does your husband allows you wear make up or just simply lipstick?

@Bujoyseth (1684)
Philippines
July 15, 2007 3:24am CST
well, in my case, my husband doesn't want me to wear make up.. even if i just put a little lipstick.. he hates make up. he always tells me that he want my natural beauty,without any make ups on it... i'm just only allowed to put make up but just a liitle bit, when i apply for a job, of course i have to look formal and to make my face good and not look pale... how about you? are you allowed to wear make up? how about you guys, do you allow your partner/girlfriend to wear make up?
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@missjackie (1358)
• Ypsilanti, Michigan
15 Jul 07
My boyfriend doesn't care if I have make up on or not. But, if he were to tell me not to, I wouldn't listen anyways. No man will ever tell me what to do. I don't care if he's my boyfriend or husband. I refuse to be dominated by another man.
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@martinha (631)
• Portugal
15 Jul 07
No one is supposed to be submissive, neither the man or the woman. A relationship is to share and not to make the other person do something she/he doesn't want to. How can you say women are made to be submissive? Are you for real? !!! If a typical man from Africa wants women to be submissive then I would never want a man from Africa!!
@Bren57 (37)
15 Jul 07
He must be insecure about things or he wouldn't have a problem with it. I've been in the same situation and it's "you are prettier without makeup" bull!! What about you and how you feel? Don't you feel better about yourself when you feel like you look better? explain that to him!!!
@dfollin (24163)
• United States
15 Jul 07
I agree with you,"Bull!"
• United States
16 Jul 07
In my case, my husband doesn't care if I wear makeup or not. If I want to wear it (or need to as a formality, as you said), then I wear makeup. If not, oh well. My husband tells me I'm beautiful even when I look like crap from being sick. I was trying desperately to fight this, but I can't. The word "allow" where it concerns personal relationships is abominable! Allow? I doubt that word would ever come out my husband's mouth concerning anyone other than our boys. Allow? As if! If it pleases you to respect your husband's wishes and not wear makeup, that is your choice. Some little things are not worth arguing with one's spouse. BUT, if makeup is necessary as a formality and you feel self-conscious because you aren't wearing any (to apply for a job, attend a wedding, or any other formal/semi-formal occasion), then he should respect your feelings and not give you a hard time.
• Hong Kong
17 Jul 07
I don't have a husband yet but I don't think he will not allow me to wear makeup. I have been putting on makeup and I have known guys with it, so they can't really say anything about it. Besides, if they ever say something about it, I would just tell them I love makeup as much as you like sports and cars. Usually they would just shut up right there. Well, I don't listen to anyone in this aspect as long as I am confident. It's my own choice to put on makeup or not. Luckily, my boyfriend thinks my makeup is cool *laughs* and he should have no problem with it.
@cosylvia (399)
• China
19 Jul 07
yes.my guys always told to me you dont never need any makeup still beautiful.but i still need some lipstick..if in winter some foundation makeup.in summer some sunblock and lipstock.i like the nature beautiful ..so dont like eyeshadow and so on.
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
15 Jul 07
i think putting on make up is the prerogative of a person. of course i put on make up when i have to. don't get offended but i think you should not allow your husband to dictate on you, you mean to say you only fix yourself when you apply for a job, assuming you got accepted, you'll stop making yourself presentable, because your husband does not like you to put on make up. sure being natural is ok but once in a while a woman wants to feel good thats why they fix themselves and feel good about it.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
but i think, i look good and presentable even without make up.. coz i'm used to not wear make up when we're still dating and when i didn't met him yet.. and i don't let him dictate me what i'm gonna do. all he wants is for me to wear make up in the right time, in the right place... and i don't see something wrong about my husband.. well, thanks for the response and have a nice day! God bless...
@miryam (6505)
• Italy
16 Jul 07
i do what i want do...my husbad not can decide for me..... infact i'm devordced, but not for one lipstick bye myry
@Calais (10893)
• Australia
16 Jul 07
I dont wear make up only if going out formally so it really isnt an issue. But I would never let my husband tell what to and what not to wear...Thats just how we are.
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
I am not a "make-up" person too, I only used lipstick and of course a face powder everyday and that's it, however there are several occasions where in I need to put on make up and my hubby doesn't mind it at all,he also wants me to look and feel good.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
16 Jul 07
If my partner ever suggested that he decides if I should wear make-up, I'd probably start painting it on like a clown. Although it is nice to hear that my partner appreciates my 'beauty' with or without make-up, it's not his role to decide if or how much I should wear. I wouldn't demand that he cut his hair a specific length or what he should or shouldn't do with his facial hair. How a person feels about themselves & how they choose to present themselves to the world is their decision to make.
• Canada
16 Jul 07
I really have a problem with the word * allowed * ! My husband would never even think to allow me or forbid me and I would never think to say to him you are allowed or I forbid you! We do not rule over each other we love each other!
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
16 Jul 07
yup in fact he encourages me to do so but I'm too lazy usually. oops, maybe i should start doing it. but when i put on make-up i feel that i should wear contact lenses. very few people i know wear glasses these days but i do cos it's more comfortable. but how many people do you know who wear specs and still put on make-up? it's usually neither or both right?
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
My husband is not so concerned with what I put on my face. Like you, she wants my natural beauty...
@magical9 (21)
• United States
16 Jul 07
well,my husband can't tell me I cant wear makeup if i want to.If it makes you feel pretty then he should be happy.It's your body and it's your choice.You are not a child, you don't have to ask permission.Maybe, you two could compromise and you could not wear it around the house but wear it when you go out with girlfriends or something like that.
@usmcsgtwife (4997)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I wear makeup every so often, and my husband would never tell me if I could or could not. I donlt think it is right to have someone control you like that
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
15 Jul 07
I am confused- Although we aren't married- I guess you could consider it that- Been living together for 7+ years- I make the choices when it comes to my body and my life- Sure I take his input but at no point in time does he have to allow me to do anything- I don't wear much make-up- He doesn't care one way or the other- He always knows when what we are doing is special- I have make up on- I can't imagine anyone telling another they can or cant wear make-up= unless it's a parent and a young child.
@aj2006 (1534)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
My husband is my first critic as to what I look almost everyday. :) He wants me good looking at all times, sometimes, he would tell me to put on some lipstick if I only use gloss.. I believe that putting a little make -up to enhance your natural beauty is not bad at all. of course, there's a difference in putting all the foundations and mascara that will look like you a clown afterwards.. just a little make-up to enhance the looks if fine.
• United States
16 Jul 07
I wear make up if and when I want to and my husband doesn't tell me not to wear it or to wear it. I don't wear make up often though--only if I am going out with my husband or its a party or special occassion (like portraits). My husband doesn't like a lot of make up on me as he prefers me just the way I am and feels I look just as good without make up. So in my case, its a matter of whether I want to do it or not.
@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
My husband encourages me to use make-up and accessories because he wants me to look beautiful and he's so proud if somebody asks him where did he find me and if someone tells him that his wife is beautiful. I am not so much into make-up, I only use it when I'm in the mood but I maintain my fashion accessoties for my own pleasure.
@chabella1 (131)
• United States
16 Jul 07
ms bujoyseth i don't feel good about your q-tion i think your husband sounds pretty controling to me just the way you ask if we are allow that sounds like a father figure to me that is not good i hope he is just saying that because when he kiss you he don't want all that lipstick on him but other than that not good.