and honesty. do you think that it was fair of your sister to throw you into the middle of this? i don't. just my opinion, though. good luck. i shall say a Prayer for your entire family.
@lkbooi (16100)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 07
I believe this arrangement is not the proper way to solve the problem. The best way is to settle the problem due to misunderstanding and eventually leads to the reunion of the family. Moreover misunderstanding is frequently occurred between couples and is generally not considered as a serious problem. To stay in the pension house could be a temporary measure but it won’t solve the problem perfectly.