Do you think you should date someone you don't know?

United States
July 8, 2007 6:49pm CST
I've always wondered why someone would go on a blind date with another person. First of all, you don't know them and you don't know if they are potentially violent. However, there are people that you might know casually from work. So you think it's alright to date them. But, do you really know anything about them, other than superficial stuff. What's your opinion on this? Do you think it's alright to date someone that you don't really know too well? Or, should you try to become their friend first and find out what you can before moving onto the romantic aspect of dating?
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• Philippines
9 Jul 07
Well, the whole reason for dating is to get to know the other person. I don't think there's anything wrong with dating but you just have to be careful where you go on your dates. If you don't quite trust that person yet then don't go to places where you'll be in danger or a possible place to commit crimes of any sort. The only thing important for you to remember is that you should be in control. If things arent going well, then you can always leave.
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• United States
9 Jul 07
That is so true! A public place is always best. And, a woman should drive herself to the location so that she can leave anytime she wants and for any reason. Excellent suggestions.
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@totty1969 (1473)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Hello beautyqueen26, First of all, never date anyone whom you work with. bad idea, I've done it and it does get messy. Second, it's always good to get to know the person before going to the next level, dating. Then you can get a better understanding of where they come from, and you get to know if they are violent. Peace, Totty
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• United States
9 Jul 07
That is very good advice! That way you could at least know if you might be compatible personality or belief wise. Some surprises should be avoided!
@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
8 Jul 07
When I was living in Florida and single I ventured onto a dating website out of curiosity. I went on a date with this one guy. I was really nervous about it so we met in a very public place. And we talked on the phone quite a bit before meeting so we could get to know each other a little bit. Everything actually turned out ok. We both decided to just casually hang out as friends before deciding to pursue a relationship. He turned out not to be a pyscho. We ended our relationship when I moved away from Florida. We stayed in contact and friends until I met back up with my fiance and got pregnant with our daughter. I just thought it was best to stop talking to him at that point.
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• United States
9 Jul 07
I am so happy to hear that you had such a positive experience with dating services. You sound like a very smart woman anyway, so I'm not surprised that you would have opted to get to know him in advance before taking the relationship to the dating arena. And, I'm happy to hear that you found love. How wonderful and romantic!
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Hi Beautyqueen, To me, the whole reason for dateing is to get to know the person. If you dont feel comfortable being alone with the person, then suggest a double date or meeting at a coffee shop or some place public. You should never allow yourself to be pressured into doing something your not comfortable doing. I do suggest staying away from coworkers, if something goes wrong it can get messy. Take care, Terry
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
Hi beautyqueen26 i think its ok to date someone you don't know. Not that i patronize strangers, its just that sometimes those persons whom you meet the first time can make a good impression on you. In which, it might lead to someting else or something not good. On the precautionary side, just make sure someone knows you went on a blind date, tell your friend about the meeting area, time and day. Actually text your friend about it during the date, in that way you'll have an extra eye that can watch over your back :)
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• Indonesia
9 Jul 07
If I have to be alone with that someone,,no thanks,...If I'm going with friends, okay,...getting more friends is fine with me :)
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I never did the blind date thing myself. I met my husband in a class in college when I was 20 and haven't dated anyone else since. But I am like you as far as my thoughts on the topic. I can't imagine that I would have been much of a blind dater. If a friend wanted to fix me up with someone I would have told them to have a bar-b-que and invite us over or something like that. I'm all about being somewhat friends first... but that is all I have ever known and it worked out fabulous for me.
• United States
27 Jul 07
For me, the friendship aspect is the deal breaker. If a guy didn't want to be my friend first, then he'd have to move on. I think guys are more likely to be civilized to their female friends than just random females they happen to be dating. But, then again, there is that friendship jinx that says if a guy is your friend first, nothing will ever develop beyond the point of friendship. Happy to see that did not apply to you and your spouse! Best wishes on happiness. Be well.
@susan489 (19)
• United States
9 Jul 07
exactly, you dont know them and the chances you getting along are very slim. i like to meet people and talk to them first ;)
• Brazil
9 Jul 07
I would never ever ever go to such dates. First of all, I just go out with people I already know, like friends, family, coworkers ( sometimes!). I also don't like to go out very often, I prefer to stay home, or when I go out I prefer going to restaurants and to watch a movie. And what I do most is bring my friends home, or going to their homes, so we can cook together, talk about nothing... That's it, but go out with someone you have never seen before, I think is crazyness, this person may hurt you, or if not, what will be your conversation about? Maybe he/she likes clubbing and you prefer cinema. So, that's no reason, at least for me.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Isn't everyone a stranger before you get to know them? The same reason you make friends with a stranger is the same reason you go out on a date with a stranger. You get to know them and then the relationship moves on or ends all depending on how the 'getting to know you' part goes. Plus, if everyone you know is married what are you supposed to do? Not date because you don't want to date a stranger? Plus, Blind dates a lot of people get set up on through friends and if this person is your friend they probably did not set you up with a perfect stranger to them! So...yeah of course you should date someone you don't know, because that's who everyone you know was before you knew them.
@rina08 (68)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
well for me, we should try to become friends before goin something serious or before dating with him. Maybe we should have a daily communication in order to know him well. And having a daily conversation or daily communication and by means of that, we would know each other better, and if things is getting okay between us then we must set a date and go out with each other. Imagine dating with someone you really don't know is too bad.. why? Because you might know that the person your dating is not that good, and you'll just be in trouble. So better know him first before dating..
@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
If i'll gonna date a person who is totally stranger i mean i don't have any idea or any background of him, say where he work or we don't have any friends in common. I guess it is a bad idea to date with him. We can't tell the possibilities which will happen today. For safety reason, never go out for a date with someone you do not know, if ever better to have a companion in meeting this person in the first and second time.