I am Sad Today

@34momma (13893)
United States
July 6, 2007 10:03am CST
I am so sad today. My brother and my Aunt movied to VA today. Now i know that is not the other side of the world, but when you are as close a family as we are it mind as well be. My brother and I have been best friends since the day I was born. He took care of me like a big brother should take care of a little sister. I watched him grow up into the man who may not be perfect, but want my boys to grow up and be just like. As for my Aunt, what can you say about a woman who held a family together with love and the best fried chicken you will ever wrap your lips around (LOL). because of her, i was able to go back to school because she took care of all of my children at one time or another. she was currently looking out for my little lady. I know they are only down south, and I want the very best for them. Yet, how can i be happy for them, when I am oh so sad and feeling a little lost?
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@yanjiaren (9050)
6 Jul 07
I do understand where you are coming from my friend. My Sister and I are very close and because I have to come and go to the U.S to visit Hubby..she dreads me going every time because I stay with her here to help her out with the kids, she has four of them and the house and cooking and also we are good company together..she keep s saying to me Hurry up and bring your man over here lol.. My other Sister lives in the U.S she is now an American citizen and married in South Carolina..She has a very good life there and has married a lovely man.. I will say a little prayer for you and send you a big warm Greek hug.. take care Sis..
@34momma (13893)
• United States
6 Jul 07
i just have to be strong and know that they are going to do very well. that is the point of my brother going out there. he has three little girls that he has to father and him moving to the south is going to give him a better life to do so. that doesn't mean that i am going to miss him less.
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@yanjiaren (9050)
6 Jul 07
I know even when we are happy for people's happiness..it doesn't mean we can love or miss them less does it lol?
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
7 Jul 07
that is true. i am very happy for them, but so sad for myself
@jeyani (58)
• India
31 Jul 07
i am sad that your close brother and aunt went to a distant place.but you can still contact him through mails,phone.pray to God.your sadness will get removed
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
31 Jul 07
you are right. they have been gone a month and we talk all the time through emails and on the phone. so it is working out ok. not the same as them being here, but we are making it work
• United States
7 Jul 07
I'm sorry you are feeling sad and I know it's hard being away from those you love. My family is pretty close, too, and I live 1500 miles from my family and haven't seen most of them in eight years. I've seen my sister a couple of times when she's been out here in L.A. on business but it is sometimes difficult. My sister and brother and I email a lot and we talk on the phone quite a bit. And, I talk to my parents about once or twice a week. The only one I don't talk to often is my other sister. She and I don't have a lot in common and there are some challenges there. I love her but we just don't have much to say to each other. She isn't much for spending time on the computer and I pretty much live on mine. I'd suggest you keep up communication via email and the phone and plan visits a couple of times a year. Maybe they could visit once a year and you could visit once a year or more if it's possible. I know that it will be hard but if the move was the best thing for both of them, then I'd suggest you focus on communicating as much as possible and try to find ways to make those times as special as you can. Also, see about sending them care packages to let them know how much you love them and miss them. If you need ideas, let me know. The best thing you can do for yourself and your children and your brother and aunt is to force yourself to smile and think about how blessed you are to have all of them in your life and make a list of your blessings each day. If you focus on how much you have, it will make missing them easier.
@34momma (13893)
• United States
7 Jul 07
i hear ya. the thought of having a phone and email relationship with them is something that i have to get us too. i know that i would not be able to go years with out seeing them. that would be just way to long. they are about 8 hours away and i am going to have to do what i need to do to make sure i see them a few times a year.
@her0ic (46)
• United States
6 Jul 07
sorry honey this is part of life we dont want our loved ones to go yet at the same time we have to, try and stay strong and make plans to go visit them
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
7 Jul 07
that is so right i am already planning on going down there in Nov. i am going to stay strong for my kids who are also missing them. i will only be sad a little while longer and then i have to let it go
@sunkissed (4331)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I am so sorry for you. I know exactly how you feel. I was born and raised in Pennsylvania, I move away from all my family 34 years ago.I moved to Arkansas witch is 1000 miles away. I was so very sad and lonely. but My oldest sister which is my very best friend moved to Arkansas back in 1990. I really loved this.We did everything together.Well last October she too moved to Texas which is 5 hours away. I was so sad, I talk to her every day, but it is not the same as seeing her.I was glad that she was bettering her life, but I really do miss her.God Bless.
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
7 Jul 07
that is true. talking on the phone and emails is just not the same. i know that this was a important move for them and i am happy that they is what they did. but i just so missed them
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
6 Jul 07
Its hard when someone you love moves away. At first you will miss them so much but in time you will learn to appreciate every single letter, phone call, e-mail and visit from that person. Sometimes such distance even brings people closer together as odd as that may sound. You tend to go out of your way to reach across the miles and stay close. Sometimes we take for granted that someone is always going to be in our lives and we get a bit lame with visits and phone calls. I have a cousin that I was like a sister to. she moved away several years ago. At first it was hard but we kept contact in letters and on the computer. Last year she traveled across the country to be at my surprise birthday party! OUt of all the people and gifts...she was the best surprise of all. Sounds like you need a hug.....HUG!!
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
6 Jul 07
yes i guess you are right. i know that it is not the same thing as my brother and aunt being right here with me, but i have to know that they are going to be ok and i am going to be ok being that they are not here. my brother and i are so close that him being so far is heart braking, but i know that it is going to be a great move for him and i am just going to have to keep that in mind
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
6 Jul 07
oh im so sorry you are sad.I felt the same way when my cousin went into the air force and moved to Georgia then sometimes she had to go away overseas but she is now back down here.We kept in touch through email,letters and phone calls.Some cell phones/landlines have free long distance.She would visit me here on holidays and all.Hopefully you all will do the same.Yall will see each other again.it will be okay.:)
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@34momma (13893)
• United States
6 Jul 07
i will so be out there come the so called holidays. i know that now i have some place to go when i need to get away. but it is not the same as having my brother right here by my side. we have always only been a just a hour away. so now that he is 8 hours deep, i am feeling so lonley
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
This normally happens my friend. Being sad is normal specially that you know that your brother and aunt is away from you. I think that is ok, just try not to spend too much time with sadness. Being attached to the person is the reason why you are sad. You wanted to be happy for them yet you can't because of the hurt you are feeling like being sad. I know you will get over that feeling soon. Just try to think the positive things like you being independent and being missed by your aunt and brother too. Isn't that a great thought? LOL. I just want you to wear a smile with me. God bless!
@34momma (13893)
• United States
6 Jul 07
you are right. i bet they are missing me as much as i am missing them. that is a great thought and you did give me a moment with a nice smile. thanks
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
7 Jul 07
oh sorry to hear they had to move away. its really hard to see people you really love move away. is there any chance you could move closer to them. its really weird but i have lived out of my parents house for about 2 years now and i keep going back because i just dont feel ready to leave, but im fine if im like 30 mins from them i still get to see them, but im only 3 hours at the moment and i find it was to much.
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@clocks123 (1227)
• United States
6 Jul 07
i think it is only normal to be feeling sad at this time you haven't given all the details but is there anyway you can stay in touch via the web pictures etc., i know it isn't the same but at least you will keep in close touch again i believe it is normal to be feeling as you do and it is wonderful that you have such a wonderful family that you think alot of you are truly blessed
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