A child with problems
By _hope_
@_hope_ (3902)
Australia
July 15, 2007 11:05pm CST
I`m caring for a little one who i really think has a few problems .He will be two in a couple of weeks and still doesn`t speak not even mum or day .I`m really concerned and just by watching him play each day i think he has more of a problem than this.I don`t feel it`s my place to interfer with him it`s his parents job ,I have mentioned to his mum that he is very slow in not talking and that i aired my concerns. But she wasn`t interested at all .
One day i was seeing my psychologist and she even commented on him being a bit slow he was.
Now they are moving and going to live in a smaller remoter town than this one i just feel that this little fellow is going to miss out on the care he is going to need.
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5 responses
@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
16 Jul 07
You may be right to be concerned. I studied Early childhood development and worked with many children over the years 0-5. I Have come across many late bloomers and ones clearly with development problems..
Heres a little info on what a child at his age should be doing...
1½ years to 2 years Motor Ability: runs, kicks a ball, builds 6 cube tower (2yrs) Capable of bowel and bladder control.(Understands when wet etc)
Language: vocabulary of more than 200 words
Sleep: 12 hours at night, 1-2 hr nap
Temper tantrums (1-3yrs)
Resentment of new baby
Does opposite of what he is told (18 months).
Maybe you could buy her a developmental book that may help her see that her child may need some extra help (as a going away gift)or a gift for the child to help in learning and development.....
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
16 Jul 07
Thankyou pinklilly i see this child is so way behind the others i care for i`m really concerned he cant even stack two blocks and i find him very clumsy always falling over and he only grunts all the time .Thankyou for your suggestion of a development book i will definately look into it .I know what it`s like to have a child with problems and the earlier they have treatement the better .I was a childrens nurse before i married i know when a child has problems it`s not just a feeling.
I really appreciate your point
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@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
23 Jul 07
Thank you for the Best response I'm Glad that I could Help... I Hope his Mother can see and Help him too. Parents can look past these things. It may not be a Big problem but it would benefit all to seek some extra advice. I hope she will not become upset with you for being concerned.... Best of Luck:)
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
16 Jul 07
Calais i really don`t think it`s a case of the mother doesn`t care but if she was like me i knew that there was something wrong with my child ( mine was only two months old at the time )but more so if i ignored it it would be alright .I have been given a suggestion from a nother member on mylot to give the mum as a going aeway gift a development book which will give the guide lines of what is expected from a child of his age and hope that she will take some notice it`s really the only thing i can do at this stage
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
16 Jul 07
There is not much more that you can do except pray for him. You have mentioned something to his mom, hopefully she says something to the doc. Kids do develope at different rates, but being almost 2 he should be talking by now. I winder if he has a problem with hearing, that would delay talking.
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@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
19 Jul 07
Hello polly i have done quite a bit of praying for him.I have checked to see if it was his hearing that was the first thing i did ,but he responds well to both loud and soft noises when faced away from me .
The mum after seeing him here with the others has now made an appointment to get him checked out so here is hoping things work out for them and they can get the right care they need .
@BELMCstar (1341)
• Australia
17 Jul 07
Are they moving a long way away?
Can you still keep in contact with them?
Maybe they don't notice that his hearing is not the best (if that is the problem).
It can be easy to miss, and perhaps they had not noticed.
Maybe you can speak as a concerned friend, and offer to go to doctor appointments and stuff like that with them, and that way they can see you really mean what you are saying with them.
Good luck, and it is good to see caring people such as yourself in this world.
@_hope_ (3902)
• Australia
19 Jul 07
BELMCstar they are moving to a remote town in W.A but i will definately keep in contact they are such a lovely family . The mum is taking him to see a dr yeasterday she had a good chance to see him playing here with the other kiddies and asked me if there was a problem so now she will have him checked out it`s great .I just think kiddies need all the care they can get .I have looked after some really sad cases in the past and these kiddies now have a bit better time than they had before .One family really tugged at my heart both parents were so drunk when they drove to my place to pick up their kiddies ,they would come without even having baths or even propper meals .Now they are getting help and these tow little ones have a much better chance .
@mansha (6298)
• India
25 Jul 07
I have been trained to work woth slow ids but thing is many times its the parents who need counselling more than the care of the child. Many parents resist the idea that their kid might be slow so they either ignore the problem or shy away from social contacts who tell them so. I have even seen parents abandoning their kids if the child is a slow learner. thing is hope you can not do anything about the little one atleast in India , I am not sure about australia, how is child care their can you inform authorities and ask parents to go for counselling and provide care to the kid.If you can then do it.
