Request for Prayers and Good wishes ...
By byfaithonly
@byfaithonly (10698)
United States
July 11, 2007 6:59am CST
Ok, kind of an update also but as I posted in a discussion a couple weeks ago my youngest son, 16, got into some trouble with the law and had to go to court.
Well, he has to go again today at 1:30 and I'm nervous. I'm asking for prayers for him that he will learn a serious lesson from all of this (in a way I think he has).
Also asking for encouragment for Mom :) Little Miss goodie two shoes here I've never done anything to break the law and this business with police, courts, judge, prosecuting attorny has my nerves in a wreck.
I want him to be punished for what he did but at the same time he's my baby and I don't want to see any harm come to him either - I'm between a rock and a hard place. If he is locked up for a time it could go either way - scare him into straightening up or get him in contact with some who are even worse than him...
Ok, few errands to run before court and trying to keep a positive attitude. It's in God's hands what happens and am praying the judge will do as God would have her do.
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19 responses
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Hi Faith, I'll keep you and your son in my prayers. I know when I was young, just the thought of spending the night in juvy or jail straightened me up. With all the trouble I got in, I was lucky never to have stayed the night in a jail cell. Hopefully he will get off with a bunch of hours of community service. That might do him some good. Take care and try not to worry to much, Terry
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thank you so much Terry I truely do appreciate your prayers and encouragment. One of my younger sisters just called - she's the expert on the court system, not the sister who is the attorny but from experience of her own 'trouble'... Hard to believe those two are sisters :( the lawyer and the 'problem child' who still hasn't changed her ways and she's done time in jail (drinking is her big problem)...
Will keep you updated and thank you again.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Well, he came home with me, go back in 2 weeks for sentencing but his attorny and prosecutor worked a deal - lowered the charges so he won't do time. I'm a little disappointed but I do think it put a good scare into him when the judge said he was looking at adult jail time because at 16 they felt he was too old to fit into the juvy system. I don't understand it all but he's looking at some heavey probation time.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Thanks so much sweetie - he's home! Will have to go back but looks like he's going to get off easy this time but I honestly think he has learned a lesson. You can read some of my prior comments for more details on 'our day in court'
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
hugs to you also dear - I'm so far behind on everything I can barely see straight and seem to just be getting further behind.
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@kareng (55130)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Prayers, good wishes and thoughts of you today! As you said it is in God's hands and I'm sure you will be able to handle it! Remember they say, he doesn't give us anymore than we can handle?
Take care and chin up!
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Thank you dear - I was too drained by the time we got home to do anything but note I said 'we' - yes, he came home but has to go back in 2 weeks for sentencing which looks like it will be only probation.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Your right - was home and read but was just too tired to respond to anyone or anything. He's home and looks like most he's going to get is probation.
@maribea (2366)
• Italy
12 Jul 07
my dear dear friend, of course I am here to support you, to comfort you, to tell you that I am praying that everything goes well...of course he is your son and you will always love him and I am sure that this is the only thought that comforts him in this moment in which he is frightened and scared and confused. He needs you more than ever and all the love you can give him. And he needs time to learn his lesson and find his way in this difficult world. I hope the judge will be clement and give him the opportunity of a second start in his young life. All my encouragement to you, to this dear mother you are and this son of yours who is confused and needs to let his mom love him.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
ciao friend and thank you so much for your prayers and all - he's home but goes back in 2 weeks for formal sentencing - this court business is crazy, he confessed, why can't they just give him his punishment. This is more of a punishment for me than anyone else having to run back and forth back and forth.
Oh well it's in God's hands and we've all learned some lessons from this. I do think he's learned but I'm exhausted. I haven't forgotten about your project either just has been crazy around here and haven't seemed to find a free minute - I will get on that though.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
11 Jul 07
I know your feelings and I feel the pain in your heart sometimes we intend to give our child a lesson but if we think what the process he will get through it is hard for us as a mother. But
Don't worry too much friend, things will get through in a nice and peacefull way.
And you have my prayers just have faith always.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
LOL - one thing I do always have, faith/Faith :) all 140 pounds at least :)
Hardest thing yesterday was setting in the hallway at the court house when they brought a young boy maybe 11 or 12 through in chains. It broke my heart to see one so young with chains on his hands and feet. Just a baby and in that situation. I know it would kill me to see one of my children like that.
Son came home with me - will have to return but looks like he won't be doing 'time' or 'chains'.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I know exactly how you feel. My son had troubles with the law when he was a teenager. As a teenager I never had troubles with the law. I sure got an education, somehow someway you will get thru all of this. Things will work out for the best. I used to talk to God all the time. I would just hand my son over to him and ask him to take care of it for me. Things always worked out in ways that was for the best. I did live thru the teenage years. My son is now 28 yrs, old with 3 sons of his own. "Revenge is mine at last". Take care and keep the faith, my thoughts and prayers and good wishes are with you.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
LOL - I know what you mean 'live thru the teenage years' My oldest is 31 now and there were many times I didn't think I would survive that time. I do honestly think my age has much to do with how much harder it is dealing with the youngest -
Revenge - my #2 son, 29, said one time he's not going to have kids because all those years I told the oldest I hoped he had 10 just like him the second son was sharing a room with the older one and he's afraid that may have rubbed off on him and he may get a kid like his older brother...
Thank you for your thoughts and prayers, baby is home for now at least and looks like he's going to end up with only probation.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
12 Jul 07
hi faith... i will definitely keep you and your son in my prayer... just trust in Him and let Him do the rest... if your son has to be punished, then he has to accept it... he has to learn to bear the consequences of his actions since he is not a child anymore... hopefully, the judge will be a fair one and the court procedures will go smoothly... take care and God Bless you... please keep us updated on your son's news...
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Thank you so much for your prayers dear - I do have trust in the Lord and know He will get us all through this. I think the judge did put a big scare into him yesterday which I really wanted but think what effected both he and I the most was while setting in the hall while his lawyer (one of my sisters) and the prosecuting attorney wheeled and dealed a young boy not 11 or 12 was escorted down the hall in chains. I nearly cried for this child and my son made the comment - he's just a kid I can't believe they did that. The look on my son's face said 'I don't want that to happen to me.'
Sentencing isn't for 2 more weeks but does look like he could get just probation which will be good.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
16 Jul 07
You can only leave it to God to help with your son. My children have been cause for my worries and I have had to turn them over to God. I have tried my best.
We raised them to be different people. The choices they make are up to them. Huggers to you.
@mimatexas (1818)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Hi, Faith, how are you doing? How are things going with your son? I really hope he doesn't spend too much in jail if he ever does. I am praying for you and your son and your mother.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
Awww faith, I'm really sorry to hear that you need to go through all of this. As always, you never failed to amaze me with your strength and toughness in coping with all of this thing.
Always remember that God is always with you. Here's one interesting article I read in a book. To be brief: None is strong enough to hold you together when life starts breaking apart. You need an unshakable center. My thoughts and prayers will always be with you.
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@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
11 Jul 07
I have said a prayer that all is well with your son case. Usually for first time offender the court is lenient but you never know, faith sometimes intervene. I hope your son learn from his mistake and come out of this a better man.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Well, you were correct - it looks like he's going to get off with just probation. I do think he has learned from all of this but he has to go back for sentencing in a few weeks, thank you so very much for your prayers, I know they do work.
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
12 Jul 07
thanks for the update... chin up! You'll be ok. As with much of parenting, it's learn as we go along... no one is a born parent...
how's the plan for him to work with his brother going?
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Afraid the plans to go to Colorado have gone by the way side. I think the 2 'boys' had some disagreement or something but youngest yesterday told his attorny, one of my sisters, that he would rather stay here because out there all he has is his brother but here he has a lot more family support.
LOL - I've always said it's too bad kids don't come with instructions. With 4 kids I've seen each one is totally different and as you said it's learn as you go.
Thank you for your encouragment - sentencing is 2 weeks but looks like he's going to get off with just probation.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I will pray for you. I hope this has scared your son straight. I can understand what you are going through as parents these kinds of things is the last thing we want for our kids. I did not read your original post, but I know in lots of cases if it is a first offense depending on the offense the judge sometimes are lenient.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Jul 07
How is your son at this time Faith? He sounds so troubled and confused. It's not up to you or the courts to settle this situation it's up to your son. He is the only one who can change the situation and fix things. I he can't communicate with his sister who has been where he is, if he doesn't realise that his family are on his side then I don't like his chances.
I lost my youngest daughter to the court system. Due to a mix up she was removed from my care but by then she had seen and done things I could not even imagine...she was 13.
I wish I could give you a magic formula to make things right but I think you just have to continue as you are and trust the Lord to guide your son in the direction He wants him to take. Hugs to you dear friend.
@deanna28979 (75)
• United States
12 Jul 07
I will pray for you hon. I have a 18 year old boy that started getting in to trouble when he just turned 17, the last year has been you know what for us, and I am scared every moment he is away from us. I will pray for you, Please pray for me that I catch up with my bills and do not lose my house. Thank you and God Bless
@darwingila (2)
• India
12 Jul 07
It is well known to all that law would do its own duty.Your thought is welcome.You should have developed into good path.Never mind.If he is locked up,you can take him under bail.One thing you should do, that you should pray keep on for him for his better future.Ok
