Do you have to be qualified to respond to discussions?

@maddysmommy (16230)
United States
July 6, 2007 5:20pm CST
Aren't personal experiences just as good as one who is qualified? Or do you only take advice from those who have a PHD or some type of degree or has worked in that particular field? I was curious to see what others felt because in one discussion I replied to, someone asked a few of us whether we had been in that particular situation and whether we were qualified to give any advice at all on the discussion at hand? Even though I have not been in that particular situation, I based my reply on personal experiences with friends and family who have. Should I have just moved on and not replied at all because I am not supposedly "qualified"? Makes me wonder what the point of being in mylot is if I cannot express a personal view LOL
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@sid556 (30964)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I would imagine that if someone were to expect professional advise from someone with a degree that they would not come to mylot looking for advice!
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Jul 07
Exactly! thanks sid56!
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@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
Hi sid! I am with you 100%. I don't get it why anyone would look for professional advice in mylot. I mean no offense at all to mylotters here.. just that people should be open about receiving personal views.. whether it comes from Phd holders or stay at home moms.
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• United States
7 Jul 07
should i say this is a public discussion where everyone is entitled to voice out his or her opinion. I dont think there is qualification requirement to voice out your opinion.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jul 07
Let me tell you one thing that I know for sure, if you have not personally gone through something yourself your knowledge of that situation is going to be limited. I don't care how long you have studied it or how many degrees you have behind your name. I had a situation like this. My therapist was trying to tell me how I should feel and react. I told her, you have study this in a class, I have lived this, you can not tell me how this should affect me. She finally agreed that I was right.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I totally agree. That's what I was trying to point out that I was basing my opinion on personal experience and its up to the poster to accept it or not. I don't need to have a degree to answer mylot discussions LOL If they really needed professional advice, I'm sure they would look elsewhere and not ask for it in mylot. Thanks Rozie.
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@ssh123 (31083)
• India
7 Jul 07
For most of the topics, personal experience, common sense and general knowledge is more than sufficient. For some technical topics, technical knowledge is essential to make discussion more interesting.
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@ssh123 (31083)
• India
8 Jul 07
That is very nice of you. All the best in your endeavours.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I agree and I only answer discussions that I think I can add to based on my own personal experiences and so forth. Thanks ssh123 for responding.
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@lecanis (16653)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Jul 07
Personally I'm more likely to take advice from people who have been in a situation personally, or has a close friend or family member in that situation. In fact, a lot of the reason I spend so much time online is because it gives me a chance to meet people with similar experiences to my own, who understand the things I am going through at the moment. It's nice to be able to touch base with people who have been there. If I wanted a professional opinion, I would go to a professional! And I can't imagine expecting someone online to explain their credentials or feel they have to justify their answers every time they say something. That would defeat the whole purpose for me.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I'm in agreement with you too lecanis. Most of the time I take advice from those who have been through similar personal experiences like me and I'm able to understand it more clearly as well, and if i really wanted professional advice, I would not be looking in mylot for it. Thanks for your response!
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
6 Jul 07
You don't have to be qualified..Personal experiences are the best...maybe, and I am just guessing, that they wanted responses from people that actually experienced what it was they wanted to know about...not sure...I think you did the right thing..You can respond to any dicussion and if they don't like it then so be it...
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I agree its up to the poster to accept it and if not then ok! Thanks Feona :)
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
7 Jul 07
You are very welcome..
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
There is no qualification on the responding to any discussions as long as it fits to it. And besides you should always consider the discussion, you should not respond that is far-out from it. :0
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I agree with you there too milestalker, if I have no knowledge of the subject or personal experience, then it may be best to leave it alone. Thanks for responding!
• United States
7 Jul 07
Of course all mylotters speak from personal experience. That experience may come with age or education or a strong reading habit on a particular subject. None on us are experts in anything. If I were a qualified expert I would be able to bill you just for reading this.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
haha so can I bill you for responding? LOL I hear ya and it makes sense to me! thanks for your response fuzz! BTW I was called fuzz or fuzzy when I was in high school because of my hair LOL
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@foxyfire33 (10006)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I think that it really depends on the particular situation or question asked. For some personal experience really is all that is necessary. For others common sense will work and still others that are best left to qualified professionals. Generally speaking, if it needs a professional it doesn't belong here. Anyone can claim to have a PhD in a forum like this but it could prove dangerous to actually believe them. As an example let's say someone posted a picture of a mole and a supposed professional told them it didn't look cancerous. That kind of thing could put that person's life in jeopardy. There are probably issues that can be asked here that would be better answered by someone that has personally experienced it but that doesn't mean others CAN'T give their opinions too. Like a person who has never had a troubled marriage wouldn't be the BEST to ask for advice about a bad marriage but they could probably contribute at least a few helpful things. Some things only need common sense though. That's when everyone and anyone who has any can answer and shouldn't have to worry about being given a hard time about it. I have no "qualified" or "personal" experience with the problem you are asking about but I still thought I could give a good answer based on common sense. Any time you see a discussion that you want to answer ask yourself what kind of answer they are looking for. If you feel confident that you have enough information to answer it then by all means answer. If it looks to be a discussion that is outside your area of "expertise", meaning degree, work, life in general, common sense, etc., then of course you should avoid it. We shouldn't answer questions we know nothing at all about but I don't think there is anything that makes your knowledge "less qualified" than any one else's here.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Jul 07
Thank you foxyfire, your comment made a lot of sense to me and I do agree with what you said. I don't usually answer discussions that I don't know nothing about, or personally experienced myself however I may give a suggestion (if it's worth giving one) and it is up to the one who posted it to accept it or not. Thanks again for your response, appreciate it!
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
7 Jul 07
In my opinion, I do not think the person has to be "qualified" to respond to a discussion. It certainly helps if one is qualified but an "unqualifed" person might have come across such cases. He may also have his own views about the matter. It is wiser to receive a spectrum of responses from both qualified and unqualified.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Hi bighead! and I totally agree. I suppose we would be lucky if we did get qualified responses from professionals in mylot for free LOL
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@xfahctor (14122)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
6 Jul 07
My only issue in this area is when people who do not live in my country start telling me how to vote or that I shouldn't have voted for such and such. Or that So and so leader is an idiot. Or that I should feel this way about a particular thing in my government. They don't live here. I don't tell people in brittan to vote or not for tony blair, or any other country for that matter.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I understand what your saying here and I agree with it too. I wouldn't answer a post if I had no knowledge of it but if I had personal experience then I would regardless of whether I was qualified to answer it or not. Thanks xfahctor!
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@liyan97 (2128)
• Northern Mariana Islands
6 Jul 07
Hello Maddysmom! This is an interesting discussion! I feel that Mylot is not the proper place to seek professional advice, rather advice from members who have experience first hand. At times we might be lucky to have a PHD join our community, that’s if we are lucky! Why anyone would comment so rudely, astounds me! Personally I would rather get advice from individuals who have been through the situation I am struggling with. Don’t get me wrong, it is always wise to seek a professional on matters that pertain to your health and what not but then again that basically all you receive informative advice! I appreciate and cherish the responses I get from other Mylot members because they are genuine and show support! A professional delivers opinions from their professional stand point, which most times lack the support we often seek, which can be well provided by Mylot members who have been there, done that and who speak in terms that we average individuals can relate to!
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Jul 07
What a wonderful response liyan! I was about to say Amen to all of the above and more :)
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I've have always thought that if you have experienced something personally, you would have a better understanding and knowledge of that particular situation because you yourself have gone through it. Then its a lot easier to offer advice which they don't have to accept if they don't want to. Thanks again liyan for your awesome reply!
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@liyan97 (2128)
• Northern Mariana Islands
6 Jul 07
That is so true! Advice is something that you seek to comfort in you in the obstacles that ale you. Anyone can give advice, but it you and only you that can decide if it is enough for you to take to heart. Many people don’t realize that! They often confuse advice with opinion, it make you wonder what kind of help are they really seeking for…lol..
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@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
7 Jul 07
I think you should just reply whatever you wish or have to say based onyour personal experience or what you have seen from other people's experience. I mean, if people want qualified advice they would go toa shrink or something. Isn't mylot all about sharing experiences?
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
It is, and thanks for responding vampoet!
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@icedventi (155)
• United States
7 Jul 07
This forum is about the diverse group of people and the differing opinions everyone has. I don't think you need to be qualified to get your opinion on any subject, because it's just that -- an opinion. It's always nice if you have a personal story that you can relate but I don't think it's completely necessary. I, myself, only respond to topics that I have personal experience in but I can see why some people want to add their opinions to things they haven't actually done. If that makes any sense at all. :)
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Yes it does make sense, sometimes I may not have had any personal experience with a discussion but I might have an idea and I do suggest it anyway. However most of the time I only respond to discussions based on my own personal experiences and or knowledge. Thanks icedventi for responding.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 07
wt i personally think abt ur situation is the same wt otherswill or wud hv thought ,so a persons qualifications are not just the education but it can either be in the form of personal experience or in the form of observation so you are quallified if you think you have those things so never hesitate to give an openion on the right time to a right person, if u have moved on without replying then you have made a mistake but now if you replied you did right!
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I did reply based on my own personal experience and the poster was thankful to us all that did contribute for giving her some insight on her topic. I do agree with what you have said and thanks for taking time out to respond arman2004u.
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@twils2 (1812)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Hi Maddysmommy, I would think that if they're throwing the question out there, there just hopeing for anybody to anwser it. I'm not sure what kind of qualifications they were looking for but I doubt there are any licensed therapist here in Mylot. Do what I do, if you think that you have an anwser that would help the situation, then give them the anwser and then tell them why you think it may help. Thats all you can really do. Take care, Terry
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I agree Terry and that is what I do. Thanks for posting!
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
8 Jul 07
Hello,maddysmommy,i do not really care whether someone had similar experiences before,if they had,it will be fine,if they did not,they can still reply based on the general situations and make a guess,there are no qualifications for my discussions,i am happy if someone reply to me.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
8 Jul 07
hi easy888, thats nice to know. I still think though in order to understand the discussion it is often good to have had some personal experience with it, but then again giving your opinion and whether the poster takes it or not, is just as good, as long as its on track and not off track LOL thanks for replying!
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
eksakto^^
@mummymo (23706)
8 Jul 07
I totally agree with you here maddysmommy - this is a discussion forum , not a discussion forum for those qualified to do so or have had this particular experience - that just does not make sense at all! I will listen to all the advice but not necessarily follow it unless I think it is right for me! We are all here to share our thoughts, feelings and beliefs not to tell everyone what our qualifications are - that was just plain rude! Well done to you for highlighting this honey! xxx
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I totally agree mummymo and thanks for taking time out to respond. I think we are all qualified to answer discussions in certain ways, especially if you have personal experiences to back you up too. After all mylot is a discussion forum regardless if you are qualified with qualifications or not. Thanks again mummymo :):)
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Whoever told you that was out of line...this forum is designed for the average person.. I am sorry that you were treated so rudely, my friend...
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
HUGSSSSSSSS welcome back my friend and I am sooooo sorry dear!
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• United States
7 Jul 07
Thanks, my friend...I appreciate you...
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@shemah (840)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
Hey there! I see where you're coming from. It's true that some discussions even have warnings where if you do not know the answer, they would rate you -ve. But then, how would you know that your answer wouldn't be satisfactory to these people. It's not wrong to share your personal views, especially when, as you said, close friends or family have been in that situation before. No.. you don't need to be qualified to be in mylot and respond to a discussion.. These people need to be in a different forum then. :)
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I totally agre with you shemah and thanks for taking time out to respond!
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
I am happy I could use some time for some writing^^ Iam an internet adduct and I didn't like the idea or just making my eyes tired...hehehe I enjoy what I am doing, responding and posting and possibly meet good people and encounter opportuinities. I just signed in 2 hours ago and have not left the site since hehehe
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I am glad you enjoy it larusso but do you feel you have to be qualified to be able to answer these discussions"? I think all of us are and if you base your opinions on personal experiences then that just adds a lot more to the discussion, Have fun mylotting~