Argueing in public

@ellie26 (4128)
Malaysia
July 6, 2007 1:52pm CST
A few weeks ago, I have witnessed a couple who argued without shame in public. They were shouting and pointing fingers at each other. Both of them were quite young. It has attracted a huge audience and soon the scene became ugly when the girl started hitting the boy with her handbag. The poor boy was shocked and try to protect himself with his hands. Have you ever argued with your loved ones in public? If you were there, will you try to interfere and stop the fight?
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@Nykkee (2523)
• Canada
6 Jul 07
I have argued with my husband in public before. I don't really care where we are, I will do whatever I feel, because I got over giving a crap about the opinions of people I don't know a few years back. I think that that type of behavior being more commong with younger couples may hae something to do with the fact that most young couples starting off today can't afford a home with much privacy and when you are living in an apartment building or a trailer park with your neighbors within earshot at all times, and you have to live your life anyway, you get kind of desensitized to careing about what people seeing or hear you do, you basicallt get used to living with a constant audience and so begin to not even notice people around you and just do whatever your gonna do.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
I guess you are right. Sometimes if we care too much about what other people think about us, we will loose our own personality. Thanks for your response.
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@healer (1783)
• India
6 Jul 07
Yes, its very ugly to shout out insulting one another in public what ever the situation might be. Me and my partner never do that, we quarrel at times but not in public or infront of my friends. We talk about things when we are alone. I saw people do that and i really feel pity for them specially the guys are the one lolzzzz.
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@rusty2rusty (6760)
• Defiance, Ohio
6 Jul 07
I have argued in public. But I try not to go all out and yell at the top of my lungs. My kids hate hearing...wait til we get home..They know they are real trouble than. I think I would of either interferede or called the police. I don't believe in voilence. But i won't stand around and watch it happen when I can do something to prevent it. I think anyone who stands around and watches and doesn't do anything to prevent voilence is just as much to blame. (depending on the situation of course)
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• United States
6 Jul 07
When I was with my ex we had no shame at all.As you grow up you realize there is a time and place for everything. And any public place is not a place for an altercation.I would not have intervened unless it became physical..(handbag excluded)
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
6 Jul 07
No, I would be too embarrased to do that. I would rather keep it behind closed doors. If the guy was beating on the girl then I may interfere, but then again I would rather not get involved when arguements turn into hitting and punching.
• India
6 Jul 07
no i hav'nt argued ever like that but yeah i had slapped a quite close freind of mine but just b'coz she had become out of conyrol and she needed it. as far this case is concerned i would not interfere b'coz a relaton wiht a mate is something very personal and on their part i can at times it just happens as some things sometimes get out of control.
• United States
6 Jul 07
I would've just walked away if I could've. I'm not really like that, I barely like to argue behind closed doors so imagine outside in public! I'm not much of a fighter, but my mom is. She has yelled and argued while we're in public places and I always find it so embarrassing! And when I tell her to be quiet she'll get even louder. I can't stand it when people argue in public, no one needs to know about your problems so please...keep it down. Though this can be related to a lot of things. People that talk very loudly in their cell phones is another. I don't like hearing other's conversations but it's so hard because some practically yell into the thing. I find it to be a little disrespectful and disregarding of others, no likes to be subjected to these things.
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@sid556 (30997)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I was in a very abusive relationship. my husband very often would create a scene in public. It was very humiliating and hurtful that no one ever stepped in to my defense. he was physically and verbally abusive. Most people pretend not to see what you know they can't be missing.
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• United States
7 Jul 07
Oh that's horrible! I admit that If I wouldve seen your ex abuse you, I probably would've been one of those people who would've pretended to not see...but then again it depends. If he was being verbally offensive (cursing and such) I would've minded my own. If he was being threatening or physically abusing you, I would've not butted in - but called the police or security on him. The thing is that everyone is so different. Sometimes when you try to help a woman who's getting abused she will get angry with the person trying to help them! My boyfriend is a cop and sees it all the time. Someone calls the police on an abusive boyfriend and the girlfriend sticks up and lies for him, sporting a black eye and everything. So everyone just minds their own and doesn't risk it. It's really such a sticky situation. I'm glad you got rid of the abusive man. Well done. :)
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• United States
6 Jul 07
When I was younger I was a bit of a hot head and didn't care about getting into fights or arguments outside in public, or anywhere. It was always about the argument itself instead of the place. Now, I am much more reserved and would prefer to take arguments like that home or have them in private places where we can discuss the problems. I have never interfered with a fight. I have always believe that is other's business and they should handle it. I wouldn't want people butting into my business, I guess.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
Like what mothers always advice their children "Stay out of trouble". Thanks for your response.
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• India
7 Jul 07
I've witnessed very often couples argueing loudly without being concious that they are in public, the young ones are more in this category, i feel its because of lack of immaturity and failing to understand and respect the other. Moreover the present trend of working style, the stress, the pressure all ends up on showering our frustration to the beloved and close ones. No, I'll not interfere in anybody's personal arguments, because on what context they argue and on what intensity they are in, we could not judge by mere words. Its better that we stay away, if things are going beyond control sometimes i might take a step forward in protecting the one who is getting hurt by the other. Recently, it happened, a girl who was a mason was working in our brothers construction place where we are building a home for him in our next plot, suddenly a man came in, my mother in law rushed to see who was the new comer who has opened our gate, by the time she could see who was it, we heard a slapping sound, that man was continously slapping her. My motherinlaw asked who was he and why was he doing that, for that he said he is the husband and its his wish. I was observing for a long, that man was so cruel and was going on hurting her, i felt this is the limit i should act. I went out and just said to him that i've called women police and i've made a complaint against him in women harrassment section, I said just because she is your wife does not mean that he can hit her to his wish wherever and however she is. I educated him about his cruel act. Next moment he took his cycle and left. Tthen i consoled her that i've not made any complaints and that she should not worry. This is me and my reactions.
• United States
7 Jul 07
My ex-wife used to demean me in front of our kids any where we were, and I didnt try to make her look like the person that she actually was. After a while the kids began to believe the lies that she was telling about me. Of course that is one of the reasons that she is an ex. It takes more of a person to stay out of a fight than it does to get into one. "Lower" animals get into fights without trying to "talk" it out.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I do not think that is appropriate behavior to argue with your loved ones in public. They lose face and are shamed by your behavior. I don't think that is right, no I would not have gotten involved because you don't know how dangerous it could get. Better to let the police handle it if it got t hat bad. I would feel bad though because I can't stand to see anyone fight like that.
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• United States
7 Jul 07
I make it a point to say 'we'll discuss this later at home' and not make a public spectile of myself or anyone else. I have witnessed a fight at a park between 2 parents and the poor child was in the middle--the mother was treating the child like a tug of war rope. It was awful. The police had to be called and the mother had to give the child to the father for visitation. I felt sorry for the child. I wouldn't get in the middle of it, but I would call 911 to break it up.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
Nope, i haven't tried it and i will not do it for sure. If things goes wrong with my husband or someone else id rather to talk it on closed doors.Put things on proper places, it is quite okey to have your anger burst out but i guess not on public places.It would be a shame for the two of us if we do it.If i would saw this on public and i know the person very well probably i would interfere but if not id rather to keep my mouth shut up and be quite.
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@orbeltadz (506)
• Baguio, Philippines
6 Jul 07
I can control my anger. So there's no question on me arguing publicly with my loved ones. If I were there, I'll just leaved them and let them realized that they're in public. Too ashame if you will interfere and aggravates more their own problem.
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@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I try to just keep moving if it is someone having a public argument. It doesn't bother me but I figure it is not my business. My hubby hates public disagreements and I myself don't care what people think. So when we are out and about and he tries to give me a problem I raise my voice and ask him if we should deal with it then and there. He always backs down because he gets embarrassed. I dont, so I win. He has learned to mostly not cause a problem out in public.
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@abroji (3247)
• India
7 Jul 07
No, I never will indulge in such public arguments with my wife. The public might have enjoyed the scene which was provided to them ticketless. Nobody with some self respect should indulge in such arguments and quarrels in public. I don't think I will interfere in such a scene, if it happened before me in a public place. However if the persons involved are known to me I may interfere. Thank you ellie.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
8 Jul 07
Thanks for your response, abroji.
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@punlonnjack (1309)
• United States
7 Jul 07
It hard to predict when an arugement will occur with individuals but i personally hold my tongue until i get home....I wouldnt get envolved unless the situation needed an emergancy assistance and at that point i think i would call an authority to handled it.I have in the past got involved in situations and acually saved a girls life from an abusive husband he when to jail.. its based on different situations whos involved and whats acually going on and how upset the situation affects you personally... but its just a bad thing all around excpecally when it get physical....hope that helped.
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@punlonnjack (1309)
• United States
7 Jul 07
It hard to predict when an arugement when will occur with individuals but i personally hold my tongue until i get home....I wouldnt get envolved unless the situation needed an emergancy assistance and at that point i think i would call an authority to handled it.I have in the past got involved in situations and acually saved a girls life from an abusive husband he when to jail.. its based on different situations whos involved and whats acually going on and how upset the situation affects you personally... but its just a bad thing all around excpecally when it get physical....hope that helped.
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@tsnadeer (89)
• India
7 Jul 07
I have also witnessed same situation many times, couple who argues without shame in public, it may be in road side or in train or in park or in beach , anyhow this is very bad attitude they are not pure lovers only the actors to share the benefit each others , normal person such us will not involve in their arguements and street watchers will watch their arguments that is it
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
7 Jul 07
I see couple arguing all the time at my job. I sell lightning, so all the time they argue on what they want. As for myself, I try to never argue in public with my boyfriend. We will wait until later. I don,t remember if that ever happen.
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