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Do you think a man should get custody of his kids if he kills his wife?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
July 17, 2007 7:06am CST
While I can't imagine that a convict would be able to take care of kids while behind bars, there are cases where a man accused of killing his spouse still has custody of the children during the murder trial. And, I was wondering if you think this is a very safe thing for the kids. Do you think that a man who killed his spouse would be more likely to harm his children as well? What's your view on this?
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15 responses
@loopylou2406 (382)
•
17 Jul 07
i think if its decided that the kids have to live with the man after he has killed there mother its RIDICULOUS and STUPID, whos to say one day the kids wont remind him of his late wife and he kills them!!!!, and the kids..when they get older and find out he killed their mother, i dont think its healthy behaviour at all!!
He obviously is not in a stable mind to be going around killing his wifem whos to say when he will snap next, i say leave the kids with a family member that is in complete control of themselves or if there is no one put them in care!!
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 Jul 07
That is exactly what I was thinking! It is such a scary situation. I shudder to think of the possibilities. I would definitely pray for the well being of those children as I could not see how a violent man would be capable of children. And, you are so right, if someone murders another person haven't they already proven they are unfit to parent?
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
21 Jul 07
Well he would more then likely not hurt the Kids but no I do not agree that he should have custody until he is proven Innocent
As far as I am concerned the Kids should be going to Family until it is all over, they have just lost their Mum and should not have to go through all this as well
@maean_19 (4656)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
A person accused of something like murder is presumed innocent unless proven guilty with said crime. If evidence is strong that the husband is the murderer, in my opinion, it is not safe for the kids to stay with their father.
Since, your term stated that he was an accused, meaning, no conviction yet. Therefore, custody still belongs to him, but if it is very clear on the face that he is, perhaps, the court would decide custody to the nexrest relative.
@coolseeds (3919)
• United States
18 Jul 07
In America you are supposed to be innocent until proven guilty. However it looks like a lot of Americans don't care until THEY are the accused.
The law is set up that way. If a father who killed the mother was going to hurt the children he would be much more likely to have done it when he killed the mother. Otherwise statistics say the children should be safe.
If anyone's wife comes up murdered the 1st suspect is the husband. Regardless of who did it.
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@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
17 Jul 07
If it has been proven that he killed his wife then there is no way he should have custody. In fact, because of the serious nature of the issue, the kids should probably be cared for by relatives with the man getting supervised visitation rights until the trial decides if he is guilty or not. If it turns out that he is indeed guilty, then he should not be allowed any further access whil the children are under the age of majority. If he is proven innocent then the kids should go back and live with him full time.
My two cents...
cheers,
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I was thinking something similar. Cause most times when a Dad is accused of murder and released on bail, then the kids or teens are still in the house with him. There was a man, who was a professor and he was accused of killing his teenager kid's mom. And, two of the kids believed that he was innocent, but that was because the woman was their step-mother and not real mother. But, the murdered woman's real-life teen daughter believed that her Dad had done the murder and it caused a big rift in the family. The two half sisters kept trying to convince the other sister that she was crazy and shouldn't say bad things about their Dad. And turns out the man had murdered his first wife in Germany! Can you believe that? He had murdered her and then came to America to start over. And, he had another family and did the very same thing to his second wife. Later he was proven guilty. But, the three girls from the family still are estranged from each other. It's so sad when stuff like that happens cause it puts the kids in the middle of the ultimate fight and then they start taking sides.
@hardworkingmom (1130)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Heck NO, I would have a trust issue. If he killed the mother of his kids what would make me think he won't kill again. (you know how some person think) god forbid if one of the kids look just like her, what if his mind just snap and he start imagining things and try to hurt the kids.
Plus if he's convict and behind bars he won't be able to take care of nobody eapsecially no kids he have to worry about other things.
BUT NO THAT MAN SHOULDN'T HAVE THE RIGHT TO GET CUSTODY OF KIDS not even a pet
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
In my own personal opinion NO, It wouldn't be good for the children, and I think the father (killer) would not be capable of rearing those kids.
I even think that a man who left his wife for another woman should be allowed to take care of his kids with that ex-wife.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Oh I don't think so, why should he have custody if he killed their mother? he might snap and turn around and kill them. I don't know the details behind the killing and what caused him to do this, but I would not think he was mentally capable of taking care of them.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
18 Jul 07
Personally, I think it would not be wise for him to get custody of the kids unless he has full family support to take care of the kids. Even while he is in jail for the murder sentence, the kids will require someone to take care. So I would think it is best the kids are in the custody of his family members or in a social home until he is certified fit to take care of his kids.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
18 Jul 07
Not if he did it on purpose or if it was an act of rage! No way!
@DanaMark (807)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I think if someone has murdered his spouse, he has forfeited the right to be a parent. Anyone who has that little consideration for life can't be a good parent. Behind bars or not, a murderer should not be given custody of his children. That, I believe, is a mockery of justice.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I would like to think that something like this would not be allowed to happen but I'm sure it does. First of all he is only accused and until he is found guilty perhaps there is nothing that can be done. On the flip side of this, you have to think of the kids who just lost their mom and the man who just lost his wife. If in fact he is innocent, would it be fair & humane to break the family up when they are already suffering so much?
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
18 Jul 07
If a man kills his wife, he should not have custody of his children.
