My Nephew Wants To Go In The Military!!!!

My Nephew -  This is my nephew's Junior High School graduation picture.
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
July 16, 2007 1:43pm CST
Now normally, I am very supportive of my nieces and nephews. I love to hear of their dreams and I encourage them to pursue whatever they want. But, when my nephew announced to his mother and I that he wanted to go in the military, the first thing that came out of my mouth was, oh no you're not. I was glad that my sister was with me 100% on this one or else he would have witnessed my sister and I argue for the first time. He said, it looked like it would be fun. We tried our best to scare him out of it, but that just wasn't working. Finally my sister said, you got a flat foot, you can't go. Then she thanked God for giving him a flat foot like hers. He also has asthma, which I mentioned. I knew that we were being totally selfish, but I did not care. I do not want anyone that I love serving in the military.
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
17 Jul 07
Ok my question is why do you think so negitively of our military that you have to kill someone's dream of doing something honorable? Because of your fears and misconceptions you've talked someone out of a great job oppertunity and life experince. I applaud your nephew for wanting to join the military and I feel sorry for him to have a family that is so non-supportive of such a great and honorable thing.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I know exactly how you feel because my son wants to be a police officer when he becomes an adult.I really hope he changes his mind and then on the other hand a friend of mind told me realize i should be happy for him and support him if he still does want to be one.Even though he could get hurt be also will be making a difference in the world.but honestly he is only 11 years old so i hope he really does change his mind but if not im not going to talk him out of it.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
16 Jul 07
Age does not matter. When a child decides that they want to do something, they go for it. Star Jones, decided that she wanted to be a lawyer when she was four years old. Raven Symone was younger than that when she told her parents that she could do what Rudy was doing. It's a tough call for any parent to make. I mean, it is not like they are saying that they want to grow up to be cat burglars or anything criminal. What they want is good, it just comes with so many risk.
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@disvachic (10120)
• United States
17 Jul 07
yep thats why i wont be talking him out it and let him go for it.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I think it is very noble of him wanting to go into the military..The first thing that comes to mind when anyone says military is the Iraq war, and soldiers being killed..We must remember that not everyone goes into combat..He can choose to stay on base and pursue a career there..You are being selfish, but I can totally understand why..I am not sure what keeps you from joining like a flat foot or asthma, but he should at least give it a try..He has to understand that there is hard work and dedication involved in the military..Just remember the military doesn't mean combat..At least let him check into it, and let him make up his own mind..
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
16 Jul 07
I understand what you are saying and I know that I am not being reasonable. But, my family has lost more than our fair share of members early and it has caused me significant emotional problems. I am sure that it has affected his mom in a significant way also. I could not sleep at night or function during the day, knowing that he was in danger. He thinks that being in active duty is the fun part, but I can not agree with him. Ultimately, it will be his choice, but I will do nothing to encourage him to go in that direction. I am sure that if he was able to sign up and they needed to draft people, they would go after him, before civilians.
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16 Jul 07
I am ex military myself. I can understand where you are coming from with the current conflicts taking place in the world, but I have to say that the military is a great career choice. The young uns learn discipline, manners and skills that will last them through life. Also they get to see the world. Something he might not be able to do very easly if he was stuck in a factory. I think trying to scare him probably is a mistake which will only make him dig in further with his resolve to sign up. Try seeing if there is a military display taking place near you and you and your sister should go along with him. Talk to the guys there and see where things go from there. Another thing is has he considered what he wants to do in the military. There is a huge range of career paths he can take.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
16 Jul 07
He is a straight "A" student, so he wont end up in a factory anywhere. He is already well mannered and disciplined. His parents made sure of that. He is a triplet. Once when I went over to visit, all three of them were there, but I never saw the third one. She was doing her homework and they know that nothing comes before that. Their parents have done an excellent job with them.
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@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Wow, God does work in mysterious ways. Who knew someday your sis would be thanking him for her son having flat feet. I am so glad for your family he is not going into the military. I have 3 cousins in the military. Two of them just went in, the are still in basic training. Of course they were promised the moon, and I am sure they didn't read the small print. It just worries me that after basic they will be shipped off to Iraq. You have every right to be selfish, I would feel the same way if it was my son or nephew.
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I probably would of acted the same way too. With what is happening with the war in Iraq and such, I would not want my son to be part of that.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
17 Jul 07
My nephew has wanted to go in to the Army for as long as I could remember. While I admit that it scares me to think what could happen I fully support his final decision. We have taken the time to speak about this subject to make sure it is really what he wants to do. I have even went as far as to show him that he has several different options as to what he can do with his future. As many have said before me the final decision is his to make.
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
17 Jul 07
your right in your thinking! i agree wholeheartedly. of course being a mom of 2 sons, i worry that they too, would go off to the military, or get drafted or something,. but we would have no military if every mom said their sons could not go. no mom wants to see their child injured or killed., but they could just as easily get killed in a car accident or something else. i think we should all give more praise to these young men, and thier families. they are soon forgotton by the rest of us, after something bad has happened to them.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Jul 07
I don't understand how you can say that they can get killed just as easily as doing anything else. They are purposely signing up to go shoot at people and have people shoot at them.
@dstrent (112)
• United States
10 Feb 08
I must ask you why do you not want someone you love in the military? I can understand some of your reasons probably. I'm not downing you for this at all. Everyone has their outlooks on things. I'll give him the fact that yes it is fun being in the military. I have been a Marine for over 9 years now and I have not regretted one single day of it. It was the best decision that I have ever made. I have seen the world for free, I have done things that noone else can say that they ever have or will do. On another side of it, I have been to war twice and that does have its fun times as well but you live with a lot of it the rest of your life. I just ask you why you dont want him being in if he could be?
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
10 Feb 08
Because he is my nephew and I love him and I do not want anything to happen to him. There are already enough ways to die in this world. War is hell. You yourself that there are a lot of things that you have to deal with for the rest of your life. Well, I already know what some of those things are. I have Post-Tramatic Stress Disorder and I know that going to war can give you a mor severe form of it. I do not think that there is anything fun about being shot at and having people shoot at you. There are too many other positive things for him to do with his life. Now he is saying he wants to be a doctor, hopefully he will go straight from High School to college. He is a triplet and has two sisters who would not want him to go. All three of them are on the principal's honor every semester, so they all qualify for scholarships. They can make it without the militaries help.
@HighReed1 (1126)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Did you know there are tech jobs in the military that would keep the soldier 'in the rear with the gear'? Or he could go into an MOS that wouldn't require he go to war at all. Like JAG (the legal department). Flat feet won't keep you out of the military. My son has flat feet and he passed the physical fine. Just because they go in the military doesn't mean they will go to war. My son joined just to go to war. He hasn't been deployed yet. It's been over a year. He's disappointed. I understand where you're coming from. I worry constantly about my son. It's not a decision we can make for them. If that is really where they want to be, they'll join. I desperately wanted to tell my son no. It would have just made him feel bad about joining. I wasn't going to let my son have negative vibes from home just because I was scared. If he really insists on joining, point him towards the careers that don't require going to combat. He'll still get to do a needed job, but he won't be getting shot at.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
11 Nov 07
I completely understand what you are saying. They will do it if they really want to and it will make it a lot better if we are behind them. He, like your son, wants to fight. I just pray that he has changed his mind by now. In two more years, he will be seventeen and war is hell.
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@callarse1 (4786)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I a reading about going into the military. There are a lot of people that go into the military, perhaps he wants to go in there because of the benefits, did you ask him why? No, I think flat feet people can still go into the military, even with asthma, too. However, I bet you are praying to God that he doesn't go because "war is hell", and I don't think you would want him to get into that. However, each person is free to make his/her own decision, let's pray that he makes a good one. Pablo
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Jul 07
He says that he wants to go because he thinks that it will be fun. We were trying to let him know that it is not fun. I guess he sees the teamwork and hanging out and all of that, but he doesn't understand the seriousness of it.
@molusk (857)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
If your nephew wants to be in the military to serve his country then why prevent him from doing so ? Don't you think it would be nice that your nephew is now one of those few people who cares for their country ? I would take my hats off to your nephew's desire of serving his life to the defense of his country. Cheers for young men like him.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Jul 07
I can't not see him dying or even fighting in a war, much less one that does have any rhyme or reason. I hate war, I always have and I always will.
@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
17 Jul 07
The good guys win only sometimes in real. I suppose you speak about the US military. In fact I can not even imagine why a young boy want to serve that liar goverment. I do not know how people see the US, and US MIlitary in the US, but outside of the USA all the nations has very bad opinion about that US does with other countries. I have an objective point of view, and what I see is very bad. TO serve a good goverment is a good passion, but to serve a goverment which loves the war, and spend such huge amounts for the war is a mistake. Your nephew should find some better passion of his life....
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Jul 07
As much as I hate to admit it, I totally agree with you. This war does not make any sense to me and a lot of Americans feel the same as I do. I will be glad when it is all over. I am so tired of hearing about people dying.
• United States
17 Jul 07
I bet this is the first time you were glad he has asthma.I wouldn't want any loved one to go into the military.i hope your nephew finds something else he wants to do. Take Care.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
17 Jul 07
Thank you very much. I hope he finds something else to get interested about too. God bless you.
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• United States
17 Jul 07
Just because he would go into the military dose not mean he would go to war. I do not know what qualifies men and women for the military in regards to their health issue anymore. I think you need to check that out. I would not want my son to go into the military now in our time of war, but if he decided to go I would not stop him. I would back him up. I would find out excally why he wanted to go into the military. Good luck
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I see where you're coming from. i don't have any children but I hate to see people going off to war. I am very proud and appreciative of our military but its still scary to think that some won't make it back home. I wish the best for your nephew in whatever he does. He is a very nice and pleasant looking young man if that is his pic. I'm sure he will do well in whatever path he chooses.
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