a worried mother

You are not a bad mother. You are a good disciplinarian and your daughter is 13. She needs to be told what is right and wrong. My daughter is almost 13 and we have similar problems. She has a very bad attitude sometimes and is moody much of the time. Most of it is hormones, identity crisis, they get older and don't understand their place in life. So, just be patient, but don't think your a bad mom. You need to discipline and ensure that she obeys the rules of your home or your problems will become much worse.

You are not bad at all. I have four children, a 23 year old daughter, 21 year old son, 18 year old daughter and a 5 year old son.. From going through three of my children's teen years, this is normal.. She is testing her boundaries because she is where she will becoming more and more independent.. Both boys and girls have a rough time of it, but I noticed that when it came to my daughters, they fought with me more than my son did. I think I read somewhere that daughters do fight with their Mom's more so during the teen years. It is good that you do keep some restrictions on her, for she is still a child, but maybe you should also consider giving her a little more responsibly. You didn't mention the age of the little sister, but is there something your 13 year old can teach the little one? Something as simple as showing her how to make something. My son was very artistic, so one way was for him to show his little sister how to draw something..It gives the older sibling a feeling of purpose and a more mature outlook..

don't worry you are not a bad mother you are just trying to give discipline but while doing this you also have to consider that your daughter is at that stage wherein she does not know where to put herself 'adolescent' all of us passed thru that stage so just be a little patient it will pass.