Figuring It All Out On Your Own
July 7, 2007 4:28am CST
You know what I hate most? Being able to give helpful advices to troubled people… but when it comes to my dilemmas, I can’t even figure out what to do. Up to now, I admit, I still seek advices from my family and friends whenever I feel bothered because they’ve helped me a lot before. I feel so blessed to have them in my life. Recently, though, I caught myself wondering why I’ve been so fiercely dependent on others for help whenever I have problems. I didn’t like the idea of being weak and helpless the least bit because I’m no longer in high school. I mean, I already went through the adversity of getting line of 7s, serving disciplinary sanctions, repairing broken friendships, undergoing agonizing heartaches, going after impossible goals, enduring distressing failures, and so on. With these difficult experiences, I should know better now, know already what to do in case these tribulations occur again, right? So how come I don’t? Or don’t I? Perhaps I already know the solutions to most of my dilemmas. The only problem is that I choose to push those solutions at the back of my mind and then rely on others’ advices instead. I guess I want to say it’s because I’m just too lazy… or just playing it safe… but reality speaks… I just don’t want to face the fact that the real solutions I know to my problems aren’t all that easy; that’s why I seek for other way out, other options. Someone had told me that if ever I would feel bugged about something or someone, I should put someone else in my shoes and think for an advice to give to that someone. Now that’s an option. I mean, I think I’m pretty good in giving good advices to people who have problems because I can think straight for their sakes. But when it’s already me who has problems, I feel vulnerable; I instantly act on impulse – that’s probably called madness. I can’t say I won’t ever again ask for advices from other people; however, I think it’s time to settle my own problems on my own if possible, if I can. This is my own realization… there will come a time that I’m going to have to be on my own – and no one can help me except yours truly. I need to be more responsible for my own problems and not always be too reliant on others for help. It’s time to grow up and take a chill pill. What do you think?