i feel "indifferent" with my bf
By michecu
@michecu (637)
Philippines
July 12, 2007 2:31am CST
i don't know if it's normal or not.... we've been together for 4 years and had a break up on the 2nd year but after 6 months, we got back together... since the second time around, the relationship has really improved compared to the previous. However, last night, i suddenly realized that i've been treating my bf indifferently -- well not really that i don't really care but that i really don't mind much about him. i don't know if this could be a start of a downhill climb for us, but I really would hate to see us apart. I don't know...can anybody please enlighten me? I'd really appreciate your advise.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Maybe you need to get away for the day just the two of you.Somewhere that is not expensive, or far away. Do something you both like to do.Reconnect.
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@michecu (637)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I really appreciate your advise. Ours is actually a long distance relationship since he's in a different region -- (well, it's like 4 hours travel on a bus) -- so we rarely see each other. We only keep in touch through phone call and text. We used to go on short vacation during summer but last summer we were not able to go out because I've been busy with my Masters degree. He visited me last weekend, though it was one of those quality times together but still i feel quite distant to him.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Jul 07
Oh, it is a long distance relationship. That makes it hard to have date night.Just follow your heart. If your boyfiend is the one, then you will feel it.
@Jessem (372)
• Mauritius
12 Jul 07
I dont think its noraml koz u should have care about him if you really loved him. It seems that you are no longer interested in him and that he has lost the the place he had in your heart after the break up. I would advise you to end this realtionship without feelings and this would be better for both parties.
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@michecu (637)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
Yeah, you could be right....but i'm not really ready to leave the relationship. I know deep in my heart that i love him though at this point i think i that the feeling is not too strong. WE did break up 2 years ago, but we've already patched things up and I could even say that we're much better now...so i don't think i've lost interest in him and rest assured he still have his place in my heart and that, i swear, will stay with him forever.
i think its just that theres a slight shift in my priorities coz i've been busy with my studies and career and i haven't given him that much attention. Nevertheless, I should have at least warm feelings for him which for now I don't...and that's my concern...
I am now made aware of this, and I would really like to save the relationship as early as possible...
