Interracial Relationships
By jazzyjess
@jazzyjess (199)
United States
July 8, 2007 6:39pm CST
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone of a different ethnicity? How did it work out? If not, what are your views on this? I'm a Caucasian woman who has been thinking of dating an Ethiopian man that I know. What are your views on this?
3 responses
@totty1969 (1468)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Hi jazzyjess,
I don't see anything wrong with mixed relationships. I am a Native American married to a Polish woman. we have been married for 15 years. It really depends on how your heart feels. Do you like him, do your both get along? Stuff like that. If you like him why not go for it.
Peace, Totty
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@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Hi Totty. Thanks for the comment. And, yes, I do find myself very drawn to him. I work at a TV station and he comes in once a week to work on one of the programs that is produced there. We've been talking to each other, just in passing, for about a year. Last week, we coincidentally ended up on the same airplane together. We ended up sitting together and found that we had a mutual attraction. He kissed me just before I moved back to my assigned seat. I haven't seen or spoken with him since then, because we've both been out of town. But, I'll see him again at the TV station later this week. In the meantime, I've been thinking about this encounter a lot, and thought I would put interracial dating up for discussion. I'm really unfamiliar with Ethiopia and Ethiopian customs, but I'm really fond of him.
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@totty1969 (1468)
• United States
9 Jul 07
It sounds like you two have something to talk about. All I can say is listen to your heart and the rest will follow. Best wishes.
Peace, Totty
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
10 Jul 07
That sounds like excellent advice. Thanks so much for the well wishes and encouragement.
@hermitcrabheaven (645)
• United States
9 Jul 07
I am married to a man that is half Filipino. We've been married 7 years and have had not problems regarding our race. The Filipino side of his family seems to respect me or at least like me, which is not always the case. They like their men to stay with Filipinas (In this family anyway).
My husband was born and raised in the United States. His mom and dad divorced when he was quite young and he was raised by his mom, who is Caucasian. He didn't learn a lot of the culture of Filipino.
What you need to consider before dating this man is how he was raised. Are his culture and beliefs very different from yours? Can your two cultures and beliefs intermingle easily, or are they way too different. You don't want to end up resenting one another because you don't believe in what they do.
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Hello hermitcrabheaven, thanks for the comment. I enjoyed reading it and found it really interesting. The man that I'm interested in was born and raised in
Ethiopia, but fled the country about a decade ago due to political unrest. He said that if he returns to Ethiopia, he will be killed. He also comes from a very large family. I think he said he has 12 siblings. I only have one. I would really have to spend some time talking with him to find out how he was raised, and about his culture and beliefs. Which, I agree, is an excellent idea. We seem to be coming from really different places. But, we are also very attracted to each other. So, I think we could only benefit from talking this through.
@jazzyjess (199)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Hi KatieS. Thanks so much for the comment. I appreciate your support. And, you're right, I'm definitely attracted to him. And, you have a good point -- love knows no color. I know I'm really looking forward to seeing him again. Plus, learning about a culture I'm really unfamiliar with could prove to be a very enlightening experience.
