do you believe in long distance relationship? will it last?

@yanees (27)
Indonesia
July 3, 2007 10:05am CST
does anyone believe in long distance relationship that has been succesful? would you advice to keep it or give it up? my friend and his partner live at both ends of the earth, totally far apart for 2 years now, but still the relationship is still going on through constant communications, thanks to internet and cellphones. but i always encourage her if she feels like giving up just do it...dont waste time with the person who is not with you. is it worth to keep it even though you dont know when or if you are going to be together in the future?
14 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
There are a few who could really have this type of relationship last. I know of several. But the main point to things is, it shouldn't be long-distance forever. My view on LDR (Long Distance Relationships) is that it could work better if at the first few weeks or months, you have already met - Personally, Physically. This is where most relationships fail, they commit to someone who they have never talked to in person. Well, meeting doesn't guarantee success, but at least you know how the person even looks and acts around you, there you would know if the intentions are clear. But in any relationship, both online and offline. There's really what I call 'luck'. You will never be sure if the person you commit to is real. It takes years and years to know a person inside out. The question is , are you ready for it? As for your friend. Have they met? What are their plans? Have you seen the guy?
@simplejoy (359)
• China
4 Jul 07
I believe long distance relationship for my friend and his girlfriend were at different colleges in different cities,and they've been tegether until now.But I suppose it not easy.Long distance relationship needs patience,persistence,belief and strong love.Once one becomes vacillant,the relationship can't last.Not every couple can make it.
@MAX1966 (1029)
• Netherlands
4 Jul 07
it is possible but only if it is true love i hope your friend is not listening to you you cant just say that
• India
4 Jul 07
i think long distance relationship works in few cases.. coz then u are alone in spite of being commited to someone.,...that leads to affairs creepin in....
@orbeltadz (506)
• Baguio, Philippines
4 Jul 07
The first thing to understand is that a relationship across great distances does not necessarily qualify as a relationship. Let me explain. If a guy has been dating for two years and she decides to travel across Europe with nothing but a backpack and pocket change, where does this leave the duo? Well, the first thing to do in this situation is to establish some ground rules before she hops on that plane. The couple must agree on how they will deal with this separation, and even if they will remain a couple at all. If one decides that they cannot be in a long distance relationship, while the other is ready to sacrifice a little for the sake of staying together, then they have a problem on their hands.. There are three basic options which I believe when dealing with long distance relationships: 1. The couple can remain faithful to each other. 2. They can date other people and see what happens. 3. Or they can call it quits and start dating other people right away.
@leafgxu (472)
• China
4 Jul 07
If your friend just want to talking with her friend, he distance is not the barrier. But I agree with that the distance should be the biggest barrier for love.
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes. Reaffirm your love and commitment to one another. Try not to assume that the relationship is thriving. Listen to your partner's concerns and communicate your own before they become bigger problems. Focus on the future. Make plans to live in the same city eventually.
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
4 Jul 07
i think a lot of long distance relationships dont work because people dont tend to be willing to put the effort into them, if your friend and the partner are willing to work things out so they can see each other and be with each other than that be good, but if they both disagree on being in each other places or come to a solution then there isnt a point in keeping it going.
@lhytzky (43)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
In my opinion and experience, almost 90% of long distance relationship are unsuccessful, unless they see each other at least every 6months or a year maybe. Especially if its the girl who is out of the country. TRUST is the most important part of a long distance relationship. Even a married person, experiencing the same problem. In my experience, i have a girlfriend who, i let her go out of the country for our future. But things went wrong, although we constantly communicate through cellphone calls almost every other day, still, we separated. She now have foreigner husband and family of her own and have a baby. For me its ok, i just accepted it. Our relationship lasted for 9 years. I think, the saying is true, if its for you, it will be for you whatever happens.
@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I would think it would be awfully hard to maintain a long distance relationship. It would be better, in my opinion, to have a relationship with someone who you could do things with and who was around. Cellphones and the internet are neat ways to keep in touch and I think you can be good friends. But, I wouldn't want a serious romantic type of relationship like that.
• United States
3 Jul 07
Until we got married, my husband and I were in a long distance relationship, but saw each other every 4-5 months. I was hard, but after the first year we got engaged, and then 2years later got married. Having an end in sight made the hard times more bearable. Still a long distance relationship is pointless if the two of you are not looking towards being together in the future. It becomes more of a crutch to keep you from having to date. But if neither of you are planning to move to be with the other then it really is time to consider breaking up. Talk about your plans and goals for the future, and if they don't involve each other or make it possible for you two to be together, then it's time to move on.
@xiuluoelly (1224)
• China
4 Jul 07
Although the distance between people with romantic feelings change, however, if a far distance, the relationship will slowly change and away from the faded, Fate was amazing the things that some people look so say, some people don't even have a chance to meet, therefore,should treasure, even if the future will break up , will not let yourself regret.
@puchapox (579)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
I do believe in long distance relationship because I am in one.My boyfriend and I have been separated for almost 2 years now and we have been together 2 years prior to it. There are times that its really hard, and yes, trust is of utmost importance..There are so many sacrifices involved, and I do lose hope sometimes, but in the end my love for him makes me overcome hopelessness. I know it is worth it, because he is a person worth waiting for. :)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I believe in long distance relationships. I've had two in the past. Both were, for the most part, over Yahoo messenger. One was with a seventeen year old and that one lasted for about five months, and the other was with a twenty-one year old and that one lasted nineteen months. Both of which were very deeply involved. For some reason, the internet is a place where people feel that they can let themselves completely go and be honest with other people. That reason in itself is the reason that internet relationships happen to be so popular and work out so well. It's because people share their inner souls with another person. But yes, I say keep at it. As long as she still loves the guy, then what's the reason not to?