The Truth about men and marriage?
By touchnshine
@touchnshine (2821)
India
July 13, 2007 12:57pm CST
I've read that men only really get married because it's expected of them...not because they really want to. This bothers me!
I do know that less women want to marry nowadays, too, in order to concentrate on their careers, etc, and are more committment-phobed than ever before. But I want it all: marriage, career, family.
People always ask me why do I want to get married so bad. I just do!! I've dreamt of it my whole life, but I'm 25 yrs. old still looking for The One. I keep watching all of my friends make this dream come true when they haven't even really planned it, for them it just happens. Everybody thinks I'm crazy for being anxious, cuz I'm still "young"...hello!! I'm not "young" enough to date for 5 yrs. like they did, then get proposed to, get married, have babies. I feel sorry for the next guy I'm serious with, because I will be in a huge hurry to marry and start a family. I won't change my mind about any of it. So am I screwed or what?
What is the truth about men and how they really feel about marriage? Am I desperately hoping for a fantasy that will never come true?
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7 responses
@subathra (3519)
• India
14 Jul 07
Actually i feel its both this gender who want to marry and settle in their life.Life with parents and other family members is different and whether a men or women cannot live thier rest of life with them.They need a separate companion for them to care , love specially to them.That is marriage bondage.
women enters this institution little early and that is because of parents who want thier girl to settle early and finish their responsibility of giving their daughters hands to a caring husband who will take care of all her needs in future.But all the dreams about marriage will not come true which i believe.Hope we need to adjust many things to make our life with our partner comfortable.
@bowtieguy (5915)
• United States
3 Sep 07
I guess that is true for some men, when I proposed to my ex I did it because I loved her and wanted to start a family with her have kinds and move into a nice house, the american dream.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
16 Jul 07
Your thinking, I would say is on the dot. 25 years is the most appropriate age to get married and if you have desire to get married, my advice would be...no point in making delay. If you get married at an appropirate age, you can grow your family timely and by the time your children get younger, you would be young also, so it will be easier for you to bring them up in the best possible manner. Late marriage, I see, have no fruitful advatages, late marriages will always be problematic.
You will have plenty of time to adjust yourself in the married life, if you get married timely.
My very best wishes are with you....and I wish you have a very very successful married life....so do not think twice....move ahead and go ahead with your plans.
(Your discussions have made me think......how deep and intelligently you anaylse the issues....simply outstanding...your thinking is of the level of a great genius. Full marks to you.)
@rb200406 (1824)
• India
19 Jul 07
Marriage is true eye opener.Most of the womn live in fantacy tht i will have husband children & many dreams but marriage in itself is not a dream.It takes efforts & a reality check to sustain a relationship.it is nice to feel good but not to live in dreams land.best of luck .Hope you will be married soon with lots of children.
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
i see you really had this big dream of creating a great happy family..i think its great for you to think this big..everybody wants to have a family someday, have akids and marry the right match..
living in todays world, seldom that we see people get married to build family..what is usual was they tend to live in together before they settle down..that is a practical way of getting into this kind of stuf..woman had became a worrier of todays world..making the assurance that they are marrying the right guy for them or they would screw up because they married so early..
mind you, every woman had dreamt of getting married..walk in isle and feel the hilarious feeling of saying I DO and their vows..just that you really attach to your dream thats why its frustrating you..it will come on the perfect time..if God know's your ready for responsibilty of a commitment, He'll reaveal the right person under the right circumstances..for now, enjoy your life being single because you can never do what singles do when you get married..
@Sara_arman (20)
• Lebanon
14 Jul 07
hmmm you are right though but wt i thinkk is men really dont wanna get married if they can get free ses but only descent gys who are religious usually musslims get married coz its one of the sunnth of our holy prophet plus they wanna raise their family also ...but normally christian cultures are loosing this tradition as i am living around the chrisian community in phillipines although the people are quiet friendly here but none of them has any scope of getting married neither boys nor girls because they live as boy friends and girlfriends, they think marrige as legal doccuments that shud be made wn they have any plan of raising kids...
@asahibza (388)
• Canada
13 Jul 07
I think marriage is the norm. It is necessary from many points of view.
Though life is short, even this may become boring and painful without a close companion, fiend or a partner. Only a spouse can be an intimate partner and true friend.
Apart from companionship and to care for each other, it is necessary for biological needs also.
