Dealing with Conflict

My usual approach is to absorb everything and get all in a tizzy. I'm not really good with handling conflict, internal or external! I tend to take things way too personal and then I loose focus. I'm having a lot of internal conflict at the moment and even some external. I have no idea how I manage to stay grounded. Ideally I would like to take a step back, look at the big picture, weigh things out and move on from there. I would like to be more rational than emotional. I let people sucker me in. People know that I get easily distracted, so when it comes to them manipulating me it's sometimes pretty easy.

Well it really depends on the situation and what I'm feeling at the time. Mostly I'm the one always trying to keep the peace. I also usually know the battles I can't win too. With those two situations I end up keeping it too myself or releasing it into a diary. Sometimes even burning the pages when I'm finished. Other times I'm pretty vocally expressive about it. I can't tell you how many times I've been labeled a troublemaker at Wal-Mart because of that LOL.

The first thing I try to do is talk about the situation, and if I can't get no answer, I just wait till things cool down, we get over it in time, I am not the one that holds grudges. I like to keep the peace.

well sometimes i dont know what to do lol, but i usually analyze the situation and try to see things from both points of view and try to decide the most positive outcome. i always confront the problem, never holding it in or ignoring it. but, i am human and have moments when i dont think at all and fly off the handle too lol. guess it depends...

I try to look at the bigger picture. Sometimes people are having a bad day and you are the one that ends up getting dumped on. That's certainly not cool but it happens so sometimes you have to stop, pull back from the situation and see if you are really to blame for someone else's meltdown. I know I snap at people when I am edgy and others may take it the wrong way. Now, if there is a clear cut problem then I pretty much do the same thing and try to find out where it started and how it can be resolved. I'm the chick that freaks out over a paper cut but can do an in-field amputation without batting an eye.

I always go to the Lord in prayer. I know that He will guide me thru any conflict/storm..whatever. I don't rely on myself as I am not perfect and don't always know what is best. God knows all and He knows what is best for me. I seek His guidance.

I address it head on. That is the only way I know to deal with it. If you go about asking others' opinions on what you should do, you end up telling too many people about the problem and ultimately influencing them about the other person as well. ~Donna

My first step it to meet it head on, follow through no matter how painful to resolve it and then put it behind me.

When I am in conflict, I face it squarely. I am open-minded of the consequence of my every decision. I am ready to accept the results. I make it sure to be strong enough so I can overcome conflicts.