Do you allow your partner to read your mobile phone messages?

@argie713 (1809)
Philippines
July 5, 2007 9:11am CST
Often times a couple fight over anonymous messages that are read on the phone. I've heard stories from my friends that they argued because of this. Sometimes messages on mobile phones are misinterpreted. These are often the cause of some misunderstandings between you and your partner. I don't usually check my boyfriend's mobile phone for messages. I trust him that much. Do you allow your partner to read you mobile phone messages? Why or why not?
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225 responses
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
In my family never did we read each others messages on our own personal cellphone. The cellphone of my kids, my wife and anybody in our house will never be opened by anybody else. Even it is ringing for a call no one will answer for that personal cellphone, for I trained them to handle that cellphone is a personal thing that it will be handled as private property.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
It's true. Cellphone is a private property. Reading a message is just like reading his/her mail.
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• Philippines
17 Jul 07
Actually, reading message is against the Law and you can file a case on it if you want. But it depends of your agreement, for me, i allow my gf to open my cellphone and read all my messages. I am not worried about that because I am not hiding something. If there are doubtful messages, I will explain to her the messages she read in a proper and decent way for her to understand. If you are hiding something, you will not allow others read your messages right? that's the thought there.
@navtech (1776)
• India
5 Jul 07
Dear argie713, I generally do not get any message from any others than my employer. My mobile is a open book. Anybody can read.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
My boyfriend is the one sending messages always. Some classmates might call or send me messages if it's really important. Other than that, I don't usually receive messages.
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• United States
21 Oct 08
Go argie! wow, this is the most responses ive ever saw in a discussion, thanks for letting me join.
@b_gryl (420)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
Yes, i allow my boyfriend to read my phone messages. We both read each others phone messages. I don't hide any secrets from him and i don't have to worry even he reads all of my messages. He trust me and i trust him too. But before i argue with him when i saw some messages from a girl, but we talk about that and he explained that it was for his cousin.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
Reading messages from girls in your boyfriend's phone can sometimes be annoying. Especially if his inbox is full of messages from girls.
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@derek_a (10894)
5 Jul 07
Yes, I allow my partner to read my mobile messages. We have been together for 22 years now and know each other very well. We have both been in relationships before where there was no trust, so we agreed that no matter how painful it would be, we would always be absolutely truthful to each other, therefore a mobile message is never interpreted as it stands. Some funny messages do come through - like spam at times - but we know that there is nothing in it. Mostly though, we never even look at each other's phones, because there is no reason to. :-)
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
Very true. I have to agree with you. No lies. No matter how painful it is. You must tell the truth. Hiding something would hurt more.
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@derek_a (10894)
5 Jul 07
Yes, "The truth will set you free" is very true in more ways than one :-)
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
I told my boyfriend that. No matter how it hurts I'll have to accept it because it's the truth. I can forgive that easily. So, there's really no need to lie.
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@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
5 Jul 07
I allow my partner to read my mobile phone messages as I have nothing to hide. If I didn’t allow him to read my phone message, he would suspect or want to know the reason. Frankly he hardly touch my phone yet as we still trust each other so far. LOL
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
Yes. Even if you're not hiding something, he would suspect because you wouldn't allow him to read.. "STILL trust each other so far"?? :-)
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@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
5 Jul 07
Yes, so far I still trust him...LOL
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
It seems that your trust will soon fade. :-)
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@axter69 (379)
5 Jul 07
Yea I have nothing to hide so I have no problems there I suppose if I was doing something wrong it may be a diffrent story, also I am married so I do not really have the privacey thing as much any more, whats mine is my wife and whats my wifes is hers..... DOh
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
That's good. You must have a great wife.
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@axter69 (379)
5 Jul 07
yea she is spot on mate thank you
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
You're welcome!
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@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 07
hey there.. My husband and I don't check each other's text messages. I used to be in a relationship that had no trust at all.. and I was so sick of arguing and fighting over nothing. So i really feel blessed to be married to such a guy like my husband who doesn't really question me too much. We trust each other completely.. even IF one day, he was to be curious about the text messages and read them, he'd be disappointed because I don't really get any other text messages aside from him and my family. :)
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
It's true. It's really annoying if you don't trust each other.
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• Philippines
17 Jul 07
trust is really important in a relationship. If you have no trust to each other then find another person, you're just fooling your self if you think you can change him or her, if you think it will be sittle out. That is why we need to learn how to let go. good luck
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
right! we just have to trust each other to prevent arguments
@ibuemma (2954)
• United States
5 Jul 07
i have no problem also. i got text msg usually from my family in Indonesia, so it no problem at all. A lot of times those msg is in Indonesian Language, so even my hubby read them he woon't understand LOL
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
LOL. I think it would be ok. Maybe there are just some jealous guys/girls out there that makes other people hide their messages.
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@marinarovi (1318)
• Argentina
5 Jul 07
yes, of course, I have nothing to hide! Anyway, he never asked to do so, and I know he never will because he trusts me.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
That's good to hear. :-)
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• Malaysia
5 Jul 07
No way that i let other people to read my mobile phone messages. This is my privacy. That what i think.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Messages are meant to be private. As long as you're faithful to your partner, there's nothing wrong with keeping messages.
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@healer (1782)
• India
5 Jul 07
I know my boyfriend very well and everything he has, we keep no secrets between us. Sometimes i read his messages and he too reads mine but i know from whom he recieves the messages and he too knows from whom i recieve my messages and till now there have been no issues regarding mobile messages.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
That's great. I hope you keep it up. :-)
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@drannhh (15237)
• United States
5 Jul 07
My husband would never read my messages unless I handed him the phone and asked him to look, but it is the other way with him...he does not like to answer his phone or check for messages, and has me trained to do it for him. Therefore I have privacy, but he does not. At first I thought "why is does he think I am his secretary?" But then I realized that it is nice that he has no secrets. Besides, he does all the vacuuming in our home, so I don't mind answering the phone and typing his letters.
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
My fiance and I work together, so I don't need my own phone. Either I have the phone or he does. We do receive strange text messages every now and then, but we don't fight about it. We both try to find out for whom it was sent. He is faithful to me and I am faithful to him, and we both trust each other. That's what love is all about... trust, right?
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• United States
5 Jul 07
I don't get many text messages on my cell phone. My hubby doesn't read mine but I wouldn't care if he did read them. I have nothing to hide from him so it wouldn't bother me. He has a work cell phone and they don't do the text messaging but I wouldn't read his either if they did. I trust him so I wouldn't read them.
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@touchnshine (2821)
• India
5 Jul 07
I really don't mind if my partner read my mobile phone messages .. what is wrong in it .. I don't find anything wrong in this .. he will know me better by reading my messages of mobile phone I guess. I really don't know about misunderstanding kind of thing .. because it never happened with me.
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
no because i'm entitled to my own privacy. and i don't tell anyone everything. there will always be things that i won't be able to tell him. for instance, important conversations with my mom, or with friends. i would be bothered if he'd feel the need to pry. if he tells me "if you got nothing to hide then you'll let me read your messages." so i'd tell him right back "if you trust me then you won't feel the need to read my messages"
• Singapore
5 Jul 07
Yeah, I wouldn't have any qualms about letting my partner read my smses. He's free to read them as often as he likes. It'll be best to read them before he sleeps. So that he'd be so bored, he'd fall asleep quickly. ;) Indeed, there's nothing controversial about my smses and nothing to get suspicious over. I have absolutely nothing to hide.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
LOL. Are messages on your phone boring?
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• Singapore
5 Jul 07
Yeah, sometimes. They're mostly about meeting here or there at this time or that. It's all very mundane.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
I would not read those myself.
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• Philippines
6 Jul 07
we boths share the same reasons. that's all. take care friend! add me up. God bless! =)
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
6 Jan 08
Thanks for the response.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
Thanks.
@Zelmarq (12565)
• Cebu City, Philippines
6 Jul 07
Yes, I have nothing to hide, he can read all the messages. I have no secrets and he can freely everything.
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
5 Jan 08
That's nice to hear.
@vani24 (783)
• India
6 Jul 07
Absolutely no problem and no issues at all...after all he is my honey! :))
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@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
Nice relationship!