How to Let Your Daughter Grow Up
By onerygirl
@onerygirl (549)
United States
July 10, 2007 1:57pm CST
I have a 23 year old daughter that is married and on her own. She even has a child. Today she had surgery and I found myself almost at odds with my son-in-law as to what should happen after surgery.
It should be easy to back away and let someone else else care of her since I have been her only parent for 23 years but I was amazed at the emotions I felt.
Have you felt this way and how did you back away without feeling cast aside?
2 responses
@luvcatzzz (207)
• United States
11 Jul 07
she's always gonna be your baby. i have a 26 year old son and he's still MY baby. but i have to make myself back off and let him do his thing. i'm sure your son in law will take good care of her, but do let them know that you're always available to them if they need you. and then leave it at that ... checking on her occasionally, calling her to chat... just don't be invasive. it's hard. oh boy it's hard. :-D and please don't feel cast aside... they have to grow up and leave the nest ... happened to me and my mom but now that i'm 47, she's my very best friend.
@onerygirl (549)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thanks for responding. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't going nuts. I actually never thought I would have this kind of response. My duaghter is very mature, went off to college, got married, had a baby and then I about lose it when she has minor surgery? I felt like a goof.
She and I are very close but I want her to talk over more of the stuff we discuss with her husband but don't want to make her feel like I don't want to be involved. Just weird feelings.
Thanks.
