How long after being together should you get married?

I'd rather say there is no definite timeline in getting married. They say that you would just feel when it is already a time for marriage. It might be a week, a month, or a year after going steady. It doesn't really matter actually. What's important is you have trust for each other, and you understand each other. Just don't go into haste when the decision is to marry someone.

I was "dating" my husband for only 4 months when we were married. We had known each other for about a year, but we had only dated for the four months. See, I can't get over Dr Phil sometimes. I think that it depends on the relationship and the couple involved. I don' tthink there are "guidelines" it all depends on how you feel and when you believe the time is "right"

I am no fool & can clearly see the sensitivity of this topic. So, I will proceed to answer with caution. First off, I’m one that does not let society dictate to me when something should or shouldn’t take place in my life. I feel that the decision should be a mutual one between the couple. If one is ready to move forward & take that next step and the other is not, then a conversation should take place on how to proceed. It might just be a few things that need to be worked out & discussed to get the both of you on the same page. It’s always important to give your partner the benefit of the doubt, after all marriage is not a game, like people tend to make it out to be.

I guess it depends on if the couple is ready or not... Although I think some people are scared of the committment and will always suggest that they are not ready. I was married within a year of being with my husband. But I think it was just good timing. We both had always said that we wanted to be married by thirty..

i never had girl partner but hope that one day to marry for offspring. i want to marry when right and save money to buy bride. i would like 12 children.

Getting married is a situation where the coupple would feel the same for each other and settle things for them for a longer time.. It should not involve a time frame really coz you will both feel when it's time.. maybe a year after the proposal is enough.. for me, Long years of relationship first before settling into marriage, maybe 4 to 5 years.. just enough to make a decision and making sure it's the right one for you.. Don't rush things up, wait for the right time coz it will surely come.. But if your both sure, go for it.. does'nt matter anyway, just be responsible enough for all of your actions... Its better to be sure rather than ending up worst and getting into annulment...

I think a year could be long enough, but anything less than that is a little fast. My man and I dated 2 years and got engaged and got married a year later. I thought that was perfect. I never lived with him before we got married but that was my personal choice. But every relationship is different. I'm surprised Dr Phil says 18 months!

It really depends on the two people involved. My husband and I were engaged after the first year we met and got married a year later (once we saved enough to get married). With us living together before getting engaged helped us get to know each other a lot more better, our habits and such.

I dont think marriage is something that should be rushed or givin a time frame of when it has to be done. I have been with my guy for 6 years, He has givin me a ring and I do wear it on my finger but we have not talked about marriage because thats not something were worried about right now in our lives. Too often people rush into marriage without thinking that marriage is for better or worse and usually when the worse times come around one partner is ready to bail out. So I do think when BOTH people involved in the relationship feel its right (because we can feel it) then its time to discuss marriage BUT dont let anyone talk you into it because there NOT the one in the relationship..you and your man are.

hmm, i don't think i can really say how long. It's really depend on how both part feel, and also the situation and condition that they have. Exactly, when you feel right, just go with it! Why wait? Right person and right time might not come around again...LOL

I suggest you should be married already. You know him already. You have been with him for 3 years and that's a long time. If everything is ready, then be married. If you are financially stable, then go and be married.

i think everybody is too much occupied with marriage issue. i am glad that in our country the necessity of weddings is dropping. so couples live together for many years or even a lifetime without being married. no obligations and so, the wish to get married sprangs more naturally it is not time-limited.

It does take a while to fully get to know someone to decide if your compatible for life. A year should be plenty of time to figure things out, and if you're not satisfied with the person by then or if you don't know if you should get married at that time, then you probably shouldn't. I'd suggest moving in with the person first, this way you can get to know all of their secrets and then decide.

I dont think a year is too little - however, I think that you need to be with them longer to know them properly and certainly if you are going to marry someone you have known them for a year, you should definitely have lived with them for most of it. Ive been with my partner for nine years, been engaged one year and lived with him for 4 years

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. People get married at different times. I know of people who have had successful weddings after only having known eachother a couple of weeks, and I know of others whose marriages failed after they'd dated for three years!!!!

I used to think that if it was meant to be you would know within a year of dating one another. However, I've had two serious relationships in the past seven years and one lasted about a little over two years and the other lasted almost four. I realized that both of those guys were not the ones for me. So now I ask myself, why didn't I see it before?? If I find the guy that I'm supposed to marry then I think we'll end up engaged before our two year anniversary. I'm one who doesn't think long engagements are worth it, so I could see me and my guy being married before our three year anniversary!

I have been with my partner for 11 years and we haven't gotten married. I don't think marriage should has an expiry date. When the time is right then it will happen. Considering 50% of marriages are ending up in divorce I don't think that whatever the average time frame is right now is working.