Some Are More Happy With Their Lives
By worldwise1
@worldwise1 (14885)
United States
July 10, 2007 12:55am CST
I know that not everyone is so happy with their life. This prompted me to ask if you are fairly happy, not happy at all, or reasonably happy. I think that most of us go through life deluding ourselves, thinking our happiness depends upon some person who is in our life. I don't think this is the true answer because you can't base your happiness on someone else. What do you think?
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
10 Jul 07
I think if you cannot be happy from within, you will be waiting a long time to find true, lasting happiness outside. Your inner feelings can be grounded in permanence, since you can always choose to be happy. Everthing in the outside world is not permanent. So, the very attractions in the outside world that you depend upon to make you happy or that you have based your happiness upon, can be gone in any moment. The trick to being happy is seeing life as a moment to moment existance, and that you can be happy in any one moment and carry it forward to the next moment.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Jul 07
That is the true lesson in life, sigma, that happiness comes from within. In a world filled with people striving to accumulate more and more "things" the meaning of happiness can easily be lost. Just as Heaven is free, so is happiness. When I look back, I know that I felt happier when I had less. It's like giving a child too many things. Soon they will not appreciate them if you give them too much. Instead, give them the gift of knowing how to be happy without a lot of material things.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
10 Jul 07
I think if you are happy within yourself then everything around you seems to work out ok. I think people in your life do play a big part but not fully. It's what you yourself make of your life (hope that makes sense).
I am fairly happy and content with my life right now. I have a wonderful husband that works very hard for us, while I work at home (very hard as well LOL) taking care of my soon to be 5 year old son. I don't need to work (well not at the moment) and the fact that I spend most of my time with my son, makes my day worth while. I still get to do things I like to do (within reason) and enjoy it while doing it. I have been able to turn my life around from being crap to wonderful, all because I chose to leave an sick 7 year relationship and get on with life. I have visited and lived in two different countries, experienced two different cultures and still enojoying all the same. My family play a huge part in my life and sometimes that is what gets me through, my family (meaning my hubby and son) keeps me motivated.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Jul 07
That's wonderful, maddysmommy! Life is so fleeting that we should all grab at whatever chance we get to be happy. I used to be a very unhappy person until I figured out that I was the main cause of my own situation. Once I got that through my head, things turned around for me. Other than mourning the loss of my mom and my big sister this past year, I can truly say that I am happier than I have been for a very long time. Thanks for your response.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
11 Jul 07
So sorry to hear that worldwise, that must of been really tough to have gone through all in just one year.
@winky73 (1404)
• United States
10 Jul 07
I think you are absolutely right.You have to be happy being you and being able to be happy on your own.....before you can be really happy with someone else.
At the moment I would say that I am somewhat happy.There are a lot of things I need and would like to change......but the changes are not that easy and it's going to take a lot of patience on my part....wich I don't have very much of and that results in me feeling more and more unhappy.
For me to be happy and satisfied....I need to feel like I accomplished something and that is very hard to do at times.So in a way I make my own unhappiness....by setting to high of a standard for myself.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Jul 07
You only need to look within yourself, winky, to find true happiness. Count your blessings. That is very important. My best friend gave me an excellent tip a few years ago; the value of "Quiet Time" is undeniable. Now, no matter how busy my day is, I take a little time out just to be quiet. I turn off tv, radio, or whatever might cause a distraction. Sometimes I will read my Bible, or a novel I am into; and sometimes I will just lie down for a while and be alone with my thoughts. Don't drive yourself too hard. The things you want will come to you in time. Good luck.
@chari_dc (492)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
i'd have to say that i am fairly happy with my life. i don't always get what i want but i try to content myself with what i have but still have goals to reach. my children give me much joy. they give me a reason to go on, to strive harder and never give up. my husband is my source of inspiration. my parents are my guiding light. and i believe enough in a god who oversees everything that's happening in my life.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
10 Jul 07
That's great chari. Wouldn't it be wonderful if everyone could be thankful for the goodness that they have in their lives and not worry so much about what they don't have? The love and support of your family should be uppermost in your recipe for true happiness. I wish you continued happiness in your life.
