Cancer Made My Friend's Gf Can't Have Children.....
By viollet_ry
@viollet_ry (968)
Indonesia
July 13, 2007 3:47am CST
My friend lately has a new gf for the last few months. But turned out that she had ever got cancer at her pelvis. Although it's ok now but the doctor said she would never can have children anymore. This makes my friend so sad coz he does love her and wont leave her but he also wants to have children of his own. I told him if he really loves her he could adopt children for them but he is still confused coz he doesnt know if he would want that coz till now he still prefer to have his own. And this matter makes him stressed. Do you agree with me? Coz I think if we (women)love someone we will be with him but sometimes I think men wont have the same thougt bout it.
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4 responses
@SweetJasmine (89)
• China
13 Jul 07
I am sorry to hear about that.It is really a difficult problem.But I think the most important thing is her disease.Cancer is one of the most serious diseases which will take away her life at anytime in future.I think the first thing is how to save her life rather than how to have a baby.If her life can't be saved,not to mention her ability of having babies.After the condition is stesdy,I think they should go to adopt a baby.Maybe you can't change the situation,but you can change your mind.Right?
@viollet_ry (968)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 07
Its really a difficult problem. Although everything is fine now, but there is still possibilities that it will come again. Hope just she will be fine and my friend will think the like us
@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
13 Jul 07
this is extremely sad. It is natural instinct to want to have your own children but it is also a natural instinct for humans to fall in love and be partners with that person forever. I guess if he really loves her he'll stay with her. It must be very disappointing for both. He shouldd also be aware that his girlfriend would be feeling so miserable right now and also possibly a failure. because she can't give him children so he should be comforting her as much as possible. On the other hand, there are a lot of young babies/children who need loving parents and i'm sure they can give a child a loving home.
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@viollet_ry (968)
• Indonesia
13 Jul 07
That is what I convience him about love. And you are right, let's say although its not been a problem to my friend that his gf can't have children but she will feel so miserable if thinking that she can never give achildren for her beloved.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 Jul 07
Usually it is the woman who feels worse about it, not the man. It depends on their circumstances. Men either want their own children because they feel they are the only ones left to continue their line, but if they have many brothers and sisters, they do not feel that urge and can be persuaded to adopt. With him wanting his own children, there could be a problem. It could be that your friend is an only child and him having children would mean more to him then if he came from a large family. And I gather that this girlfriend already has children, but unless she gave them or her or him up for adoption, she must really be suffering. If they do decide to get married and adopt, it would be best that they adopt children who look as much as they would if she had given birth. Then the children will look like both parents, and he will love them and believe they are his own.
@viollet_ry (968)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 07
I m sure too that his gf will more sad than him reminding she can't give birth anymore. I hope time will make him feel like we want him to
@viollet_ry (968)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 07
You are right. I think all come together at a time so he will just need some times until he can receive this fact.
