Update to: My daughter is hurting and I am hurting for her (Ladies only please)
By SheliaLee
@SheliaLee (2736)
United States
July 17, 2007 7:06am CST
First of all I want to thank all of you who responded to the first discussion I started. I have a few more responses that I need to get to and I will but I want to thank you so much for your support and friendship. You are all dear to me.
Yesterday we went to courthouse and Amanda got her copy of the police report. We went back in the afternoon to see the investigator who showed her a picture of the man so that she could identify him. He asked her if she wanted to press charges and she assured him that she did. We went to the District Attorney's office and got two warrants issued, one for indecent exposure and one for harrassment. They told us that since he lives in a nearby county that it may take a little longer for the warrants to be served. They will issue him a court date to appear and say he did it or deny it. We feel, of course, that he will deny it. If this does happen he will be given a day to appear in court again and Amanda and a witness from the flea market will also be subpoened (I'm not sure if I spelled that correctly or not) to appear in court where they will both have to testify. They said all in all in could possibly take two to five months for all this to take place.
So now Amanda has to wait. I told her that she is going to have to keep herself busy to help keep from thinking about it. Again, I ask you all to please keep praying for her that she can keep herself together. She is 20 years old. Some of you had asked me her age. She will be starting another year of college in a few weeks so that will help to keep her occupied too.
God Bless All of you and thank you again so much for your outpouring of love and support.
Love,
SheliaLee
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10 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
17 Jul 07
Good for you SheliaLee and your daughter. It needs to be done and he needs to be stopped. You are both in my prayers *hugs*
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 Jul 07
Sweetie she will be in my thoughts all the time I know how hard this is for her and I want to say stay strong and see it through
I never took it further I should have done but first time I was only 5 and second time I was 15 and threatened
I have to live with that and come to terms with it I had no one to fall back to
I am not going to say here what happened but please tell her to stay strong very strong and see it through do not let him get to her in any way or form
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Oh dear SheliaLee I've not been keeping up with much of anything online the last few weeks and didn't know about any of this until just now - I did go back and read your earlier report.
How horrible for your daughter to go through this I can only imagine the sorrow you are both feeling. I will certainly keep this situation in my prayers particularly that this man who has to be very sick to do something like this will get some punishment and mental help he needs.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I am so glad that she went to the courthouse and want to press charges.I know that she has to wait for the court date sure wish they would change the rules around some. I am prayer for her and I know it will be hard for her not to think about it. Thanks for the updates.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
18 Jul 07
I saw this post, then went to your site and read the first one. First of all let me express my dismay that your daughter and your whole family are having to through this. My wishes for light through this dark, distressing time are with you and yours.
I am not sure what types of services are available for your daughter in your area. Are there any women's support groups run through local shelters? I am sure this was, and continues to be a very traumatic experience for all of you, especially for your daughter. Sometimes having an advocacy group on you side can help the justice system take things seriously.
Whatever the outcome your daughter is a brave young girl and I hope she will come through this feeling that she had the confidence to confront him rather than be intimidated. During the waiting time it might be useful for Amanda too speak to a counsellor about how this has impacted on her and her feelings of emotional safety. I am a life coach and volunteer at a women's shelter and emotional safety is something that has to be re-instated after any mind-altering event and that is something we all know for sure.
Whatever the outcome I am sure the love, support and encouragement you are providing for her will undoubtedly help her. Obviously you have a another level of support from all the caring, compassionate responses from your on-line community of Mylotters.
@shambuca (2524)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I just went through the same thing (meeting with an investigator- making a statement- waiting for the arrest) about a month ago when this woman stole my money-- it didn't take that long about a month or so before we had to go to court, of course this woman never showed up in court so now they have a warrant out for her arrest.
But anyway- I'm wondering if there is a way to ask around the flea market to see if anyone else had this happen to them....maybe you can speak with the investigator and see what they say, sad to say but another victim might make the difference. If your daughter is still having issues- she may want to talk to someone, is she covered under insurance so that maybe she could someone, I wish her the best of luck!
@AmbiePam (85464)
• United States
17 Jul 07
I'm very relieved to hear that things are going as smoothly as they possible can in this matter. A lot of women don't want to press charges, and I admire Amanda for having the courage to take a stand. Behavior like this doesn't go away, it progresses. Amanda may very well be trying to put in jail a potential rapist.
@66jerseygirl (3877)
• United States
17 Jul 07
your are quite welcome.I know that must have been very traumatic for her.I am glad that ball has started to roll and soon hopefully he will be behind bars.I will continue to pray for her
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I meant to respond to your first discussion about your daughter's experience...What a horrible thing to happen first of all, and now the whole incident has to be dragged out for anywhere from two to five months..yeesh, that is even worse. What is it with these perverts in our society anyway..I just heard on the news last night how a 4-1/2 year old girl not far from me was sexually assaulted...four and a half years old...can you imagine that? And this isn't the first incident either, they suspect it's the same person who did this to another little girl some months ago They still haven't caught the piece of trash either.
My prayers go to both you and your daughter --I hope she can put this incident behind her as soon as possible
