Hitting children getting low grade in exams especially younger ones

I think scolding and hitting your daughter will only make her more anixous about her tests in the future. You don't say how old your daughter is but from my experience it is better to encourage. My 2nd son is in junior high school and I was shocked by his first test result, and of course we had the round of shouting and sulking. With the last lot of tests he did a bit better but not as good as hoped. This time I just let it go and I was surprised that he realised himself that he had been lazy and needs to focus more when tests come up. Kids don't realise the value of education this comes with maturity.

You HIT your child? What kind of parent hits a child? There are better ways to discipline a child who does poorly in school or does anything else "wrong" besides hitting them and yelling at them. Physical and verbal violence are both forms of abuse. How would you feel if your boss were to hit you if you did something not to his or her liking?

I think that if you continue to spank her for making bad grades it could discourage her. If she does do well on her test just embrace her. Go over the test with her and help her understand it but don't be upset when you are helping her. Learning is suppose to be fun. When I was in school I did not do all that well in organic chemistry. I studied and memorized so much in that subject,but when it came down to the test,I just did not do as well as I wanted and I really did study. I did not pass it the first semester. It was the first time that I failed a class and studied. My parents did not punish me they encouraged me and told me that they believe that I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me. I felt so motivated. I took it again in the summer and had a tutor and made an A. Let school be fun and praise her for all her efforts and say encouraging things when she does well and when she does not do so well.

Hi hearts_melodies, As a parent, i can understand your anxiety over your daughter education especially with the competitive nature of our society. But teaching, guiding and bringing up children requires lots of patience and my advice is not to hit her when she does not do well in her exams. It is counterproductive as all she remembers is the pain and fear. Besides, like you said, you will feel bad after hitting her. You might want to look into why she is being careless or forgetful during her exams and there are lots of educational techniques in the market to overcome this. But most important of all is to have patience and i am sure your daughter will get better. Regards.

you dont have to hit your kid just because of the mistake, the more you do that, it will become worst. just say to her that ok, next time study more so you will be correct next time. encourage her,she needs your support not that she will be scared to you. my sister in law is like you, she hit my nephew everytime there is a mistake even only one. and my nephew feel discourage after, i saw my nephew how he study hard, but we're not perfect. so please next time dont do that... have a nice day

Every child feels as if they can't do enough to make their parents proud. This is shown when we get screamed at for not spelling a word correctly, or getting a B on our report card. We know we are a disappointment some times and we don't need to be beaten or reprimanded for it. When we fail we not only fail you but we fail ourselves to. In a time like that we don't need to be scolded we just want to hear the words "I know you can do better but nice job (unless its a really bad grade)."

yes me too do the same i teach my niece at home i kow she is brilliant girl and sh can remember is careless and always make mistake in exams and secure lowest marks. it really makes me upset but whenever i hit her i r4ally donot feel regret beacauser i hit her so thjat she get aware in her studies not to take revenge with her. so u too do not feel so but remember never hit the child that he/she would get injured badly

I am not sure how bright or bad your child was in the exams. But the fact that you scold or even hit your child for her mistake, tends me to conclude that she is not that bad. Because if it was too bad then you would not have been so anxious. As I see things here in my place, the parents are the real competitors in the examinations. They cannot tollerate the loss of even a single percentage. Education is not all about getting super marks and grades. It is the basic necessity for understanding the world and life. We should let the child to enjoy education. But now it is a burden upon them. Targets are fixed by the parents. I think we should not get provocated, at the failuers in exams, to beat our children. This will cause the child to fear and hate studying, developing anxiety in the child. So it is better to follow some psychological approach in the matter to get better result.

I think it's wrong of a parent to hit their child, you're just going to cause her to stress out about getting things wrong & if she does, she wont want you to see it coz she knows you're gonna smack her one :( Did you ever think the things she gets wrong are the ones you don't help her enough with? Education is important, i agree, but it's not worth abusing your children over. Kids need play time & personal time, not parents smacking them when they get things wrong in a test. Instead of scolding or hitting your daughter, ask her what she's having trouble with & then see if it can be fixed. Also, you're probably not the best person to help coz things change over time & they are taught differently to how we used to be taught - maybe if you want her to do better you should get a tutor but remember, studying isn't everything & if you push too hard, you'll end up regretting it later on. Let her be a kid & play, when she's older, is when she should be more concerned with studying & then you can think more about making sure she studies.

I think that what you are doing (hitting and scolding) only leads to poor behavior of your child. Why don't you try to encourage her instead and let her enjoy her studies and the stage of life she is having but of course with responsibility to study and knowing the importance of education. Much pressure on her may lead to some psychological disturbance in the future and would just make her feel a failure. Not only that,you're just letting gaps between you to build and I know you would not let that happen, so maybe you should try the other way around and see what happens. Earn the love and respect of your daughter not fear.