father figures...

@jncdavao (115)
Philippines
July 16, 2007 5:36am CST
i have two teenage kids. my daughter is 15 and my son is 13. they grew up without a father in their life... do you think somehow, they are missing that father figure? sometimes, i'm afraid to ask them.
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Let me ask you this...do they have male figures in their lives such as Uncles or older male cousins, a grandfather etc etc..Do you have male friends that you hang out with that your kids know? If yes to any of those then I have to say that no they arent missing a father figure....they have it in all those ppl....I was a single mother and the father of my two was inconsistent in their lives..I was the mother AND the father but I also have a brother, I have male friends that my kids adored and so on.... I honestly think ppl put far too much stock in the whole "male role model/female role model" thing to be honest with you....As long as kids have a DECENT SUPPORTING role model then thats all that matters IMO....gender has nothing to do with it...
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@jncdavao (115)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
as far as men in their life, they do have an uncle that lives close by and a few more whom they see only during vacations.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Don't be afraid to ask them, just do. If you are genuinely concerned that they don't have a positive male influence in their lives, find one for them. BUt they problalby do. I'm sure they spend a lot of time with their grandpa, or their uncles? If not, set up some time for them. I'm sure your daughter would love to go spend some time with her cousin and uncle, once or twice a month, and I"m sure your son would love to go fishing with Grandpa. Your family will grow together because it and i'm sure grandpa and your brother would be honored to stand in where they can. Kids do need that male influence in their lives. they always say daughters marry their fathers, and it's very true, so make sure they have a good idea about what a father should be, and little boys (and older one's to) love to emulate the men in their lives, so find someone worth them copying. It's def. not too late though.
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