new mom?

@jonaida (574)
Philippines
July 4, 2007 10:08am CST
I know being a new mom, I have so many things to learn, including new responsibilities. I would like to learn from you guys... any tips?
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@ginger73 (30)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
hi! i'm a mom too... though not so new since my daughter is already 4 years old. but i love to share some tips of being a mom. here's one.. always be there for your baby nobody can substitute a mom's touch and loving care.. always hold,touch and cuddle your baby it makes her/him feel so warm and loved.
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@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
It's what I love most to do, hug and just be there for my baby. I love the way he clings to me it's like I'm her only world, she needs me so badly. Yes, the first milk that comes from the mom is the best of all because it is full of antibodies, it's like the first immunization of the baby.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
4 Jul 07
The best tip I think I can give you is Dont Try To Be Perfect because I know thats what we all want when we have kids but there is no such thing as the "perfect" mom. We stress ourselves out trying to do everything right and everything according to the book but that all goes out the window after the first few months...everything will start coming natural to you. You will figure out your own rules how you feed your child to how you discipline them. Enjoy every moment of it because they get bigger and you will most definitely miss them whey were a baby. Best of luck!
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6 Jul 07
thats terrible, your own sister!!! I do not blame you for being angry.
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@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Lately I've just heard that my sis-in-law is spreading that I dont take care of my daughter, I'm mad at her. I'm trying my best to take care of my baby and yet she says something like that, it's just disgusting to hear from someone you thought would support you. I'm not perfect but I'll be the best mom for my daughter.
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• United States
7 Jul 07
See thats exactly what I mean your gonna always hear things from other people about how you take care of your daughter as long as you know that your doing your best..dont listen to people that spread lies. I would be very upset if I knew someone was saying that I dont take care of my daughter...and Im sure you are mad at her BUT dont let it bother you too much. What shes doing is maliscious and she should really get a life other than trying to say bad things about you. Hope everything gets resolved
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@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
4 Jul 07
Enjoy all the little things now, because it goes by fast, My tips are: Always keep baby wipes on hand even after they are out of diapers, I have a container of them in my car, for quick clean ups on the face and hands before taking them into the store or where ever. I like my kids clean.. Mylicon drops, for gassy babies are very helpful, and work great. Relax.....Now that you are a parent things won't always go as planned. . . And that's fine, it's expected, . . . In fact my next tip, is to expect the unexpected and then take a deep breath and learn from it. They are only little for a short while, enjoy every moment, And with each new phase they enter you will probably get a new grey hair, but roll with it, because chances are the next phase they hit will probably be worst. Welcome to parenthood, the most rewarding, yet hardest job you will ever have. But the smiles and hugs from those wee ones makes it the greatest job ever.
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@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Yes really it's very hard, so many adjustments and change of prospectives in life even priorities. I was working before and said to myself that if ever I have a baby I will still work and let a nanny take care of my baby, but now things change. I would love to be the one to take care of my baby. Although, I still would like to earn something to augment anything that's missing. I'm still searching for any work at home jobs offered to my country, it's very scarce I think unlike in the US and some places.
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
Congratulations! A lot of people will try to offer unsolicited advice on how best to raise your child. But only you can say what is really best for your baby because you know her/ him best...and all babies are different. If you get lots of different advice from mom friends and doctors, I would suggest that you trust your doctor and your own instincts. I don't have any specific advice except for these because the ones I give might not be applicable. You can send me a message if you need any advice. :) Good luck and welcome to motherhood.
@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Instincts, yes shy not? Afterall, the first moms who live have no experience too and they did it that's why this earth is full of people nowadays.
6 Jul 07
another good tip is to always follow ur get feeling if you feel that something is not right, act on it, dont worry about if you go to see your doctor and there is nothing wrong and get paranoid that the doctor thinks you are a new paranoid mother, i was always scared of this if i thought something was wrong with my child, but i have learned, follow your gut instinct its usually right!
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@abiesm (373)
• Vietnam
4 Jul 07
I'm not a mother ^^ I think I'm still a kid, so I want to share with you some words. I always want mom to pay attention for me, so you too , please don't make your baby feel that you're not besides him(or her) when you're a mother, you naturally want to spend all your time for your baby, but please take care of people around you too.If you don't, you can hurt them, and I know you don't want to. Take care of you too, you can't take of your baby if you don't have good health . thanks for listening to me
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@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Ooooopppps! I'm guilty of that somehow. I just realized that with our baby now and with so many things I'm adjusting to, I don't take care much of myself and esp my husband. Should really try a little harder,huh? That's a good advice, kid!hahaha
@shynie (556)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
I am an expectant mom. I have jitters like what you have now. I know that having a baby, especially it's your first time could be a great challenge for us. But in anyway I have readied myself for whatever responsibilities I would encounter along the way. I hope I learn a lot. Good luck to being a new mom. We can make it!