Do we get bored with the same person as spouse and hence we go for divorce ?
By akumei1269
@akumei1269 (1749)
India
July 10, 2007 1:59pm CST
Divorce is a common phenomenon of today's society . There are many reason for detoriation of the relation . But what is the fndamental factor resulting in divorce ?
In a recent informal debate on this topic among some of my collegues ,one of my friends ,who is a stern supporter of Freudian psychology opined that it is the boredom of seeing the same person as spouse continuosly for too long time that fuel the break up of the married relationship .Thus according to him it is for a change .
Do you go by this argument ?
5 responses
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
11 Jul 07
I do not know how you get bored of someone you love? How does that happen? We are not talking about a toy here or a new car we are talking about a human being; the dynamics is totally different of how love for someone is different then a object! Do you think so? Getting bored with your spouse might suggest you never truly loved them in the first place. Maybe just in like with them. Would you agree with that?
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
10 Jul 07
I think that lumping all divorces into one category or reason is a mistake....SOME divorces maybe because of bordem but I personally think MANY are due to ppl NOT living their lives and ultimately their marriages how THEY see fit....Ppl are IMO far too caught up in doing what they think their peers, families and society in general wants them to do so rather than the couple deciding what their marriage is about and defining it etc they let others do it for them and the end result is that it just doenst work.....I believe (as does my husband) thats why my marriage has lasted so long and works so well...We do it OUR way and dont really care what others think or whether or not others understand it....And in spite of it all (all the trauma and hardtimes) we're still together goin strong nearly 10 yrs later ya know...
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@pendragon (3348)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I don't think it's boredom, I think it's inability to compromise and unwillingness ti grow.People get married and epect the whole world to change a be exactly what they want it to be, especially if they shell out the dough for a pristine weddingm,they think of it all as magical and not a compromise and something worth working for.I hardly ever agree with Freud,lol.
@gilly123 (157)
•
10 Jul 07
Yes i fully agree with your friends,i think if we were all honest with each other,men and women,they would say yes,we do get fed up,and dispondent with each others company,i don`t think in all honesty,we were mean`t to stay with one partner,i think it is a genetic traite we all have,its sad but its a fact!
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@babostwick (2036)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I think there's many reason for it but it depends on the situation. I guess boredom could be it or possibly it could be abuse involved. I hope to not have that problem and be the woman I love for as long as we both shall live.
It could be money issues or anything. It just depends or just grow out of love. I don't know exactly. It just depends on the circumstances involved.
