What is the best bit of advice you've gotten from your mother?

United States
July 17, 2007 6:26am CST
I'm in the process of "launching" three teens and I've been thinking about the most helpful things my mom told me during this time in my life. I've got tons of respect for her, now that I'm in the same position-it's tough to only give advice when asked to your adult children! But if I get the opportunity, I want to make those pearls of wisdom really count for something. What do you remember from your mom? What was the best thing she told you or advised you to do when you were a young adult?
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
17 Jul 07
Well, I have gotten many good bits of advice from my mom. One, always make sure you have clean undies on hahaha! Two, be careful who you trust, sometimes your best friends are your worst enemies. Another good bit of advice was to take 10% out of your paycheck and put it away and never look back. I recently started doing that and as small as the 10% is I do'nt look back and I always have a little bit for a rainy day. Ah, lets see....always pay your bills before you go have fun but never pass up a good sale. When in love and your heart has doubts don't jump in head first. Take your time to figure out why you have doubts, most often there is a reason.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Yes, it is a great idea and no problem about the reminder hahaha! We all need one every once in awhile.
• United States
17 Jul 07
The 10% savings seems like a great idea! I've done that off and on, and have been really happy with the results. Thanks for sharing (and the reminder!).
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• South Korea
17 Jul 07
Wow...where do I begin? My mother still gives me so much valuable advice on a daily basis. But, one of the ones I keep with me is to not let others dictate my behavior. Even when I'm dealing with someone who is less than genorous, or honest, or virtuous, etc. etc. I always remember that it's my choice to deal with them or not but I have to continue to be my own person. As oppose to allowing their negative energy to change mine.
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• United States
17 Jul 07
So glad to hear that you and your mom are so close! This is really good advice, too-it will be really helpful for the girls when they are faced with peer pressure situations.
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@gloria777 (1674)
• India
18 Jul 07
My mother gives many advices when I spend time with her. But the most important is "Be humble to everybody. God will raise you up".
@mageshis (183)
• India
18 Jul 07
The only advise my mother gave me is dont expect others to help you, Stand on your own , be satisfied with your belongings.
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
when we were growing up our mother would always tell us to be fair and honest in everything we do.
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• United States
17 Jul 07
I think that bit of advice would take a person a long, long ways. Thanks!
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
My mother used to tell me that we may not be as rich as our other relatives, but we have our pride and dignity. We never asked our relatives for financial help because my parents, especially my mom did everything they can to support me and my siblings. They gave our basic needs even when money was tight. She always reminded us that the greatest treasure that my father and her can give us is the knowledge that they have raised us to be independent and proud of where we came from. That wealth does not define a person but how he shows the world on how he became to be the person that he is now.
• Canada
18 Jul 07
I recently told my mother about my engagement. She was shocked at first, and gave me some trouble, but in the end she decided that as long as I was happy AND he was treating me right, she'd support me. That is one of the best things my mother could have ever done for me.
• United States
18 Jul 07
Well this is not exactly from my mother, its from one of my friends that just graduated this year. This is probably the best piece of advise I've ever received. "Life's hard, but its harder if your stupid". He was valedictorian of the class.
@tdl617 (34)
• United States
18 Jul 07
the whole advise thing is very difficult. teens especially dont want to sit and listen to the parents babble on and on. i know i didnt. i dont have teens yet, but the best thing to do is talk to them, not at them. tell them about things, even embarrising things, that you went through growing up. share your love stories, sad stories, and they will learn. they will still make their own mistakes, just like you. but they will learn from your past.