How did you react or respond the first time someone told you “shut up”?
By diannebcrs
@diannebcrs (1549)
Philippines
July 14, 2007 7:46am CST
I remembered the first time a person told me to shut up. My first reaction was shock, and then I felt humiliated and angry. This’s how it happened.
Back in grade school, the class was having a Christmas party. Then the photographer asked us to gather around for a photo-taking. Everyone was excited and made his or her own poses. My pose was to raise my hand and stuck my two fingers up as though saying “peace!”. Unfortunately, this particular classmate of mine was posing in front of me. She thought my pose was trying to put “devil” horns behind her head! She got pissed, of course, and told me “You’re so rude!” I had to laugh because she misinterpreted my pose. I tried to explain to her… “Girl, I wasn’t fooling around. I was –“ then I received a loud and angry “Shut up!” from her. I was stunned – nobody but nobody had ever spit something like that to me before. I looked around, everyone was staring at me, and I felt so humiliated and angry because I wasn’t able to say a word, just stared bewilderedly.
Wow… Is “shut up!” really that a big impact?
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4 responses
@xmichx (109)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
It does make a big impact but when you get used to it you can still blabber all you want.As for your experience I'm not shock that you was not able to react because of the shock. It's perfectly normal to get angry and humiliated that happened to me to.
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Yeah. I never really liked that memory. It was humiliating. But now, whenever someone tells me to shut up, I tell the "you shut up.." Well, unless that person is older than me, I'll be quiet.
Thanks for the response.
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@rohitdinho (189)
• India
14 Jul 07
yeah..shut up does hurt..quite a lot..probably the basic reason behind dis is dat it often puts a full stop to a conversation..wid u on d losing end..or it is often seen as a sign dat d opponent isnt interested in fightin wid u but is disgusted wid ya.!!
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
good analysis. thanks for the response. :)
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@kelly60 (4546)
• United States
16 Aug 07
It has been a long time since the first time that I was ever told to shut up, and I guess I probably didn't take it so hard because it was just my brother or my sister and they liked to say and do things to irritate me anyway.
I would have to say that it would depend mostly on who it was that was that was telling you to shut up, and on the events that led up to the incident. I don't know how long ago this was for you, but obviously it made a big impact on you since the details are still fresh in your mind. For me, it really wasn't that big of a deal, although it did hurt my feelings every time that they said this to me.
I have always made sure that I never allowed my children to say these things to each other, of course my parents never allowed it from us either but it still happened. I don't know why we can't all just get along.
@ethereal_flower (124)
• Philippines
19 Aug 07
it's insulting to have someone shut you up like that so i'd feel internally infuriated. but it depends on the situation. certain situations, you just have to let that pass and learn to be numb and just get used to the fact that some people are just not that well-mannered. sometimes i'd take it good naturedly. sometimes i'd laugh because i apparently had hit the person's sore spot and the person had nothing else to say for himself/herself that's why he/she could only manage to tell me to shut up. for important discussions though, i would really stand my grounds and calmly and nicely point out to the person that it is rude to shut people up just because they disagree with you and then politely ask for the opportunity to finish what i was saying.
