How Do I Learn To Not Over React??

Be kind to yourself and allow self-acceptance. There is nothing wrong with you. Be aware of self-talk and what you say about yourself so that you can be positive about yourself and your life. It is not that you are overly sensitive or too emotional. Framing the situation and your reactions that way minimizes your feelings and you in a way that makes it sound like there is something wrong with you. You deserve to be and feel safe. You deserve to feel good about yourself. You deserve good things in your life. It is unfortunate you have suffered many traumas and tragedies but that does not make you unfortunate. It sounds like you may suffer from post traumatic stress. Knowledge is power. Be aware of what triggers your post-traumatic-stress-like feelings. I'm reluctant to refer to your feelings and reactions as PTSD because it would be unfair to pretend to know for sure but it certainly sounds like it. That is something you already know or can talk with a therapist about. However, most people have some kind of negative reaction to things that trigger emotional memories whether we consciously recognize them or simply have an emotional or physical response. That is why I say it is important to be aware of your triggers and have a plan on how to handle them. That includes centering yourself with some of the excellent suggestions mentioned in other posts. I applaud your efforts in that you are aware of many things going on inside of you. Self-talk, when confronted with a situation that triggers emotional responses to past events is key. Take a deep breath and remind yourself, "That was then. This is now."

I ask myself, "Is it worth it to get upset at this person? &, will anything productive come out of being upset at this person?" If not, you just have to NOT be upset. It is very hard to do. You have to practice this a lot, and be very persistent about it. I have been doing this for years and years, and it's still hard. I am like you. Very emotional. I love to throw fits. I love to get loud, so everyone will know I'm mad. Another good technique is deep breathing, or meditation. Take yourself a time-out if you can. I hope you learn to control your terrible temper!! :o)